MaggieD
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Tom’s second niece, Sandy, was raised by Tom’s sister. Sandy’s grandmother. She’s had nothing but problems because of really bad choices. I equate a lot of them to her having a mom and dad (biological) who were using cocaine and let his mom, Sandy’s grandparents, raise her. Sandy has had two babies. One her grandma adopted to raise. He is is eight years old. The other they arranged an adoption with a family friend.
She’s a mess. Has yet to prove herself. Lost her license to drunk driving for a few years. Trouble holding a job. Piercings. Is fighting alcohol addiction. And picks guys who are horrendous. Anyway, she’s decided over the last six months that she’s gay. She and her girlfriend are getting married on October 13, Friday. I offered to take them to dinner. Congrated them and plan on giving them a wedding card and monetary gift.taking them out to dinner later.
Her grandmother told me she isn’t going. It’s in the face of her Catholic religion. Her grandad, who also raised her, won’t even talk to her though she shows up at family gatherings. Both grandma and grandpa who raised her and adopted one of her children, are very active in the church.
First, I really care about this gal. I think she’s 26, smart as a whip and running out of time. I blame her addiction problems on the Aderol and other drugs she took all thru her childhood.
My question is this. I am tempted to butt in. To tell her grandma the right thing to do is to, at the very least, send them a card and a gift.
Your thoughts?
I’m off the board for an hour or so...
She’s a mess. Has yet to prove herself. Lost her license to drunk driving for a few years. Trouble holding a job. Piercings. Is fighting alcohol addiction. And picks guys who are horrendous. Anyway, she’s decided over the last six months that she’s gay. She and her girlfriend are getting married on October 13, Friday. I offered to take them to dinner. Congrated them and plan on giving them a wedding card and monetary gift.taking them out to dinner later.
Her grandmother told me she isn’t going. It’s in the face of her Catholic religion. Her grandad, who also raised her, won’t even talk to her though she shows up at family gatherings. Both grandma and grandpa who raised her and adopted one of her children, are very active in the church.
First, I really care about this gal. I think she’s 26, smart as a whip and running out of time. I blame her addiction problems on the Aderol and other drugs she took all thru her childhood.
My question is this. I am tempted to butt in. To tell her grandma the right thing to do is to, at the very least, send them a card and a gift.
Your thoughts?
I’m off the board for an hour or so...