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Would you forgive your significant other if he/she cheated on you?

Would you forgive your significant other if he/she cheated on you?

  • Yes

    Votes: 6 13.3%

  • No

    Votes: 17 37.8%

  • I don't know--it would depend (describe circumstances)

    Votes: 22 48.9%
  • Total voters
    45
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The question is: Would you forgive your significant other if he/she cheated on you?

For me, it would depend. If I had been rejecting my husband emotionally and/or physically, I could see myself forgiving him. It would also depend on the extent to which he was unfaithful. Did he just kiss this other person? Or did he go all the way without a condom--putting me at risk? If he put me at risk, it wouldn't matter if I had emotionally or physically ignored him. I couldn't forgive his putting me at risk. Although I'm not sure I could forgive him if he had sex or oral sex with another woman. The thought of that repulses me, and I'm not sure I could ever get that image out of my head.
 
Hell no.
I already told him if he dared, i'd rip off his penis and shove it down his throat.

If he isn't getting enough sex from me, tell me. No need to go get a whore.
 
aps said:
The question is: Would you forgive your significant other if he/she cheated on you?

For me, it would depend. If I had been rejecting my husband emotionally and/or physically, I could see myself forgiving him. It would also depend on the extent to which he was unfaithful. Did he just kiss this other person? Or did he go all the way without a condom--putting me at risk? If he put me at risk, it wouldn't matter if I had emotionally or physically ignored him. I couldn't forgive his putting me at risk. Although I'm not sure I could forgive him if he had sex or oral sex with another woman. The thought of that repulses me, and I'm not sure I could ever get that image out of my head.
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I have a strict rule and if that specific barrier is crossed, I will be heading to the court house to file separation papers.

I will not be made a fool of twice.
 
Laila said:
Hell no.
I already told him if he dared, i'd rip off his penis and shove it down his throat.

If he isn't getting enough sex from me, tell me. No need to go get a whore.
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:shock::shock::shock: Note to self: never be mean to Laila. :mrgreen:
 
Harry Guerrilla said:
I have a strict rule and if that specific barrier is crossed, I will be heading to the court house to file separation papers.

I will not be made a fool of twice.
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I haven't read about the first time. Have you discussed this on here?
 
Laila said:
Hell no.
I already told him if he dared, i'd rip off his penis and shove it down his throat.

If he isn't getting enough sex from me, tell me. No need to go get a whore.
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I agree. COMMUNICATE.
 
I can forgive damned near anything, given time. I've had more practice in my life than any man should have to.

But Leslie and I are open. Even if we weren't, this just isn't something I'm deeply concerned with, and it's not something I would find that hurtful in the first place.
 
Korimyr the Rat said:
I can forgive damned near anything, given time. I've had more practice in my life than any man should have to.

But Leslie and I are open. Even if we weren't, this just isn't something I'm deeply concerned with, and it's not something I would find that hurtful in the first place.
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What do you mean by "open"? You are communicative or that you are allowed to be with other people?
 
aps said:
What do you mean by "open"? You are communicative or that you are allowed to be with other people?
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Depends on what you mean by "be with". We're allowed to have sex with other people, as long as we don't put other people first.
 
Korimyr the Rat said:
Depends on what you mean by "be with". We're allowed to have sex with other people, as long as we don't put other people first.
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Very interesting. Thank you for your candidness.

When you say "have sex," this includes sex other than intercourse (like oral sex)?
 
aps said:
The question is: Would you forgive your significant other if he/she cheated on you?
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I would have to say eventually but she would no longer be my significant other.
 
aps said:
I haven't read about the first time. Have you discussed this on here?
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good grief!

The first time is the hypothetical asked by your op question. :doh
 
aps said:
When you say "have sex," this includes sex other than intercourse (like oral sex)?
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I've always thought it counted. Never saw much of a moral distinction there.

kaya'08 said:
Best relationship ever.
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That really depends on whether or not you're okay with your girlfriend having sex with other men. I'm not the only one allowed. And it wasn't my idea.
 
ARealConservative said:
good grief!

The first time is the hypothetical asked by your op question. :doh
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Ooops! My bad.

But if it makes you feel better to be obnoxious about it, be my guest. :roll:
 
I've had it happen three times actually, to varying degree's.

The first was with in high school. I had crushed over this girl for years. Was back in high school. She ended up going to the beach during her spring break with her family, meeting some guys, going up to their room and drinking, and gave one a blow job. Just couldn't get it out of my head (doubly so since that was farther than we had gone at the time....was a young inexeprienced guy at that point) and we broke it off.

The second was with my first really long relationship (year and a half). The girl was a bit older than me, very experienced, and was my first time. She was a bit of a wild child (I knew this going into it) but I guess enjoyed finally actually trying to be with a "good guy" rather than trouble (for example her BF before me was double her age). She graduated a year ahead of me and ended up going to an all girls university that was near by our home. The common joke was "they recruit there" with the term BUGs/LUGs (bi/les until graduation) were common there, but she had convinced me nothing to worry about...

...about 6 months later she tells me she had been messing around with her friend on her hall for the past week.

Now, at this ponit, I'm sure many guys would be going "ROCK! Threesome"...however, this was the relationship right after the last one I talked about (the current girl in question hated the other one on principle alone simply because she cheated on me....iiiirony) and I'm one of those helpless romantic types. So yeah, that one ended rather messy....well, messy and elongated (it was an on and off again, mostly sexually, thing for the next 2 to 3 years).

My current girlfirend, who I've been with for about 4 years now, also had (I just have great luck don't I?). However, the circumstances for this one was different. We were doing a long distance thing at the time and had been for a number of months. It was at a point she was kind of doubting the relationship because of how difficult it was. It also helped that it was only making out. I knew it was her attempting to find a way to push me away, figuring it'd be easier to make me leave than to actually try and leave herself. It took a little while to forgive her for that (we spent a week apart not really talking as I thought it over) and for a long while she thankfully stayed away from the guy (it was a long time friend of hers), but it worked out in the end. We've had no such issue creep up over the past 2 years now that the distance has been removed and we're actually close together. If something happened again with him, or something major happened with someone else, it'd be over though.

I think in general for me, a drunken kiss type thing I can excuse. Not if its repeated, and don't go hang out with the guy you did it with the next week, but in general that's something I can over look. However something more than that its not likely to stay serious.
 
Depending on the circumstances, emotionally and /or physically ignored, then I would probably forgive her, I think. If it was just one of those things that happens, then no, I would have divorce papers drew-up immediately. Then I would bang her sisters and friends.;)
 
It depends on how one views the word "forgive". I might be capable of working through the issue in such a way as to preserve the marriage, but deep down I don't think I could actually forgive.

I'm a scorpio. We're wired that way.
 
Zyph, thank you for your candidness! I love reading stuff like that!

tlmorg, I hear you.

Reverend, KMA. ;)

Gardner, that makes perfect sense.
 
I could forgive, but I could never forget. That's the real problem with being cheated on. I would always be able to rationalize a reason to cheat on her. "I owe her one." would always be in my mind.
 
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