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I was Fat-Shamed By My Doctor

Josie said:
I saw this article pop up on Facebook and I knew it was going to be eyeroll-worthy. I wasn't disappointed.

I Was Fat Shamed By My Doctor and Now I'm Hesitant to Go Back | Shape Magazine

What kind of moron thinks their doctor shouldn't talk to them about losing weight? If you're overweight, losing weight will help you in many aspects of your life - physical and mental. When a doctor tells you that you need to lose weight, that's not "bullying" or "fat-shaming".

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Mine says and I quote "You're a fat whale. Lose some weight Fat Albert. Try eating a salad or something every once in awhile. If you don't, your gona die prematurely, and I hate looking for new clients." Every. Single. Time. :moody
 
SheWolf said:
She can't feel good carrying that weight around.

The problem I have with the article is how she admits that she knows she is overweight, but she doesn't seem to acknowledge how it could impact her health. That's why doctors are bringing up her weight. She acts as if she's just so tired of it being pointed out by doctors. Does she not understand there is reason to worry about her heart, arteries, joints, breathing, etc?
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Its a cast iron bitch to lose weight when you are older. Its like a second job almost. I hate exercising.
 
Truckstop said:
Your 2 inches shorter than me 10lbs heavier and at 13%body fat I still can't see my abs. I also work out 3 times a week with a professional body builder. I think you probably ment 30% body fat.

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You need another professional body builder or you just started out. I don't have an exercise regimen, per se, but I do walk a whole lot and use weights every once in a while. Emaciation is some spots still means lower body weight.

Usually men with higher fat aren't able to see their toes. Why can't you see your abs? Are you a man..er, what is your gender?
 
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My doctor brought up my cigarette smoking every visit. I thought he is just doing his job. But now I know he was really just smoke shaming me! OMG!
 
When the whole body acceptance movement comes at detriment to our actual health then we should be pausing for thought.

PirateMk1 said:
Its a cast iron bitch to lose weight when you are older. Its like a second job almost. I hate exercising.
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Weight loss and fat burn happens primarily in the kitchen, not the gym.
 
cabse5 said:
Well, I'm 5'10'' and weigh 180 pounds and my doctor told me I was obese. He said I should weigh 160 pounds.

Further information: I'm 62 years old. I have 3% body fat.
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cabse5 said:
You need another professional body builder or you just started out. I don't have an exercise regimen, per se, but I do walk a whole lot and use weights every once in a while. Emaciation is some spots still means lower body weight.

Usually men with higher fat aren't able to see their toes. Why can't you see your abs? Are you a man..er, what is your gender?
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3% body fat is basically impossible, outside of a few days at a time (e.g. bodybuilding competitions). Even the leanest athletes in the world clock in at like 6%+
 
Nilly said:
When the whole body acceptance movement comes at detriment to our actual health then we should be pausing for thought.



Weight loss and fat burn happens primarily in the kitchen, not the gym.
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Shut up!!! WTF!!! You are obviously NOT blessed with an efficient metabolism otherwise you would not say that crap. I even LOOK at a chocolate cake I gain weight. Steak and potatoes, only in my dreams. Its damn near full time job just to NOT gain anymore. I cant eat anything worth eating, otherwise I gain weight. I have to exercise a minimum of 2 hours a day to lose weight while practically starving myself. As soon as I hit forty I had to double my exercise and half my calorie intake. That's the one good thing about being young. Being to eat what you want. Now I have to eat ****ing grass, drink foul tasting crap, and exercise, which I absolutely ****ing hate. :x

I am seriously considering saying **** it and eat what I want and to hell with the consequences. This ****ing bull**** watch my diet crap is making my life miserable.
 
PirateMk1 said:
Shut up!!! WTF!!! You are obviously NOT blessed with an efficient metabolism otherwise you would not say that crap. I even LOOK at a chocolate cake I gain weight. Steak and potatoes, only in my dreams. Its damn near full time job just to NOT gain anymore. I cant eat anything worth eating, otherwise I gain weight. I have to exercise a minimum of 2 hours a day to lose weight while practically starving myself. As soon as I hit forty I had to double my exercise and half my calorie intake. That's the one good thing about being young. Being to eat what you want. Now I have to eat ****ing grass, drink foul tasting crap, and exercise, which I absolutely ****ing hate. :x

I am seriously considering saying **** it and eat what I want and to hell with the consequences. This ****ing bull**** watch my diet crap is making my life miserable.
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Sorry!!!! I sympathize, honestly. When i get old it's gonna suck too =/ It's bad eating habits that lead to high fat levels. Gym time - particularly cardio - isn't really that effective in burning calories. We burn far more just staying alive than we do running on a treadmill.

