teamosil
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I would dispute that men hitting women without provocation is actually the bigger problem.
I think saying "nobody should initiate violence in a family dispute" IS addressing the bigger problem.
If somewhere between 30% and 70% of domestic battery of women by men, is a result of the woman initiating the violence by striking the man first, then eliminating that would likely eliminate 30 to 70% of the male-on-female violence.... how can that not be a win, unless you're just determined to frame this from a males-are-the-abusers context?
Why can't we say both things?
Never initiate violence in a family dispute and never hit a woman. Both pretty solid rules. Both have exceptions, but IMO, it's better to start out with that baseline as your instinct and work from there.