Your family situation is the basis for other day-to-day annoyances to take on huge importance.
The fender bender, sucks. I hate it when that happens, but hey, you're insured, so drop the car at the shop, get a rental and let the shop/insurance solve the problem. The credit card thing really is freaky, but the most important word is tried. Most major credit card companies have folks who can backtrack attempts at Identity Theft, and they might have information that will relieve your mind a bit. These two things happening at the same time is enough to make anyone mad as hell, but they can be reasonably resolved.
So it's back to the crux of the matter, your family situation. If you have a physician or other professional you can talk to who may be able to assist with anti-anxiety prescription, you may want to contact them. I'm told by people I knew that also suffered from severe stress/anxiety that the medication was a big help.
If all else fails, I know a couple of stiff drinks drains the stress out of me for a short while, but since liquor is a depressant that might not be the best idea for you. Another reason to ask questions of a professional who knows you and your situation.
Mostly, life just sucks at times, and you have been and are still going through an emotional wringer. Give yourself permission to be sad, mad, furious, and everything in between. It's okay to be human. Sometimes it's difficult to look around our homes, pet our beloved animals, and count the number of blessings that we still have. You're in my thoughts, Xy. *hugs*
