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Why aren't women happy???

ricksfolly said:
Anyone, man or women, who says he's happy is lying. Sure, he/she may have brief moments of feeling good, but it doesn't last, not in this veil of tears.

ricksfolly
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So through your veil of tears I can't be happy? I feel good and am happy most of the day, because things in life don't bother me beyond my ex-wife basically, and even then, I accept her issues.

Sorry bud... I'm happy and have a happy life with my daughters here living next to the beach in the South Pacific and we have a tropical forrest here and not working much, surfing, etc.
 
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Bodhisattva said:
So through your veil of tears I can't be happy? I feel good and am happy most of the day, because things in life don't bother me beyond my ex-wife basically, and even then, I accept her issues.

Sorry bud... I'm happy and have a happy life with my daughters here living next to the beach in the South Pacific and we have a tropical forrest here and not working much, surfing, etc.
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I think it's a blessing, to be able to find joy in life regardless of one's circumstances.
 
Anyone, man or women, who says he's happy is lying. Sure, he/she may have brief moments of feeling good, but it doesn't last, not in this veil of tears.

ricksfolly

Dude, seriously.... they have medication now to help with this stuff...>>

Only idiots and babies are happy all the time. Which one are you?

ricksfolly
 
ricksfolly said:
Anyone, man or women, who says he's happy is lying. Sure, he/she may have brief moments of feeling good, but it doesn't last, not in this veil of tears.

ricksfolly

Dude, seriously.... they have medication now to help with this stuff...>>

Only idiots and babies are happy all the time. Which one are you?

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Part-time idiot.

I'm happy most of the time - or rather, I don't let myself get too upset.
 
ricksfolly said:
Anyone, man or women, who says he's happy is lying. Sure, he/she may have brief moments of feeling good, but it doesn't last, not in this veil of tears.

ricksfolly

Dude, seriously.... they have medication now to help with this stuff...>>

Only idiots and babies are happy all the time. Which one are you?

ricksfolly
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ricksfolly said:
Dude, seriously.... they have medication now to help with this stuff...>>

Only idiots and babies are happy all the time. Which one are you?

ricksfolly
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One that is smart enough to realize that you are projecting... that's "look in the mirror" to you. ;)

...and you are obviously not a parent. Babies are anything but always happy.
,,,also, I never said that I was always happy... dude. brighten up already.
 
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Bodhisattva said:
So through your veil of tears I can't be happy? I feel good and am happy most of the day, because things in life don't bother me beyond my ex-wife basically, and even then, I accept her issues.

Sorry bud... I'm happy and have a happy life with my daughters here living next to the beach in the South Pacific and we have a tropical forrest here and not working much, surfing, etc.
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Good. Hang onto it while you can. There's disappointment, frustration, impotence, and blame around the next corner.

ricksfolly
 
ricksfolly said:
Good. Hang onto it while you can. There's disappointment, frustration, impotence, and blame around the next corner.

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Are you posting drunk?

I've already been through all that, and I'm sure I'll go through it again. Doesn't stop me from being happy a great deal of the time.
 
ricksfolly said:
Anyone, man or women, who says he's happy is lying. Sure, he/she may have brief moments of feeling good, but it doesn't last, not in this veil of tears.

ricksfolly

Dude, seriously.... they have medication now to help with this stuff...>>

Only idiots and babies are happy all the time. Which one are you?

ricksfolly
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Someone who realizes that you make your own happiness.

And if you can't, then there's zoloft for people like you. :lol:
 
ricksfolly said:
No matter how much you prepare yourself, sh*t happens, how you recover, and how fast, is all you can do.

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Okay, Buddha.

Seriously. The bulk of us have been adults for quite some time, and this is old news to us.
 
Somebody's going through some serious ****, it seems. Self-Awareness can be like a slap in the face to newcomers...
 
The meds do wonders for me. I haven't been depressed or manic in 3 years. I am content, challenged and occasionally happy, especially when I buy **** for my niece and nephew. Last gift was a 1/2 sized guitar for Josh and he loves it! That makes me happy.
 
