Oh crud. That is a problem.
It is true that departments like to steer clear of those kinds of problems because if they follow up like they would on a regular car theft -- if they find the car and arrest the boyfriend, there's a good chance the young couple will make up and then it might be tough to get your daughter to testify against the boyfriend so the case goes in the crapper.
True. But I wouldn't have a problem testifying, and it's my car. That's what I don't understand. It's my car. In my name. A man with no license and no insurance is driving my car, without my permission. The only person who we gave permission to drive this car is our daughter. None of that matters, though. It's like crazytown. Like opposite day or something.
Still, officers here would go to the boyfriend's home or parents' home and ask some questions. Sometimes, that's all that's needed to get the wayward party to start acting like a human being.
Nope. They wouldn't do that. They said that they will have absolutely nothing to do with this issue, because according to them, it's not against the law.
You may be able to report it stolen since it's in your name. They can't stop you from filing a report. Sometimes you have to say very firmly that you want to file a report. Then, they have to do a least a little to deal with it.
I told them 4 times last night I want to file a report to have this car listed as stolen. They wouldn't do it. They simply said no. I asked for a supervisor. He also said no. Just
no.
The hardest part is that our kids rarely listen when we tell them that they people they're dating are trouble. Hopefully, your daughter will see him for the scumbag he is after this.
Certainly hope so, but my daughter doesn't have a good track record for picking stable boyfriends. She likes the bad boys, and then doesn't understand why they steal her car at 2am and go cheat on her with her best friend. Who knew, right? That bad boys were, I don't know,
bad?
If by tomorrow nobody's still helping you, call the Police Department and tell them you're getting ready to call the Attorney General because your car has been stolen and no one's lifting a finger to help you. And, then, if you have to, go ahead and call them. Usually, even if it's not something they can directly help with, they will offer some ideas about how you can go about getting the situation remedied.
Thanks. Well, there's an update. The boyfriend's cousin contacted her and told her where the car was. It was with
another woman, that he was cheating on both my daughter and her friend with. Sheesh. :roll: So my daughter went there and the guy was not there, but the girl he was cheating with was there. She was pissed, because he took her car
without permission, so hopefully
she can have him arrested.
My husband and son in law took the car to my son in law's house, and he disconnected the coil pack, so it can't be driven. My older daughter is keeping the keys with her at all times. This bull**** will not happen again. The officer I talked to this morning was more help than anyone. He told me if the car wasn't back by tomorrow morning, to get up and go find a judge and explain to them what is happening. He said that the judge could issue a bench warrant for theft, because the judge has more power than the cops do to handle something like this. Thank God we don't have to now, but sheesh. This has been a nightmare.
I wish you the best of luck. Been there. Could have written the book. It gets better with time.
If you ever need a co-author, let me know. And thanks for the help.