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My husband passed away last night

Superfly said:
I lost my best friend last night.

He never got well enough to leave the hospital / rehab.

Passed last night.

Thanks to all for prayers and well-wishes.
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this is my first time seeing this. I am so sorry Superfly, it is very hard to lose someone significant in your life. It is still fresh I am sure...I am praying you find peace.
 
ClaraD said:
this is my first time seeing this. I am so sorry Superfly, it is very hard to lose someone significant in your life. It is still fresh I am sure...I am praying you find peace.
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Thank you, and yes it’s still very raw. Started crying in Target today. :/ Tough time of year especially to lose someone who looked just like Santa Claus, and played him most every year.
 
Superfly said:
Thank you, and yes it’s still very raw. Started crying in Target today. :/ Tough time of year especially to lose someone who looked just like Santa Claus, and played him most every year.
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Indeed. I'm having a rough time too. I can sympathize with the breaking in the middle of the store.
 
ClaraD said:
Indeed. I'm having a rough time too. I can sympathize with the breaking in the middle of the store.
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Did you lose someone recently? Well - recently doesn’t matter. My mom still grieves over my father and he’s been gone 9 years.
 
Superfly, thinking of you during this Christmas season. Wishing you peace and love now and in the new year and sending warm thoughts your way...hugs. :peace


In The Light



A shadow of joy flickered; it is me.

I told you I wouldn't leave.

My memories, my thoughts are embedded deep in your heart.

I still love you.

Do not for one moment think that you have been abandoned.

I am in the Light.



In the corner, in the hall, the car, the yard ~

these are the places I stay with you.

My spirit rises every time you pray for me,

but my energy comes closer to you.

Love does not diminish; it grows stronger.

I am the feather that finds you in the yard,

the dimmed light that grows brighter in your mind,

I place our memories for you to see.

We lived in our special way,

a way that now has its focus changed.

I still crave your understanding

and long for the many words of prayer

and good fortune for my soul.

I am in the Light.



As you struggle to adjust without me,

I watch silently.

Sometimes I summon up all the strength of my new world

to make you notice me.

Impressed by your grief,

I try to impress my love deeper into your consciousness.

As you should, I call out to the Heavens for help.

You should know that the fountain of youth does exist.

My soul is now healthy.

Your love sends me new found energy.

I am adjusting to this new world.

I am with you and I am in the Light.



Please don't feel bad that you can't see me.

I am with you wherever you go.

I protect you,

just as you protected me so many times.

Talk to me and somehow I will find a way to answer you.

Mother, Father, son or daughter, it makes no difference.

Brother, sister, lover, husband or wife, it makes no difference.

Whatever our connection ~ friend or even foe ~ I see you with my new eyes.

I am learning to help wherever you are, wherever I am needed.

This can be done because I am in the Light.



When you feel despair, reach out to me. I will come.

My love for you truly does transcend from Heaven to Earth.

Finish your life with the enthusiasm and zest that you had

when we were together in the physical sense.

You owe this to me, but more importantly,

you owe it to yourself.

Life continues for both of us.

I am with you because I love you

and I am in the Light.


-- Author Unknown
 
Deepest sympathy for your loss
 
Old 'N Chill said:
Superfly, thinking of you during this Christmas season. Wishing you peace and love now and in the new year and sending warm thoughts your way...hugs. :peace


In The Light



A shadow of joy flickered; it is me.

I told you I wouldn't leave.

My memories, my thoughts are embedded deep in your heart.

I still love you.

Do not for one moment think that you have been abandoned.

I am in the Light.



In the corner, in the hall, the car, the yard ~

these are the places I stay with you.

My spirit rises every time you pray for me,

but my energy comes closer to you.

Love does not diminish; it grows stronger.

I am the feather that finds you in the yard,

the dimmed light that grows brighter in your mind,

I place our memories for you to see.

We lived in our special way,

a way that now has its focus changed.

I still crave your understanding

and long for the many words of prayer

and good fortune for my soul.

I am in the Light.



As you struggle to adjust without me,

I watch silently.

