Husbands are to love their wives as Christ love the church, and laid his life down for it. A self-sacrificing love.
That is completely at odds with the idea of ownership or property as we think of it in this day/age.
Hell, it's completely at odds with the idea of "love" as we think of it in this day and age, as well. Our notion of "love" is entirely self-serving and transitory, as well; frankly it amazes me that anyone bothers with it anymore, with the degree to which we have debased it.
Relationships, especially relationships of family and marriage, are based on mutual obligations. Property cannot be the recipient of obligation-- and I would argue cannot give it, either-- and thus a man's wife cannot be his property.
Didn't vote in the poll, because my opinion is split. Some women-- like some men--
are property and can be treated and traded as such, but they're not fit to marry. And the very act of marrying them would mean that they are no longer property.
As far as infidelity goes... Fidelity, my sense of my moral obligations, is the core of my being. It is the largest portion of the reason I do not put a gun in my mouth and end my suffering right now. It is why I plan for the future, and work for the future, and endure conditions and treatment-- a whole existence, essentially-- that I find barely tolerable.
That said, I do not consider having sex with other people to constitute infidelity on either my part or my partner's. It is not a condition of my relationship-- or my upcoming marriage-- with Leslie, it is obviously not a condition of my relationship with anyone else, and it's been a few years since it has been a condition of any relationship of mine, and that has been largely by default. Fidelity is keeping a roof over our heads and food on our table, supporting each other through adversity, and never
ever allowing anyone or anything else to come between us. Fidelity is about loyalty and support; sex matters only because it helps to uphold that.