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Counseling: Has it helped you?

JC Callender

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Have you ever sought counseling for personal problems, life coaching, business coaching, etc...and if so, has it helped and how?
 
JC Callender said:
Have you ever sought counseling for personal problems, life coaching, business coaching, etc...and if so, has it helped and how?
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Yes, have had therapy on and off for sometime for chronic depression. Needs to be back on again...soon
 
Yes, and it has helped some.
 
JC Callender said:
How has it helped?
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Well it depends on if you connect with the counselor, but it reduced the severity of the imagery associated with a personal tragedy that occurred recently.
 
Not counseling, but mentoring, yes. Everyone needs a mentor at some point, IMO.
 
I am attending counseling now and am finding it useful. I had tried it a couple times before at earlier points in my life and it didn’t do squat then. Maybe I just wasn’t open enough to it at the time.

It helps some people but not everyone.
 
Everyone can benefit from counseling, an objective opinion. I've never had formal counseling but I would if it was free and convenient. I've benefited immeasurably from informal counseling.
 
rocket88 said:
Yes, have had therapy on and off for sometime for chronic depression. Needs to be back on again...soon
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You may want to lay off the internet and news for awhile, it is depressing no matter what side of things you lean towards.
 
Look for a place that does short term, goal oriented counseling.
 
I seek out advice of people I hold in high regard often.

My mentor recently past away, I didn't have to seek out his guidance, he'd hit me over the head verbally and let me know in no uncertain terms what I was needing and what I should be giving up.

Julius had an intuition about him that rivaled Hannibal Lector in Silence of the lambs, I **** you not.
 
JC Callender said:
Have you ever sought counseling for personal problems, life coaching, business coaching, etc...and if so, has it helped and how?
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Yes, of course, it helped! Time and time again.
  • Personal counseling:
    • Guidance about character I received as a child, teen and college student --> Follow the Golden Rule; tell the truth; "look before you leap;" be self-reliant; nothing worth having comes without working for it; take care of the pennies and the dollars will take care of themselves; what one doesn't aim to achieve, one won't achieve; don't expect rewards for doing what you're supposed to do for doing that is and produces its own rewards; etc.
      • Result: I'm a person of high integrity; I can be trusted; I'm hard-working; I've got self-confidence and I'm self-reliant. That's produced myriad positive, durable and long lasting relationships that provided personal and professional successes far beyond my wildest imagination when I was young and had no clue of just how important, beneficial, etc. being of fine character is, both tor one's own being and contentment as well as to one interacts interpersonally with others and the contentment one conveys to them.
    • School's easy if you just follow directions and do the homework.
      • Result: I got a B in chemistry and an A- or better in everything else.
    • Don't waste your time and resources reinventing the wheel. If someone is already at the place you want to get to, ask them how they got there and then follow their advice before you try adjusting their advice to work some other way, your way. You do thing your own way when you are headed somewhere nobody else has been or when there's nobody to ask how to get there.
      • Result: Doing most of the things I've attempted to happened far more quickly than they would have had I "reinvented the wheel" to get to points prior to the ones that distinguished my path from others'.
  • Professional/career counseling:
    • Advice about what to major in during college --> I was advised to declare a major that was something that interested me to study.
      • Result: I performed well in college because I just liked studying the material and was thus motivated to learn as much as they were willing to teach me. Being a high performer in school got my career off to a fine start.
    • Advised to "read the writing on the wall" and heed it.
      • Result: I found a niche in consulting that allowed me to form a successful firm that allowed me to get paid for doing exactly what I enjoyed doing before I was getting paid to do it. That I noticed the "writing" about the potential of computers and databases allowed me to develop ways to align the work I was doing with the coming technology "wave," which I just "rode."
Is that the sort of information you seek, OP-er?
 
I received counseling as a child for trauma and found it counterproductive. Haven't had any as an adult.
 
rocket88 said:
Oh sure, but I get depressed for no reason.
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No reason or no apparent reason?

Not arguing here, just making a point. Why not lay off social media for a couple of months and see if you improve. If not, come on back, if you do, come back in managed doses.
 
JC Callender said:
Have you ever sought counseling for personal problems, life coaching, business coaching, etc...and if so, has it helped and how?
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Yes, I have. I started grief counseling after my wife passed away suddenly. It probably saved my life. I had no children of my own and my parents were elderly so my support network was rather lacking. It probably saved my life. Counseling enabled me to develop coping skills I simply lacked previously. I highly recommend counseling. Best of luck to you.
 
Cotton1 said:
Yes, I have. I started grief counseling after my wife passed away suddenly. It probably saved my life. I had no children of my own and my parents were elderly so my support network was rather lacking. It probably saved my life. Counseling enabled me to develop coping skills I simply lacked previously. I highly recommend counseling. Best of luck to you.
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Sorry about your wife Cotton, but glad therapy helped! I love this quote by C.S. Lewis, shortly after his own wife passed: "Grieving tells us that there are things in life worth missing".
 
JC Callender said:
Have you ever sought counseling for personal problems, life coaching, business coaching, etc...and if so, has it helped and how?
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I have seen a lot of abused women and children seek counseling and help for rape, abuse, molestation, domestic violence, etc., and I can never say that IMO it was bad for them. Some respond to therapy better than others, and faster than others. It is a positive a good experience for all. I think it helps and would encourage anything in pain or dealing with a lot of issues to seek help.
 
If Autism coaching is counselling, then yes. I learned tons about what different societies will tolerate. It sure beats getting fired from jobs, being banned from establishments and seeing people being frothing at the mouth angry for no apparent reason.
 
JC Callender said:
Have you ever sought counseling for personal problems, life coaching, business coaching, etc...and if so, has it helped and how?
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I have not personally, but a friend of mine had schizoaffective disorder... (that's hearing voices), as well as a few other mental health issues. (her family tended to have lots of bipolar people). The counseling she got , in combination with drug therapy, allowed her to stop hearing voices. Because it was trauma induced rather than purely biochemical, she eventually was able to get off the drugs. She's still bipolar, and has to keep that under control, but the freedom from hearing voices is very important.
 
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