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NeverTrump

NeverTrump

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I feel like this is the most genuine relationship I have ever had and we didn't even go on our first date yet. Before Christmas she walked into our meeting with the sexiest outfit ever I ever saw and she looked drop dead gorgeous. I couldn't stop staring at her and after the meeting I ran downstairs to her office in order to tell her that she looked gorgeous. Ever since that day we have been flirting on and off and I was trying to find out information about her, she was showing off pictures of her latest dress shopping sprees to me etc... We both hinted about our boring/lonely lives enough times and she kept calling me cute/sweet for me to get the hint.

Yesterday was valentines day, and I noticed her office was a little bare, I Knew then 100% she was single and then we both complained about being single. So today I decided to ask her out since we both have off on Monday and made a date go to top golf (a high tech millennial driving range). Her co-worker in the office next to her was sick since yesterday so it was the perfect time to escalate on the DL. All day I thought about asking her and was trying to figure out if today was the best time to do so. As I was going to practice top golf for my monday night league anyway and I didn't want to do it by myself. I couldn't find a more perfect time in the immediate future. I know I'm gonna be working on a little project with her at work later, but that's fine. And I'm planning on leaving the company soon anyway. Plus she's head of HR. What's she gonna do? Report herself?

In my generation it's hard to connect with people my age because lots of people suck at making plans, being on time for things, and just having genuine courtesy in this superficial dating world. I've been strung along, used for free meals, ghosted on, told they were "too busy to meet," and used for sex and been told too ugly for sex too! In the age of dating apps and sloppy bar hookups it was just so nice to find someone who was as lonely and eager as I was to go do something on a holiday weekend. The way we connected when I finally asked her out was spark-y. She quickly gave me her number and her eyes danced with excitement as she beamed at the thought.

Yeah like an idiot it took me two months to work up the courage missing major holidays, but if first date goes well Monday I will likely have a gf on my 30th birthday, which is more than I can say for the others...
 
NeverTrump said:
I feel like this is the most genuine relationship I have ever had and we didn't even go on our first date yet. Before Christmas she walked into our meeting with the sexiest outfit ever I ever saw and she looked drop dead gorgeous. I couldn't stop staring at her and after the meeting I ran downstairs to her office in order to tell her that she looked gorgeous. Ever since that day we have been flirting on and off and I was trying to find out information about her, she was showing off pictures of her latest dress shopping sprees to me etc... We both hinted about our boring/lonely lives enough times and she kept calling me cute/sweet for me to get the hint.

Yesterday was valentines day, and I noticed her office was a little bare, I Knew then 100% she was single and then we both complained about being single. So today I decided to ask her out since we both have off on Monday and made a date go to top golf (a high tech millennial driving range). Her co-worker in the office next to her was sick since yesterday so it was the perfect time to escalate on the DL. All day I thought about asking her and was trying to figure out if today was the best time to do so. As I was going to practice top golf for my monday night league anyway and I didn't want to do it by myself. I couldn't find a more perfect time in the immediate future. I know I'm gonna be working on a little project with her at work later, but that's fine. And I'm planning on leaving the company soon anyway. Plus she's head of HR. What's she gonna do? Report herself?

In my generation it's hard to connect with people my age because lots of people suck at making plans, being on time for things, and just having genuine courtesy in this superficial dating world. I've been strung along, used for free meals, ghosted on, told they were "too busy to meet," and used for sex and been told too ugly for sex too! In the age of dating apps and sloppy bar hookups it was just so nice to find someone who was as lonely and eager as I was to go do something on a holiday weekend. The way we connected when I finally asked her out was spark-y. She quickly gave me her number and her eyes danced with excitement as she beamed at the thought.

Yeah like an idiot it took me two months to work up the courage missing major holidays, but if first date goes well Monday I will likely have a gf on my 30th birthday, which is more than I can say for the others...
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Well in my limited capacity of love knowledge, I have to ask:

What made you ask her to go to a VR golf range (I'm only calling it VR because of an assumption of mine for hi-tech. If it is not VR please insert any further VR I reference to what you mean)?
do you really know she loves VR golf?
Have you asked her what she is REALLY interested in (if it is VR Golf, I take back the last two questions)?

