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There are all kinds of issues tied to this but I wanted to float this out to the forum and get some feedback.
As some of you know, I have been caring for an elderly couple (now just the husband as the wife passed away in March). The couple had no children and the only family left was a sister back east who wasn't really set up to help out. I'll leave most of the back story out but the current situation is that M, now a widower, is in assisted living. He has some left side paralysis due to a stroke and was bound to a wheelchair for a few months. We (including physical therapists) didn't really think he'd walk on his own again but he has gained strength and can now ambulate with a cane at least for short distances. This has made him VERY happy and is important to his perception of his quality of life. It may be, in fact, the most important factor in his perception of quality of life.
Anyway, he is in a controlled access facility because he has a propensity to wander off. He scared the heck out of a nurse who took him to a doctor's appointment by wandering off and he was found a block away from the clinic. He is also unstable on his feet but, at least around the complex, hasn't fallen while walking. He even did an entire day at the fair using just his walker (he refused to use the wheelchair that I recommended). It's not that he can't walk, it's just that he scares the dickens out of everyone around him when he does.
Today's situation is that one of the nurses came to pick him up for a doctor's appointment. She insisted that he use a walker. He refused. I don't know much in the way of details beyond that but the nurse claims that she felt threatened by him. I haven't heard his side yet.
While I COMPLETELY understand the concerns others have regarding his mobility I feel a responsibility to address the matter based on his perception of quality of life first and his safety second. While he does have some moderate dementia he is still cognitively aware of what he's doing and the risks involved. At worst, he perceives his ability to walk unassisted as being more substantial than it actually is. I guess what I'm looking for is feedback as to whether any of you have been in this kind of situation and how you handled it. Per usual, this request for feedback comes after I made my decision but what the heck, I'm listening anyway.
As some of you know, I have been caring for an elderly couple (now just the husband as the wife passed away in March). The couple had no children and the only family left was a sister back east who wasn't really set up to help out. I'll leave most of the back story out but the current situation is that M, now a widower, is in assisted living. He has some left side paralysis due to a stroke and was bound to a wheelchair for a few months. We (including physical therapists) didn't really think he'd walk on his own again but he has gained strength and can now ambulate with a cane at least for short distances. This has made him VERY happy and is important to his perception of his quality of life. It may be, in fact, the most important factor in his perception of quality of life.
Anyway, he is in a controlled access facility because he has a propensity to wander off. He scared the heck out of a nurse who took him to a doctor's appointment by wandering off and he was found a block away from the clinic. He is also unstable on his feet but, at least around the complex, hasn't fallen while walking. He even did an entire day at the fair using just his walker (he refused to use the wheelchair that I recommended). It's not that he can't walk, it's just that he scares the dickens out of everyone around him when he does.
Today's situation is that one of the nurses came to pick him up for a doctor's appointment. She insisted that he use a walker. He refused. I don't know much in the way of details beyond that but the nurse claims that she felt threatened by him. I haven't heard his side yet.
While I COMPLETELY understand the concerns others have regarding his mobility I feel a responsibility to address the matter based on his perception of quality of life first and his safety second. While he does have some moderate dementia he is still cognitively aware of what he's doing and the risks involved. At worst, he perceives his ability to walk unassisted as being more substantial than it actually is. I guess what I'm looking for is feedback as to whether any of you have been in this kind of situation and how you handled it. Per usual, this request for feedback comes after I made my decision but what the heck, I'm listening anyway.