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Happiness is not judged by one's gender.
Unless one is a female, of course.
Unless one is a female, of course.
Easiest question ever. Why aren't women happy?
Men.
I think society is harder on men though.
I believe for the most part a stay at home wife or mother is socially accepted and respected whereas a stay at home husband or dad is considered a loser.
What is the deal? Women today are getting all of the choices that their mothers fought for...so why are women tending to be less happy and men are becoming happier?
"As the ERA woke women up, I remember that initial thrill of empowerment sweeping over us," she said. "But Shannon's generation has had to face all the implications we didn't fully anticipate, and I see how incredibly hard it can be. I don't know anybody who would want to go back to the way it was, but I think those high expectations are taking a toll on women's happiness."
The Happiness Quotient / Do high expectations and a plethora of choices make modern women miserable?
"Perhaps the most persuasive explanation for the happiness gap echoes Lisa Boucher's observation: Having choices means that women actually must choose. "
"I want to preface this by saying that you're catching me on a really crazed week. I know I'm lucky to have a beautiful, happy kid; a great job; a great husband who pitches in," she acknowledges. "But here's where I am right at this moment: Last night I just turned to him and said, 'You know what, I'm not happy in my life.
" 'I've lost my joy.' "
The Happiness Quotient / Do high expectations and a plethora of choices make modern women miserable?
Why is this?
Why is the more and more common?
Why Aren't Women Happy?
I hear more and more of this...
Having watched her own parents divorce when she was 13, forcing her homemaker mother to get a job, Boucher vowed that she would never be felled by a similar fate. "I swore that I would never depend on any man, that I would establish my own successful career, that I wouldn't let anybody into my life that much," she says. "But now I have somebody to share my life with, and what I really want most is to be able to stay home and spend time with my daughter.
"So we women broke out of the little boxes that defined us, and now it seems like everybody's trying to get back in there. I'm trying to get back in."
It is sad. I am not sure why society feels that it has to "evolve" into something...does it? Where are we going? What are we leaving behind? Who benifits? Who is being hurt.
Originally Posted by Catz
You understand that this is confirmation bias. You are paying attention to the data that confirms your existing views, and ignoring additional information. That's no way to formulate a logical conclusion.
I"m glad you live in NZ and not the U.S. The last thing I want is to see my home's value drop by a considerable margin. I've made a significant investment in my home, and have paid additional dollars into my mortgage each month to increase my equity in my house, which now is 3 times what I owe on the home.
I have a feeling that you would only feel this way if you didn't already own a home. The last thing any homeowner wants is to see the value of their home decrease.
I don’t want home owner’s homes to devalue; I want housing prices to be more reasonable.
Prices reflect what people are willing to pay, and that often sees home owner’s going into debt by a substantial margin. I worked in real estate for a bit, and the first lesson was that people will pay more than they can afford for a home almost every single time.
Connie Podesta says it best...we arent happy because our parents have spent their lives trying to make us 'happy' instead of teaching us how to be strong responsible, driven, personally motivated beings with a good work ethic and a strong sense of positive self esteem, self worth, and self value.
exactly. 'happiness' isn't a goal you can shoot for, only a by-product you hope for.
so why are women tending to be less happy and men are becoming happier?
I don't know; I've had years-long stretches of "happiness", or at least contentment.
Basically, any time nothing bad is happening, or seems imminently about to happen, I am content. To me, contentment and happiness are the same.
Ironically, though, these are periods I don't remember well, in retrospect. They blur in my memory. I only remember that nothing much happened, and I was happy. I remember the hard times more. The hard times also seem to be my most productive times; they are the times that force me to stretch beyond my comfort zone, and actually grow as a human being.
I didnt mean all women by thw way. But a hell of a LOT of em. The younger women seem to want to have a wedding but not so much a marriage. :roll:
That's mostly because they went to far with toys and debt.
I said that over 15 years ago. I said wedding whatever, I don't want an awesome wedding. I want an awesome marriage. I don't want to go into debt for that ONE BIG DAY, that's stoopid.
I said that over 15 years ago. I said wedding whatever, I don't want an awesome wedding. I want an awesome marriage. I don't want to go into debt for that ONE BIG DAY, that's stoopid.
:shock: *Putting arm around Boop*
/cuddles in
*looking into eyes* So.... I see you like Doctor Who too.
*looking into eyes* So.... I see you like Doctor Who too.
Actually, I have it on good authority that she prefers Doctor Tutsi.
Shouldn't I know that name? I mean, if that's who or what I prefer.
Oh so much. Don't suppose you caught Torchwood?
I have met Kai Owen and did you know Torchwood is an anagram of Doctor Who?