I only ask because it "IS" important to know what "SHE" was interested in because if you both SHARE that than you are good. And that's not to say to only be concerned what she is interested in but to see if you have some commonality there.
 
Praxas said:
Well in my limited capacity of love knowledge, I have to ask:

What made you ask her to go to a VR golf range (I'm only calling it VR because of an assumption of mine for hi-tech. If it is not VR please insert any further VR I reference to what you mean)?
do you really know she loves VR golf?
Have you asked her what she is REALLY interested in (if it is VR Golf, I take back the last two questions)?

I only ask because it "IS" important to know what "SHE" was interested in because if you both SHARE that than you are good. And that's not to say to only be concerned what she is interested in but to see if you have some commonality there.
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It's not VR. It's a physical driving range where you hit balls with sensors at targets. She was very interested and been there before.
In my experience it's always best to have a plan and then ask the girl to go with you. As long as it's somewhere fun (not movies) or interesting the girl is always down to go. If it's "Do you wanna go out sometime?" the girl will look at you weird, like "where?" She doesn't want to come off as needy so she says she's not interested. My main plan for asking her out was to find something that I was already doing and then ask her to come with me. I was lucky she was interested and knew what it even was.
 
NeverTrump said:
It's not VR. It's a physical driving range where you hit balls with sensors at targets. She was very interested and been there before.
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Ok, well like I said I am only calling it "VR" because I didn't know what you meant fully. And like I said as well, if she showed interest that isn't a bad thing.

In my experience it's always best to have a plan and then ask the girl to go with you. As long as it's somewhere fun (not movies) or interesting the girl is always down to go.
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Well I take exception to the movie part. I was young and married and when I got divorced at age 33, I asked my "future" wife exactly to that (to a movie) and we've been married now for almost 9 years. Hey I gotta stand up for "what worked for me" lol.

If it's "Do you wanna go out sometime?" the girl will look at you weird, like "where?" She doesn't want to come off as needy so she says she's not interested.
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Well, that's how I hooked up with my first wife who I dated when I was in highschool.........well ok you may have a point of how ****ty that can be. lol.

My main plan for asking her out was to find something that I was already doing and then ask her to come with me. I was lucky she was interested and knew what it even was.
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I can understand that and don't get me wrong. My unsolicited advice what just that. I really hope the best for you as you are someone that I feel deserves happiness. Good luck and I hope your story is something you can further mention on this board as something that grows into dating and then to a happy marriage.
 
NeverTrump said:
I feel like this is the most genuine relationship I have ever had and we didn't even go on our first date yet. Before Christmas she walked into our meeting with the sexiest outfit ever I ever saw and she looked drop dead gorgeous. I couldn't stop staring at her and after the meeting I ran downstairs to her office in order to tell her that she looked gorgeous. Ever since that day we have been flirting on and off and I was trying to find out information about her, she was showing off pictures of her latest dress shopping sprees to me etc... We both hinted about our boring/lonely lives enough times and she kept calling me cute/sweet for me to get the hint.

Yesterday was valentines day, and I noticed her office was a little bare, I Knew then 100% she was single and then we both complained about being single. So today I decided to ask her out since we both have off on Monday and made a date go to top golf (a high tech millennial driving range). Her co-worker in the office next to her was sick since yesterday so it was the perfect time to escalate on the DL. All day I thought about asking her and was trying to figure out if today was the best time to do so. As I was going to practice top golf for my monday night league anyway and I didn't want to do it by myself. I couldn't find a more perfect time in the immediate future. I know I'm gonna be working on a little project with her at work later, but that's fine. And I'm planning on leaving the company soon anyway. Plus she's head of HR. What's she gonna do? Report herself?

In my generation it's hard to connect with people my age because lots of people suck at making plans, being on time for things, and just having genuine courtesy in this superficial dating world. I've been strung along, used for free meals, ghosted on, told they were "too busy to meet," and used for sex and been told too ugly for sex too! In the age of dating apps and sloppy bar hookups it was just so nice to find someone who was as lonely and eager as I was to go do something on a holiday weekend. The way we connected when I finally asked her out was spark-y. She quickly gave me her number and her eyes danced with excitement as she beamed at the thought.