The more muscles mass you build, the more calories you burn just by 'staying alive' (resting metabolic rate) which is why weight workouts help. As you get older your muscles begin atrophy, and you need less calories to simply stay alive, so you need to take up that slack by eating grass and drinking foul tasting crap =D
 
Nilly said:
Sorry!!!! I sympathize, honestly. When i get old it's gonna suck too =/ It's bad eating habits that lead to high fat levels. Gym time - particularly cardio - isn't really that effective in burning calories. We burn far more just staying alive than we do running on a treadmill.

The more muscles mass you build, the more calories you burn just by 'staying alive' (resting metabolic rate) which is why weight workouts help. As you get older your muscles begin atrophy, and you need less calories to simply stay alive, so you need to take up that slack by eating grass and drinking foul tasting crap =D
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You're number one. :2razz:
 
cabse5 said:
You need another professional body builder or you just started out. I don't have an exercise regimen, per se, but I do walk a whole lot and use weights every once in a while. Emaciation is some spots still means lower body weight.

Usually men with higher fat aren't able to see their toes. Why can't you see your abs? Are you a man..er, what is your gender?
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Point was, there is no way in hell you are 3% body fat. At about 12% men start to have that 6pack abs look. I'm at a little over 13% and it is a bitch at that point to get that 1% less fat to get the abs. I walk between 8-12miles a day and work out 3-5 days a week, for going on 3 years with a couple breaks out of boredom. If you have a 6pack abs then you might be down in the 10-12% body fat but that takes micro managing of your intake and intense exercising to burn the fat.
 
Josie said:
I saw this article pop up on Facebook and I knew it was going to be eyeroll-worthy. I wasn't disappointed.

I Was Fat Shamed By My Doctor and Now I'm Hesitant to Go Back | Shape Magazine

What kind of moron thinks their doctor shouldn't talk to them about losing weight? If you're overweight, losing weight will help you in many aspects of your life - physical and mental. When a doctor tells you that you need to lose weight, that's not "bullying" or "fat-shaming".

What say you?
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A good Dr tells you the truth, warts and all.
 
Josie said:
I know and have seen several nurses who are overweight -- even nutritionists. I've always thought that was very .... odd.
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I've seen so called "personal trainers", with the certificate and everything, who looked like they have never stepped into a gym or engaged in any type of physical training. If you are going to preach something, then you better be an example of what you are preaching.
 
Truckstop said:
Thanks, it's crazy how fast the fat can start adding up. It's not like it happened overnight that I got fat but it sure did seem like it.
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I went from being the skinny kid in school, to being fat by the time I was in my mid forty's. A couple or three pounds a year adds up.
 
Helix said:
...you are almost certainly not going to be logging every dorito on myfitnesspal twelve years later like i just did, or skipping a meal and doing a ****load of exercise so that you can go to cracker barrel even though you have a healthy BMI (that was yesterday.) fried steak, bitches, and i put in the work before dinner.
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I do the exact same thing(s). myfitness pal and extra cardio at the gym if I know that I'm likely to go over my calorie goal. I also log the calories that I burn so that I can account for that.
 
cabse5 said:
Well, I'm 5'10'' and weigh 180 pounds and my doctor told me I was obese. He said I should weigh 160 pounds.

Further information: I'm 62 years old. I have 3% body fat.
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I seriously doubt that you have 3% body fat. That's below what is maintainable for extended periods of time. although your bodyfat scales or some other method may indicate 3%. Anything under 12 percent is rare and is pretty much only achieved by fitness models and bodybuilding competitors.

Anyhow, I also get irritated by doctors who go by BMI or height/weight charts. It's rediculous, and doesn't account for muscle mass, bone thickness/density, frame size, etc. I'm 5'11" 200+ and people freak out about how lean I am.
 
This is just another part of our sick society that is 'loving' people to death. The Trans everything movement isnt making people happy...its causing self hatred and mutilation. Similarly...the 'body positive' movement is contributing to people living ever more unhealthy lifestyles while lying to themselves about how good they feel about themselves. Promoting this as desirable

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is not helping people. A doctor should be able to tell a patient that they are living a lifestyle that is potentially causing them MORE health problems. A patient shouldnt feel 'shamed'...but they should maybe feel like living a more physically healthy lifestyle is a good thing.
 
Baralis said:
My doctor brought up my cigarette smoking every visit. I thought he is just doing his job. But now I know he was really just smoke shaming me! OMG!
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Smoke shaming is still considered acceptable.
 
My mother in law stopped seeing a doctor for the same thing. It's madness.
But free markets...people will find want they want, even if it kills them...sad.

I think there is a big difference between your family physician coaching you on healthy weight and lifestlyle, vs say...someone at working tellnig you you're fat in front of others.
Shaming publicly where it matters (school, work), is frowned upon...do it in private if necessary.
"Shaming" at a doctor...I don't get it.

Shame is a natural emotion and it's OK to feel it and deliver a little in moderation in the right circumstances. The notion of "never shame someone!" is shameful!

Doctors put fingers in places they shouldn't and put bright lights on your body and probe you, etc. There is no shame at a doctors office unless you have an unprofessional quack who makes you uncomfortable.
 
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