AmericanSon316 said:
What sarcasm read the bible. Come back when you have something good to say.
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I have read it, at least the essential parts. If a "christian" can't live according to Matt. chapter 25, the rest of the bible is of no use to him...
 
Whats the point of this thread? If women arent happy they should look at their lives? Are you living for your husband or is he living ko keep you happy if it's the second one then thats why your unhappy. A womans place is in the home and if she is unhappy with where she is she should redecorate or take the kids out for a walk nstead of getting fat watching oprah and not cleaning. We gave them the right to vote and the right to work and theright to free speech and if their not happy they should ask their husband or god for guidance.
 
AmericanSon316 said:
Whats the point of this thread? If women arent happy they should look at their lives? Are you living for your husband or is he living ko keep you happy if it's the second one then thats why your unhappy. A womans place is in the home and if she is unhappy with where she is she should redecorate or take the kids out for a walk nstead of getting fat watching oprah and not cleaning. We gave them the right to vote and the right to work and theright to free speech and if their not happy they should ask their husband or god for guidance.
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Lord you're boring. Seriously, you need to do some work before you troll any further.
 
AmericanSon316 said:
Whats the point of this thread? If women arent happy they should look at their lives? Are you living for your husband or is he living ko keep you happy if it's the second one then thats why your unhappy. A womans place is in the home and if she is unhappy with where she is she should redecorate or take the kids out for a walk nstead of getting fat watching oprah and not cleaning. We gave them the right to vote and the right to work and theright to free speech and if their not happy they should ask their husband or god for guidance.
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You gave us the right to vote? I don't think you are familiar with all the Suffragettes had to do to get us the vote. And, a woman's place is not necessarily in the home - many have to work to help support their families. As for getting fat watching Oprah, the husband can help with the cleaning, if the wife is helping with the support!

I'm quite happy, but then I have a husband who helps and we try to make each other happy! In other words, I don't rely on him to make me happy, but I work hard at making him happy, and he does the same, so it works for both of us.
 
AmericanSon316 said:
Whats the point of this thread? If women arent happy they should look at their lives? Are you living for your husband or is he living ko keep you happy if it's the second one then thats why your unhappy. A womans place is in the home and if she is unhappy with where she is she should redecorate or take the kids out for a walk nstead of getting fat watching oprah and not cleaning. We gave them the right to vote and the right to work and theright to free speech and if their not happy they should ask their husband or god for guidance.
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:clap::clap::clap::clap:
 
AmericanSon316 said:
Whats the point of this thread? If women arent happy they should look at their lives? Are you living for your husband or is he living ko keep you happy if it's the second one then thats why your unhappy. A womans place is in the home and if she is unhappy with where she is she should redecorate or take the kids out for a walk nstead of getting fat watching oprah and not cleaning. We gave them the right to vote and the right to work and theright to free speech and if their not happy they should ask their husband or god for guidance.
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Ask their husband? Lots of husbands out there are dumber than dirt, inconsiderate, uncouth, selfish, and so on.
I am old enough to have seen absolute miracles, in that SOME men actually find a woman who will marry them.
Its like the women have faith that they might be able to change their man, improve him, make something out of him that he isn't now. It says in the book of James, faith without works is dead. There are some men who are so bad that no amount of work will be enough to make him into anything better than the pig he is now.
My one brother is so bad, tho, that he never married. I guess there isn't a woman alive that will sink that low.
 
My wife is also caught between wanting to work (she likes having nice things) and wanting to be the perfect mom. Ultimately, in both cases, she holds herself up to an unrealistic ideal of working and being a mom. My mother did that as well, now that I think about it. However, in both cases, they could be happy very easily if they leave stuff alone, but they let guilt eat at them for not being perfect.

