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I was Fat-Shamed By My Doctor

Josie

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I saw this article pop up on Facebook and I knew it was going to be eyeroll-worthy. I wasn't disappointed.

I Was Fat Shamed By My Doctor and Now I'm Hesitant to Go Back | Shape Magazine

What kind of moron thinks their doctor shouldn't talk to them about losing weight? If you're overweight, losing weight will help you in many aspects of your life - physical and mental. When a doctor tells you that you need to lose weight, that's not "bullying" or "fat-shaming".

What say you?
 
Increasingly people believe that they have the right to live in a universe that often reassures them that they are awesome.

We tend to be weak and stupid now.
 
Josie said:
I saw this article pop up on Facebook and I knew it was going to be eyeroll-worthy. I wasn't disappointed.

I Was Fat Shamed By My Doctor and Now I'm Hesitant to Go Back | Shape Magazine

What kind of moron thinks their doctor shouldn't talk to them about losing weight? If you're overweight, losing weight will help you in many aspects of your life - physical and mental. When a doctor tells you that you need to lose weight, that's not "bullying" or "fat-shaming".

What say you?
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The doctor's only mistake was not explaining how these things are connected.

Being obese can cause depression. Being obese can increase risk of asthma and respiratory complication. It's entirely possible she never would have had either of these issues if she wasn't obese.

And furthermore, at 40 years old, being obese puts you at risk of serious medical events. Like, right now. Ask any of my several friends whose parents died suddenly of obesity-related cardiac events in their 40's.

Her doctors are right to be getting more concerned. Your body can't cope with being double its ideal weight forever. There's a reason you don't see many obese people over the age of 60. Stating that fact is not "bullying."

Obesity cuts as much off your life as smoking. But I bet she thinks it's perfectly reasonable for doctors to have rising levels of concern for their 40-year-old smoker patients.

Your doctor's job is to keep you alive, not to stroke your ego.
 
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The doctor? That is like the one person for whom it is perfectly appropriate to bring up somebody else's weight.
 
There is nothing healthy about being overweight, and the sooner people recognize this fact, the sooner they can begin to start a healthier lifestyle.

If your doctor is warning you that you have a serious weight problem? He is doing exactly what he is supposed to.

The fear is not "shaming," IMO it is having to face facts and then get the proper mindset to actually take the steps to help yourself.
 
I have no doubt that some doctors are dicks, and if she'd said he made fun of her or made fat jokes to her, then I might agree he was a bully. She described it as lecturing and really, what else is a doctor supposed to do when someone is engaging in unhealthy, even somewhat dangerous behavior? I'm sure if I was a drug addict or alcoholic and let my doc know, I'd get lectured too. It sounds to me like she just doesn't want to be told that which she doesn't want to hear.
 
Josie said:
I saw this article pop up on Facebook and I knew it was going to be eyeroll-worthy. I wasn't disappointed.

I Was Fat Shamed By My Doctor and Now I'm Hesitant to Go Back | Shape Magazine

What kind of moron thinks their doctor shouldn't talk to them about losing weight? If you're overweight, losing weight will help you in many aspects of your life - physical and mental. When a doctor tells you that you need to lose weight, that's not "bullying" or "fat-shaming".

What say you?
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All my doctor had to do was tell me at my size diabetes was in my future, 1 year later I was down 100lbs, 3 years later down to 13% body fat. Sometimes you need someone to tell you your fat, cause your loved ones don't want to or think it's just normal. Glad he did say something.
 
Josie said:
I saw this article pop up on Facebook and I knew it was going to be eyeroll-worthy. I wasn't disappointed.

I Was Fat Shamed By My Doctor and Now I'm Hesitant to Go Back | Shape Magazine

What kind of moron thinks their doctor shouldn't talk to them about losing weight? If you're overweight, losing weight will help you in many aspects of your life - physical and mental. When a doctor tells you that you need to lose weight, that's not "bullying" or "fat-shaming".

What say you?
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I'm not fat! My clothes just all shrunk.
 
