Me and my room mate share a car, that we borrow from a friend but its not really ours. Our friend said we can use it as long as we pay them for gas. I had a job but it was minimum wage and it was temporary so it only lasted a few months. So I got a new job recently and its long hours, it has 12 hour shift for 6-7 days a week. I agreed since I running out of money and need a new one. My room mate had a warehouse job too but they recently got fired. They wont say why, or even bother asking the employer why they got fired they just kind of said "Whatever" and left the job. So I recently told my friend where to go and who to talk to in order to get a job with the company I am working with right now, however they said they do not feel like working 10 hour shifts. I am really angry, since the idea was to get us both jobs with this company so we could go to work together and I would not be taking the car from him and he would not have to struggle getting a job while I am at the warehouse because I took the only form of transportation. I am really angry. What do I do about this? When anyone asks them about anything or why they do stuff they just quietly walk away and ignore you. This is frustrating. When they screw up they do not care why, or try to fix it they just kind of leave. This is pissing me off. How do I make them TRY?
Unfortunately you need to get rid of the roommate. Can you get another one? How is the unemployed roomie going to pay his share of rent?
I had roomies a number of times in my early days. It didn't save me money in the long run, because something always went wrong. They moved early, decided they'd move in with a boyfriend, wanted to live across town, leave because oops she's pregnant. So I'd end up losing the security deposit, incurring expenses to move, and end up in a tiny cheap apartment alone, anyway.
You can't make people do things they don't want to do. You have seen the character and initiative of your roomie. You know the deal. So either be prepared to support the deadbeat, or get a new roommate.
If I were you:
I'd MOVE, or start advertising on Craig's List for a new roomie ASAP (check background references thoroughly of the new roomie)
If it's my apartment, I'd serve an eviction notice on the roomie as soon as I got a new roomie. He gets 30 days' notice.
If it's the deadbeat's apartment, I'd move to the cheapest but clean little apt I could find, in as safe a neighborhood as I could get
I'd live very close to public transportation
I'd continue to borrow the car, if possible. If not, I'd use the public transportation.
I'd work out a plan to get a better job and make more money in the future. Do you have any vocational plans?
I'd save every penny I could to get a used car, if that's necessary to get around in your city.
I would NOT bank my future, even six months into the future, on sharing expenses with someone who doesn't want to work or has the ethics or character to carry his/her own weight.