Sometimes I summon up all the strength of my new world

to make you notice me.

Impressed by your grief,

I try to impress my love deeper into your consciousness.

As you should, I call out to the Heavens for help.

You should know that the fountain of youth does exist.

My soul is now healthy.

Your love sends me new found energy.

I am adjusting to this new world.

I am with you and I am in the Light.



Please don't feel bad that you can't see me.

I am with you wherever you go.

I protect you,

just as you protected me so many times.

Talk to me and somehow I will find a way to answer you.

Mother, Father, son or daughter, it makes no difference.

Brother, sister, lover, husband or wife, it makes no difference.

Whatever our connection ~ friend or even foe ~ I see you with my new eyes.

I am learning to help wherever you are, wherever I am needed.

This can be done because I am in the Light.



When you feel despair, reach out to me. I will come.

My love for you truly does transcend from Heaven to Earth.

Finish your life with the enthusiasm and zest that you had

when we were together in the physical sense.

You owe this to me, but more importantly,

you owe it to yourself.

Life continues for both of us.

I am with you because I love you

and I am in the Light.


-- Author Unknown
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I don’t have the right words to thank you for that. A simple thank you does not seem enough, but it’s the best I have.

Thank you. Thank you. That was beautiful.

I will read this to my daughters on Christmas.
 
Superfly said:
I don’t have the right words to thank you for that. A simple thank you does not seem enough, but it’s the best I have.

Thank you. Thank you. That was beautiful.

I will read this to my daughters on Christmas.
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You're very welcome my friend. Also wishing your daughters a peaceful holiday season and lots of love and joy in the new year.
 
Superfly said:
Did you lose someone recently? Well - recently doesn’t matter. My mom still grieves over my father and he’s been gone 9 years.
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It's been 14 years since the passing of my first wife. I mourn her passing everyday. I've moved on, remarried. My new wife lost her first husband 13 years ago. She mourns his passing everyday. We both do out best to celebrate the lives of our former spouses. It is hard. New love doesn't replace older love, but it does add to it.
 
OldFatGuy said:
It's been 14 years since the passing of my first wife. I mourn her passing everyday. I've moved on, remarried. My new wife lost her first husband 13 years ago. She mourns his passing everyday. We both do out best to celebrate the lives of our former spouses. It is hard. New love doesn't replace older love, but it does add to it.
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I’m glad you and she were able to move on.
 
OldFatGuy said:
It's been 14 years since the passing of my first wife. I mourn her passing everyday. I've moved on, remarried. My new wife lost her first husband 13 years ago. She mourns his passing everyday. We both do out best to celebrate the lives of our former spouses. It is hard. New love doesn't replace older love, but it does add to it.
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Yes. There are no replacements or substitutions. Bereaved parents who've lost young children are frequently told, "Oh, thank goodness you can have others"...as if children are interchangeable parts. :roll:

You have to learn to move forward without denying the loss. You have to go through the grief process--not around or under or over, and this takes time. Life does go on, but it's different forever. The holidays are bittersweet for so many and especially hard for the newly bereaved.

One step forward and sometimes two steps back at first, but every day carries the promise that tomorrow will be a good day.
 
Superfly said:
I’m glad you and she were able to move on.
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For both of us the motivation was children and grandchildren. Life continues and they give good reasons to move on in the space time continuum. And it was children and grandchildren which brought us together. Family is everything for both of us.

Thanks.
 
nota bene said:
Yes. There are no replacements or substitutions. Bereaved parents who've lost young children are frequently told, "Oh, thank goodness you can have others"...as if children are interchangeable parts. :roll:

You have to learn to move forward without denying the loss. You have to go through the grief process--not around or under or over, and this takes time. Life does go on, but it's different forever. The holidays are bittersweet for so many and especially hard for the newly bereaved.

One step forward and sometimes two steps back at first, but every day carries the promise that tomorrow will be a good day.
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If not a good day, perhaps a less painful day. The Buddhists say "Life is suffering," then giggle and walk away.

I can't think of anything worse than burying a child.
 
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