Josie said:
I saw this article pop up on Facebook and I knew it was going to be eyeroll-worthy. I wasn't disappointed.

I Was Fat Shamed By My Doctor and Now I'm Hesitant to Go Back | Shape Magazine

What kind of moron thinks their doctor shouldn't talk to them about losing weight? If you're overweight, losing weight will help you in many aspects of your life - physical and mental. When a doctor tells you that you need to lose weight, that's not "bullying" or "fat-shaming".

What say you?
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Really?? She's 5'4" and weights 235 pounds. I'll bet she sleeps with a unicorn.
 
Josie said:
I saw this article pop up on Facebook and I knew it was going to be eyeroll-worthy. I wasn't disappointed.

I Was Fat Shamed By My Doctor and Now I'm Hesitant to Go Back | Shape Magazine

What kind of moron thinks their doctor shouldn't talk to them about losing weight? If you're overweight, losing weight will help you in many aspects of your life - physical and mental. When a doctor tells you that you need to lose weight, that's not "bullying" or "fat-shaming".

What say you?
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My mom knows a doctor, and he major obese. He still talks to his patient about their weight. He usually starts the conversation by saying something like, "I know it may seem odd for me to advice you about this, but..."

Some people might not understand how their weight affects their health. If a person is seriously overweight then a doctor should say something about it, and give them advice. A good doctor would encourage somebody to be healthy and lose weight, instead of putting them on a ton of medication associated their poor diet and obesity.
 
MaggieD said:
Really?? She's 5'4" and weights 235 pounds. I'll bet she sleeps with a unicorn.
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She can't feel good carrying that weight around.

The problem I have with the article is how she admits that she knows she is overweight, but she doesn't seem to acknowledge how it could impact her health. That's why doctors are bringing up her weight. She acts as if she's just so tired of it being pointed out by doctors. Does she not understand there is reason to worry about her heart, arteries, joints, breathing, etc?
 
SheWolf said:
My mom knows a doctor, and he major obese. He still talks to his patient about their weight. He usually starts the conversation by saying something like, "I know it may seem odd for me to advice you about this, but..."
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I know and have seen several nurses who are overweight -- even nutritionists. I've always thought that was very .... odd.
 
Josie said:
I saw this article pop up on Facebook and I knew it was going to be eyeroll-worthy. I wasn't disappointed.

I Was Fat Shamed By My Doctor and Now I'm Hesitant to Go Back | Shape Magazine

What kind of moron thinks their doctor shouldn't talk to them about losing weight? If you're overweight, losing weight will help you in many aspects of your life - physical and mental. When a doctor tells you that you need to lose weight, that's not "bullying" or "fat-shaming".

What say you?
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Lady (?) goes to a doctor concerned she is overweight and he says eating won't fill the hole?

I can certainly understand her problem. Obviously a change of doctors is in order.

What say I is that the invention of a new term does not make you any different than when you were fat. Listen up and stop thinking repeatedly moving arm from plate to mouth is exercise. You'll feel better and live longer.
 
Josie said:
I saw this article pop up on Facebook and I knew it was going to be eyeroll-worthy. I wasn't disappointed.

I Was Fat Shamed By My Doctor and Now I'm Hesitant to Go Back | Shape Magazine

What kind of moron thinks their doctor shouldn't talk to them about losing weight? If you're overweight, losing weight will help you in many aspects of your life - physical and mental. When a doctor tells you that you need to lose weight, that's not "bullying" or "fat-shaming".

What say you?
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Obesity is a health issue. Doctors are supposed to discuss health issues with their patients. Failure to do so is malpractice.
 
jimbo said:
Lady (?) goes to a doctor concerned she is overweight and he says eating won't fill the hole?

I can certainly understand her problem. Obviously a change of doctors is in order.
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No, she said she is always depressed at that time of year and, therefore, eats more and gains more weight. He told her that eating isn't the way to deal with depression. And her doctor was right. She doesn't need a doctor who is going to tell her that emotional eating is healthy.
 