One problem my wife has is that she does not let reality be imperfect. The house must be spotless at all times, she must make lots of money, she must be awesome with me in bed, she must be the perfect mom, she must be the perfect friend to her friends, etc. I try to help her understand that often a lot of these things can be achieved when you aren't looking or when you relax and you have a full set of creative and physical energy, but when you are tired, even small tasks can become monumental. She hasn't come to the same conclusion about that as I have though.
 
AmericanSon316 said:
Whats the point of this thread? If women arent happy they should look at their lives? Are you living for your husband or is he living ko keep you happy if it's the second one then thats why your unhappy. A womans place is in the home and if she is unhappy with where she is she should redecorate or take the kids out for a walk nstead of getting fat watching oprah and not cleaning. We gave them the right to vote and the right to work and theright to free speech and if their not happy they should ask their husband or god for guidance.
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Can you please quote the specific scripture that states that "a woman's place is in the home?" Your comment seems to be in conflict with Proverbs 31.
 
megaprogman said:
My wife is also caught between wanting to work (she likes having nice things) and wanting to be the perfect mom.

One problem my wife has is that she does not let reality be imperfect. The house must be spotless at all times, she must make lots of money, she must be awesome with me in bed, she must be the perfect mom, she must be the perfect friend to her friends, etc. I try to help her understand that often a lot of these things can be achieved when you aren't looking or when you relax and you have a full set of creative and physical energy, but when you are tired, even small tasks can become monumental. She hasn't come to the same conclusion about that as I have though.
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Your wife hasn't figured out, yet, that you can't have everything, huh? My house is spotless for 3 days a week. The other 4 days, not so much.

Learning to say no and identify your real priorities is an art that can save your mental health, as a woman.

I was talking to the parent of the boy that my daughter dates, and she was bragging/bemoaning the time she spends volunteering with the band, including 16 hours per Saturday working at the local college football stadium to earn money for the band.

I looked at her, and all I could think to say was, "I love my kids, and I'm glad that my daughter is in band, but there's no way in hell I'd do that."

And I wouldn't. I mean that in all seriousness.
 
Catz Part Deux said:
Your wife hasn't figured out, yet, that you can't have everything, huh? My house is spotless for 3 days a week. The other 4 days, not so much.

Learning to say no and identify your real priorities is an art that can save your mental health, as a woman.

I was talking to the parent of the boy that my daughter dates, and she was bragging/bemoaning the time she spends volunteering with the band, including 16 hours per Saturday working at the local college football stadium to earn money for the band.

I looked at her, and all I could think to say was, "I love my kids, and I'm glad that my daughter is in band, but there's no way in hell I'd do that."

And I wouldn't. I mean that in all seriousness.
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The way I see it is often when you let go, you end up doing 90% what you meant to do anyway and you feel a lot better after. You might not get everything you want, but you usually get most things and what you need.
 
megaprogman said:
The way I see it is often when you let go, you end up doing 90% what you meant to do anyway and you feel a lot better after. You might not get everything you want, but you usually get most things and what you need.
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I think a lot of us who have careers grew up in homes with SAH moms. And I've realized that my mom's home sets a standard of perfection that mine is never going to attain, because she was there full-time. Hell, my house would be twice as clean if I only worked 4 days a week. But, I have (really) 2 days a week to clean, fix things, do the yardwork, etc. If I do one of those things, the other two get dropped or done less well. I do mow the yard every week, we vacuum the entire house once a week, I sweep/mop once a week, and we do dishes daily. The kids have assigned house-cleaning chores. Even so, there are a lot of days when I come home from work and have to go automatically into drill sergeant mode because I live with two teenagers, 4 cats, a dog and a bunny.

They make messes. :shrug:

However, I grew up in a perfect house. We could never make a mess, if something got broken all hell broke loose, and that is no way to live. My house will never be more important to me than my kids and their friends feeling comfortable and welcome in my home. Which is probably why there is hardly a weekend when my house isn't full of teenagers. I'm okay with that. I'll have 40 or more years to have an immaculate house when my kids are grown and gone.
 
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