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Would you forgive your significant other if he/she cheated on you?

Would you forgive your significant other if he/she cheated on you?

  • Yes

    Votes: 6 13.3%
  • No

    Votes: 17 37.8%
  • I don't know--it would depend (describe circumstances)

    Votes: 22 48.9%

  • Total voters
    45
I'd like to add that I would not get angry over it, regardless of the scenario.

I do have a very bad temper, but it really doesn't come out when people do things to me such as this. If I were physically hit, my temper would rise, but emotional hits don't get me angry.

I've got a weird temper though. I've got a long fuse in many ways, and a nearly invisible fuse in others.

It's called bipolar.:lol:
 
Just out of curiosity, why the double standard? If she could forgive you why couldn't you forgive her?

Because I don't trust anyone and for her to have earned my trust then to violate my trust. Would be unforgivable, period.

That and the fact that I wouldn't violate her trust by cheating on her... because of the way I'd feel about her doing the same thing in reverse.
 
I was wanting to hit on you until I learned to fear for my life!!!:lol:

I'm flattered but don't let that side of me scare you.
I'm a lovely person ... deep deep down ... :)
 
I'm flattered but don't let that side of me scare you.
I'm a lovely person ... deep deep down ... :)

Yeah, I have a good side to,....somewhere!:shock:

You are fine Laila, my wife threatens to kill me everyother day, that is why I lock her in the basement. We are so in love, ahhhhh.:mrgreen:
 
Until they find out about my violent tendencies and then run for their lives ;P

For some, that would be part of the attraction.
 
For some, that would be part of the attraction.

That is very true.
My partner sees it as one of the qualities that he loves for some reason.
 
I don't know? If my wife ever balled up her fist and punched me like a man, she better be prepared to be beat down like a man. I mean I don't put my hands on anyone, especially my wife, I demand the same of everyone.
 
Yes, depending on the circumstances.

A heat of passion type of thing I could more easily forgive. Once.

An ongoing relationship wherein I was lied to constantly, there were feelings involved between them, etc, would be extremely difficult - if not impossible - for me to forgive. Unless I had seriously been neglecting them or something. Even then, it would be difficult.

So really, for me, it's an emotional thing. I guess it boils down to the fact that I value the emotions, feelings, and actual relationship more than just a physical encounter. If I felt cheated on emotionally, that would be much harder or even impossible to forgive.


That's pretty much how I feel. Except if the heat of passion involved someone I was close to, I couldn't forgive that.
 
For years I struggled with the idea and was unable to separate love and sex.

I'm capable of it, but it only leaves me feeling sad and empty. We're not built for this, and acclimating yourself to it is a process of self-injury and desensitization.

Leslie is uncomfortable with my emotional attachments to other women, but she understands and trusts in my sense of loyalty. She knows I'll burn any relationship that threatens my obligations to her.
 
I haven't read about the first time. Have you discussed this on here?

It hasn't ever happened but if it did, it would be over at that point.
I can forgive but I won't ever let it happen again. In my mind, one cheating occurrence destroys the bond and trust of a relationship.

I'm pretty much 26 (my bday is in a few days) and me being that age and male I happen to have an appendage than constantly wants me to conquer all the women in existence.

If I can control that, there is no reason why my wife can't control herself.
 
Why do people have the tendency to stray? Tell me if I'm wrong, but once you tell someone you love them, you can't just stop loving them, or you've been lying since the beginning. Thats why I'm 15, have never had a girlfriend, and will as soon as I find the right person. There's no need to hurt someone over a mistake....
 
Why do people have the tendency to stray? Tell me if I'm wrong, but once you tell someone you love them, you can't just stop loving them, or you've been lying since the beginning. Thats why I'm 15, have never had a girlfriend, and will as soon as I find the right person. There's no need to hurt someone over a mistake....

Don't take this the wrong way at all, but you just have alot of growing up to do.

:2wave:
 
Why do people have the tendency to stray? Tell me if I'm wrong, but once you tell someone you love them, you can't just stop loving them, or you've been lying since the beginning. Thats why I'm 15, have never had a girlfriend, and will as soon as I find the right person. There's no need to hurt someone over a mistake....

And you don't stop loving them. Just because someone strays doesn't mean that they stop loving the person that they stray from. Granted, they have violated the trust in that relationship, but I don't think it changes the amount of love. I think one of the main problems is that people automatically tie love and sex together, when they are really two separate things. Sex can be great on its own and love can be great on its own. When combined they enhance each other.
 
Why do people have the tendency to stray? Tell me if I'm wrong, but once you tell someone you love them, you can't just stop loving them, or you've been lying since the beginning.

It's not always a lie. Many people have a problem discerning the difference between lust and love. Lust is what happens over the first few months/years of a relationship. So they may really think they are in love.