Truckstop said:
All my doctor had to do was tell me at my size diabetes was in my future, 1 year later I was down 100lbs, 3 years later down to 13% body fat. Sometimes you need someone to tell you your fat, cause your loved ones don't want to or think it's just normal. Glad he did say something.
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Good job! (Seriously).
 
Josie said:
I saw this article pop up on Facebook and I knew it was going to be eyeroll-worthy. I wasn't disappointed.

I Was Fat Shamed By My Doctor and Now I'm Hesitant to Go Back | Shape Magazine

What kind of moron thinks their doctor shouldn't talk to them about losing weight? If you're overweight, losing weight will help you in many aspects of your life - physical and mental. When a doctor tells you that you need to lose weight, that's not "bullying" or "fat-shaming".

What say you?
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I say "Big is Beautiful" is a dangerous belief system. We're eating ourselves to death. And yes, it is harder to lose weight the more you weigh, but except for a very narrow percentage of cases, genetics are not solely to blame. That's not to say that running around calling people "fat" is going to do any good, but of course a Doctor should discuss a life-threatening condition like obesity with a patient!=
 
in 2004, i weighed in at 267, and tested pre-diabetic. doctor said, "we should probably talk about your weight." i said **** this and started my weight loss pretty soon after that. dropped a little at the end of that year, and then a ton more in the first half of the next year. got down to 174 by July of '05, gained a little back, and then did it the smart way by counting calories and exercising (i did the "**** this, i'm starving until the weight is gone" diet first.) i've kept it off since then, and i weighed in at 167 yesterday. between quitting smoking and losing weight, i would say that keeping the weight off takes more effort, and both are equally awesome on a daily basis.

as for fat shaming, sure, that's a real thing, and it doesn't do much good. you have to want it for you. otherwise, you are almost certainly not going to be logging every dorito on myfitnesspal twelve years later like i just did, or skipping a meal and doing a ****load of exercise so that you can go to cracker barrel even though you have a healthy BMI (that was yesterday.) fried steak, bitches, and i put in the work before dinner.
 
Josie said:
I saw this article pop up on Facebook and I knew it was going to be eyeroll-worthy. I wasn't disappointed.

I Was Fat Shamed By My Doctor and Now I'm Hesitant to Go Back | Shape Magazine

What kind of moron thinks their doctor shouldn't talk to them about losing weight? If you're overweight, losing weight will help you in many aspects of your life - physical and mental. When a doctor tells you that you need to lose weight, that's not "bullying" or "fat-shaming".

What say you?
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Well, I'm 5'10'' and weigh 180 pounds and my doctor told me I was obese. He said I should weigh 160 pounds.

Further information: I'm 62 years old. I have 3% body fat.
 
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cabse5 said:
Well, I'm 5'10'' and weigh 180 pounds and my doctor told me I was obese. He said I should weigh 160 pounds.

Further information: I'm 62 years old. I have 3% body fat.
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You're going to keel over one day! Ain't poop you can do about it!
 
Josie said:
I saw this article pop up on Facebook and I knew it was going to be eyeroll-worthy. I wasn't disappointed.

I Was Fat Shamed By My Doctor and Now I'm Hesitant to Go Back | Shape Magazine

What kind of moron thinks their doctor shouldn't talk to them about losing weight? If you're overweight, losing weight will help you in many aspects of your life - physical and mental. When a doctor tells you that you need to lose weight, that's not "bullying" or "fat-shaming".

What say you?
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someone needs to get some thicker skin around all that fat ass ..................... lots-O-butt hurt goin' round on this big, spinnin' rock .............
 
cabse5 said:
Well, I'm 5'10'' and weigh 180 pounds and my doctor told me I was obese. He said I should weigh 160 pounds.

Further information: I'm 62 years old. I have 3% body fat.
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Your 2 inches shorter than me 10lbs heavier and at 13%body fat I still can't see my abs. I also work out 3 times a week with a professional body builder. I think you probably ment 30% body fat.

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