• This is a political forum that is non-biased/non-partisan and treats every person's position on topics equally. This debate forum is not aligned to any political party. In today's politics, many ideas are split between and even within all the political parties. Often we find ourselves agreeing on one platform but some topics break our mold. We are here to discuss them in a civil political debate. If this is your first visit to our political forums, be sure to check out the RULES. Registering for debate politics is necessary before posting. Register today to participate - it's free!

Is Oral Sex 'Sex'?

Is Oral Sex 'Sex'?

  • Of course it is

    Votes: 42 64.6%

  • Only if it culminates in orgasm

    Votes: 3 4.6%

  • It is not sex

    Votes: 12 18.5%

  • Undecided

    Votes: 4 6.2%

  • other

    Votes: 4 6.2%
  • Total voters
    65
1069 said:
It was suggested earlier in the thread that sex involved mutual nakedness and mutual attempts to give pleasure to one's partner.
Oral sex involves neither.
Click to expand...

anal sex can involve neither as well
 
spud_meister said:
thats my view too
Click to expand...

Maybe that's because your perspective has typically been from the receiving end, ie the side that gets naked and has an orgasm.
You might feel differently if you were the one giving the blowjob.
 
1069 said:
Maybe that's because your perspective has typically been from the receiving end, ie the side that gets naked and has an orgasm.
You might feel differently if you were the one giving the blowjob.
Click to expand...

i've given oral sex to girlfriends plenty of times, so im not unfamiliar with not orgasiming whilst performing a sex act
 
1069 said:
It was suggested earlier in the thread that sex involved mutual nakedness and mutual attempts to give pleasure to one's partner.
Oral sex involves neither.
Click to expand...

You can easily have genital to genital sex without disrobing. You've never had a quickie over the kitchen counter? :cool: :2razz:
 
MyOwnDrum said:
Here's the article:
Most Young Adults: Oral Sex Is Not Sex - CBS News

Apparently, most young adults don't think oral sex is actually 'sex'. What do you think?
Click to expand...

It sure is sex when I engage in it!

But I wouldn't ask "most young adults". What do they know?!!? They make up the most foolish and narcissistic generations known to man! They come up with this bonehead opinion because they can't see the world beyond their own personal desires.
 
Telecaster said:
It sure is sex when I engage in it!

But I wouldn't ask "most young adults". What do they know?!!? They make up the most foolish and narcissistic generations known to man! They come up with this bonehead opinion because they can't see the world beyond their own personal desires.
Click to expand...

and you're a narcissistic old fart with no knowledge of the youth
 
spud_meister said:
why do you link it to anal but not oral sex?
Click to expand...

I'm not sure, it just doesn't connect that way in my mind. When I think of 'sex' I think of vaginal or anal penetration, but not oral sex.

Let me ask this question. For those of you who do think oral is 'sex' what about a handjob?
 
molten_dragon said:
I'm not sure, it just doesn't connect that way in my mind. When I think of 'sex' I think of vaginal or anal penetration, but not oral sex.

Let me ask this question. For those of you who do think oral is 'sex' what about a handjob?
Click to expand...

i'd class it as a sex act, but not "sex" in the same class as a blowjob, as there is no actual penetration of a body orifice, which is my loose definition of sex
 
spud_meister said:
but does it say specifically penis-vaginal intercourse, no, it says sex, which alludes to all sex acts.
Click to expand...

It asks of "oral sex" is considered "sex". It says nothing of "just "sex".

Nowhere here does it talk about oral sex as sex. When most people talk, and your friend says, "we had sex", the follow up response is, "you slept together?" or "you ****ed?" or "did you use protection" to clear up any confusion over just oral sex or the like.

sex   /sɛks/ Show Spelled[seks] Show IPA
–noun
1.either the male or female division of a species, esp. as differentiated with reference to the reproductive functions.
2.the sum of the structural and functional differences by which the male and female are distinguished, or the phenomena or behavior dependent on these differences.
3.the instinct or attraction drawing one sex toward another, or its manifestation in life and conduct.
4.coitus.
5.genitalia.
–verb (used with object)
6.to ascertain the sex of, esp. of newly-hatched chicks.
—Verb phrase
7.sex up, Informal.
a.to arouse sexually: The only intent of that show was to sex up the audience.
b.to increase the appeal of; to make more interesting, attractive, or exciting: We've decided to sex up the movie with some battle scenes.
—Idiom
8.to have sex, to engage in sexual intercourse.

http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/sex
 
Last edited:
Flea said:
It is a sexual act, but it is not sex, as most people use the term meaning inercourse. 23 people think that a blowjob is the same as intercourse? Some naive people out there. :lol:
Click to expand...

Such a distinction is just silly. I can accept that a generation wants to revise the definition of a word. But oral sex still presents most of the same dynamics as intercourse;
Both the giver and receiver gain physical and emotional sexual pleasure.
STDs can still be transmitted.
Only performing fully dressed oral sex on a stranger or friend does not dissuade the anger and pain experienced by your wife-girlfriend/husband-boyfriend whom you cheat on while performing the supposed "non-sex" act.

It is sex. I think the "naive" comes in by thinking such a distinction matters or is necessary. Is the purpose of such an idea to avoid guilt? Or set a legal precedence? The idea is just dumb.
 
Last edited:
1069 said:
Oral sex involves neither.
Click to expand...

Only if you're DOING IT WRONG.