Yeah like an idiot it took me two months to work up the courage missing major holidays, but if first date goes well Monday I will likely have a gf on my 30th birthday, which is more than I can say for the others...
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Just relax, be yourself. Don't f*ck it up. ;)

In all seriousness, it sounds like you already have the benefit of having a genuine connection with this lady, so a great deal of the heavy lifting has already been done. I wish you best of luck, NeverTrump.
 
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Don't talk politics, remember to open doors for her, make her chuckle gently (all women like a man who makes them laugh), and best of luck.
 
OldFatGuy said:
Don't talk politics, remember to open doors for her, make her chuckle gently (all women like a man who makes them laugh), and best of luck.
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Never talk politics or religion on the first date but I'm pretty sure I'm safe on the trump part. She is black after all.


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NeverTrump said:
Never talk politics or religion on the first date but I'm pretty sure I'm safe on the trump part. She is black after all.
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When it comes to women, never make assumptions. Leave the politics for another day.

Surprisingly, Trump is finding support from some of the Black communities, no fault of his own. Especially from some of the religious Christian groups, and the young middle class. ????? Same thing is happening among the holy rollers of the Asian communities, specifically the Koreans and Taiwanese. Mind boggling.
 
OldFatGuy said:
Don't talk politics, remember to open doors for her, make her chuckle gently (all women like a man who makes them laugh), and best of luck.
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That's an obvious given but given this posters user history I think he will have trouble with your advice.
 
NeverTrump said:
Never talk politics or religion on the first date but I'm pretty sure I'm safe on the trump part. She is black after all.


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And if she is a Trump supporter, what is your plan???
 
Reads like you already have the two of you married.
 
NeverTrump said:
I feel like this is the most genuine relationship I have ever had and we didn't even go on our first date yet. Before Christmas she walked into our meeting with the sexiest outfit ever I ever saw and she looked drop dead gorgeous. I couldn't stop staring at her and after the meeting I ran downstairs to her office in order to tell her that she looked gorgeous. Ever since that day we have been flirting on and off and I was trying to find out information about her, she was showing off pictures of her latest dress shopping sprees to me etc... We both hinted about our boring/lonely lives enough times and she kept calling me cute/sweet for me to get the hint.

Yesterday was valentines day, and I noticed her office was a little bare, I Knew then 100% she was single and then we both complained about being single. So today I decided to ask her out since we both have off on Monday and made a date go to top golf (a high tech millennial driving range). Her co-worker in the office next to her was sick since yesterday so it was the perfect time to escalate on the DL. All day I thought about asking her and was trying to figure out if today was the best time to do so. As I was going to practice top golf for my monday night league anyway and I didn't want to do it by myself. I couldn't find a more perfect time in the immediate future. I know I'm gonna be working on a little project with her at work later, but that's fine. And I'm planning on leaving the company soon anyway. Plus she's head of HR. What's she gonna do? Report herself?

In my generation it's hard to connect with people my age because lots of people suck at making plans, being on time for things, and just having genuine courtesy in this superficial dating world. I've been strung along, used for free meals, ghosted on, told they were "too busy to meet," and used for sex and been told too ugly for sex too! In the age of dating apps and sloppy bar hookups it was just so nice to find someone who was as lonely and eager as I was to go do something on a holiday weekend. The way we connected when I finally asked her out was spark-y. She quickly gave me her number and her eyes danced with excitement as she beamed at the thought.

Yeah like an idiot it took me two months to work up the courage missing major holidays, but if first date goes well Monday I will likely have a gf on my 30th birthday, which is more than I can say for the others...
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Be sure to shake her confidence... talk about how other women are looking great or dressing well... stare at their asses and breasts too...

Tell her she could smell better but be sure to take her somewhere inexpensive... like burger king. You will get laid or not and none of it depends on how much you spend on her.
 
joko104 said:
Reads like you already have the two of you married.
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That is the best way to not be the person wearing the pants in the family...
 
Office romance? Always a bad move. Ever hear of one working out? Ever?? Don't do it. Your future there will be HELL.
 
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