Love is something far deeper and doesn't come with all the romantic trappings that movies would lead one to believe. They typically describe lust.

To me, love is hearing the wife taking a giant, gassy dump and just laughing about it.
 
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It's not always a lie. Many people have a problem discerning the difference between lust and love. Lust is what happens over the first few months/years of a relationship. So they may really think they are in love.

Love is something far deeper and doesn't come with all the romantic trappings that movies would lead one to believe. They typically describe lust.

To me, love is hearing the wife taking a giant, gassy dump and just laughing about it.

I always ask my wife if she hit a deer? :lol:
 
Don't take this the wrong way at all, but you just have alot of growing up to do.

:2wave:

I know, and I'm willing to wait. Right now, I'm at Harvard Univ attending a Economics program under SSP. They don't want sex here, but they understand that there is no stopping it, so they just avoid the issue.... I am proud to say that I'm not gay, but I still haven't checked out any girls while I've been here :). I feel when the time is right, it'll just happen you know? And if it doesn't, quite frankly, people have enough on their plates as it is.

One thing I really hate about teenagers these days, is that they get together, then a week, or a month, or something, they break up and it's ugly. Forgive me for saying this, but people are waaaayyyyy to horny, and needy.
 
I know, and I'm willing to wait. Right now, I'm at Harvard Univ attending a Economics program under SSP. They don't want sex here, but they understand that there is no stopping it, so they just avoid the issue.... I am proud to say that I'm not gay, but I still haven't checked out any girls while I've been here :). I feel when the time is right, it'll just happen you know? And if it doesn't, quite frankly, people have enough on their plates as it is.

One thing I really hate about teenagers these days, is that they get together, then a week, or a month, or something, they break up and it's ugly. Forgive me for saying this, but people are waaaayyyyy to horny, and needy.

Those are important character building experiences, though. It's silly to try and avoid them. As you get older you learn to appreciate them because they teach you incredibly valuable lessons about yourself.
 
Those are important character building experiences, though. It's silly to try and avoid them. As you get older you learn to appreciate them because they teach you incredibly valuable lessons about yourself.

At 15 he can avoid them for a while longer.


But by 21, he's gonna need some tail. :lol:
 
I know, and I'm willing to wait. Right now, I'm at Harvard Univ attending a Economics program under SSP. They don't want sex here, but they understand that there is no stopping it, so they just avoid the issue.... I am proud to say that I'm not gay, but I still haven't checked out any girls while I've been here :). I feel when the time is right, it'll just happen you know? And if it doesn't, quite frankly, people have enough on their plates as it is.

One thing I really hate about teenagers these days, is that they get together, then a week, or a month, or something, they break up and it's ugly. Forgive me for saying this, but people are waaaayyyyy to horny, and needy.

Good for you Father Repeter!!!;) Just kidding, keep focused and it will all come as it should.:)
 
Why do people have the tendency to stray? Tell me if I'm wrong, but once you tell someone you love them, you can't just stop loving them, or you've been lying since the beginning. Thats why I'm 15, have never had a girlfriend, and will as soon as I find the right person. There's no need to hurt someone over a mistake....

Because it is like Lays, you can't just eat one!!!;)
 
You know, I do in fact like a girl. I think she is the most wonderful, beautiful, person in the world. At the same time, I understand I don't know her at all. I understand I don't like her, but her body, because that's expected of teens. The funny part is that everytime she saw me, she hugged me, started talking to me, and all that, but I did nothing ( and I didn't see her everyday, and only talked for like 5 mins). Now, she has a boyfriend. I personally am waiting for my emotions over her to subside, because they are really screwing with me while I'm here at Harvard. Call me stupid, but I know I won't have the balls to do anything, just because I chose to be rational about it....

Next year, I will see her about everyday.
 
Why do people have the tendency to stray? Tell me if I'm wrong, but once you tell someone you love them, you can't just stop loving them, or you've been lying since the beginning. Thats why I'm 15, have never had a girlfriend, and will as soon as I find the right person. There's no need to hurt someone over a mistake....
You're wrong.

People can and do fall out of love. Sucks massively when it happens, but it does happen. Relationships are complicated that way.

Don't lose any sleep over the not having had a girlfriend bit. You'll get one soon enough, you'll lose one soon after, and in between you'll do a fun bit of growing up.
 
You're wrong.

People can and do fall out of love. Sucks massively when it happens, but it does happen. Relationships are complicated that way.

Don't lose any sleep over the not having had a girlfriend bit. You'll get one soon enough, you'll lose one soon after, and in between you'll do a fun bit of growing up.

I would say that what You define as falling out of love is perhaps more along the lines of growing apart and not keeping the commitment to work to stay together. Definitely the feelings become less intense as time passes, though they are replaced with something deeper and more abiding.
 
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