I can't speak for anyone else, but i don't expect to be fully satisfied every time I have sex. It turns me on to satisfy my partner. If someone is having an orgasm, even if it is only one of the partners, it's sex. I rarely do this without being naked, but if my partner and I are using our hands to stimulate each other to climax, it's still sex.
 
Last edited:
Telecaster said:
Such a distinction is just silly. I can accept that a generation wants to revise the definition of a word. But oral sex still presents most of the same dynamics as intercourse;
Both the giver and receiver gain physical and emotional sexual pleasure.
STDs can still be transmitted.
Click to expand...

I don't remember my sex ed very well, can you get pregnant during oral sex? ;)


Only performing fully dressed oral sex on a stranger or friend does not dissuade the anger and pain experienced by your wife-girlfriend/husband-boyfriend whom you cheat on while performing the supposed "non-sex" act.
Click to expand...

Is this personal experience? Also, holding hands with a strange woman, interlacing you fingers and giving each other googly eyes will probably give your wife/girlfriend pain and anger as well, is hand holding sex then, by your definition?

It is sex. I think the "naive" comes in by thinking such a distinction matters or is necessary. Is the purpose of such an idea to avoid guilt? Or set a legal precedence?
Click to expand...

It is a sex "act", not "sex".. A distinction is not necassary, a distinction just is. Sorry, that is how I, and most people that I know seems to view it, same as the definition that I just provided. :shrug:

The idea is just dumb.
Click to expand...

It is a shame that you hold such a disrespectful view on the issue and about people's views on this site.
 
Last edited:
It is in my world.
 
missypea said:
Are you nutz, lady?


:2razz:
Click to expand...


Nah, just realistic. You know how daily circumstances can intrude. We both have busy schedules, I have two kids, we're both over 40. Expecting fullblown fireworks every single time is pretty unlikely. But there's plenty of reciprocity. ;)
 
spud_meister said:
and you're a narcissistic old fart with no knowledge of the youth
Click to expand...

What...am I supposed to take Youth Studies in college? Having two kids, 31 and 21, coming to know their friends, and best of all, paying attention to modern pop-culture in its many ever-changing forms does much to help one gain knowledge of youth.

(don't take this personal if you were just sh_ _'n with me. either way I thank you for giving me the opportunity to spout these pearls of wisdom out my ass);)
 
Catz Part Deux said:
Nah, just realistic. You know how daily circumstances can intrude. We both have busy schedules, I have two kids, we're both over 40. Expecting fullblown fireworks every single time is pretty unlikely. But there's plenty of reciprocity. ;)
Click to expand...





My expectation to be unsatisfied is once a year.....after his return from a hunting trip.


If you're ok with that it's your life but it's not something that would fit into my world.


:shock:
 
missypea said:
My expectation to be unsatisfied is once a year.....after his return from a hunting trip.

If you're ok with that it's your life but it's not something that would fit into my world.

:shock:
Click to expand...

It's not always me being unsatisfied. It's an even 50/50, I'd say. And those are just the quickies. ;)
 
molten_dragon said:
I'm not sure, it just doesn't connect that way in my mind. When I think of 'sex' I think of vaginal or anal penetration, but not oral sex.

Let me ask this question. For those of you who do think oral is 'sex' what about a handjob?
Click to expand...

Maybe I will revise my belief on this subject a bit. I'll put it this way...

1. If it doesn't get you in trouble, it isn't sex. If your partner is not bothered by you giving someone else a bj or hj, it isn't sex.

2. If your sexual input of any kind, up to intercourse, gives the other person no pleasure whatsoever, it is not sex.
 
Catz Part Deux said:
It's not always me being unsatisfied. It's an even 50/50, I'd say. And those are just the quickies. ;)
Click to expand...

I'm really surprised, Catz. I just never pictured you as someone who would be happy with that.


Hell, I'm into quickies just as much as anybody. We had one this morning but I go into it with the full expectation that we're both going to walk away satisfied.


You are blowing my mind.

:shock:
 
Nah, it doesn't bother me. We have sex ALOT. And I'm satisfied about 90% of the time. Just sometimes it isn't possible, for whatever reason. And we take turns. For instance, I've been known to give him road head on trips. Full-blown sex just wouldn't work.
 
Last edited:
Catz Part Deux said:
Nah, it doesn't bother me. We have sex ALOT. And I'm satisfied about 90% of the time. Just sometimes it isn't possible, for whatever reason. And we take turns. For instance, I've been known to give him road head on trips. Full-blown sex just wouldn't work.
Click to expand...



Better yet to find the little dirt road that leads to a wooded area.

;)
 
Telecaster said:
Maybe I will revise my belief on this subject a bit. I'll put it this way...

1. If it doesn't get you in trouble, it isn't sex. If your partner is not bothered by you giving someone else a bj or hj, it isn't sex.

2. If your sexual input of any kind, up to intercourse, gives the other person no pleasure whatsoever, it is not sex.
Click to expand...

What? :shock:

Originally Posted by Telecaster
Such a distinction is just silly. I can accept that a generation wants to revise the definition of a word. But oral sex still presents most of the same dynamics as intercourse;
Both the giver and receiver gain physical and emotional sexual pleasure.
It is sex.
Click to expand...

oral sex still presents most of the same dynamics as intercourse; It is sex.

and now you qualify that with

If it doesn't get you in trouble, it isn't sex.

And

If your partner is not bothered by you giving someone else a bj or hj, it isn't sex.

Seems TOTALLY CONTRADICTORY!

So, oral sex is sex unless your partner is not bothered by oral sex, then it isn't sex? uh-wha-wha-what?
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Back
Top Bottom