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Not to replace the discussion in the other thread, just a public poll to get a more accurate total on the forum.
Not to replace the discussion in the other thread, just a public poll to get a more accurate total on the forum.
Not to replace the discussion in the other thread, just a public poll to get a more accurate total on the forum.
Except for the fact that the lack of anonymity may inhibit some people from responding.
I voted no.
Now could someone please explain this to all the men who have ever expected me to be faithful to them? :lol:
I think there is a difference between vowed fidelity and ownership.
I just don't understand why fidelity matters so much to people and why it has to be a "make or break" kinda deal.
I just don't understand why fidelity matters so much to people and why it has to be a "make or break" kinda deal.
Fidelity is simply a personal expectation. I've known plenty of couples in open relationships, they got along as well as many faithful couples. However I don't think their relationships lasted as long on average. They completely on fire whle they were together but sort of burned out a bit more quickly.
I couldn't do that I don't think. When I fall in love I really fall in love. For me it's one of those things that either we are together or we are not. Otherwise it's just sex. Which is okay if that's what you're after, but I was never comfortable jumping from woman to woman. I wanted something that had some meaning. My partner has to inspire me, if she doesn't then it just doesn't work.
I haven't noticed any difference in how long regular marriages vs. open marriages last among the ones I know. I know mine would have lasted a lot longer if my ex wasn't so traditional.
Monogamy just doesn't work for me. The sad part is that they think I stop loving them. I don't. My heart is big enough for at least two. It's not just about sex either. I don't sleep with people I have no feelings for.
I can dig that. Unfortunately for the guys, I bet you have a trail of broken hearts behind you. You are kinda teh sexeh you know...:mrgreen:
I just don't understand why fidelity matters so much to people and why it has to be a "make or break" kinda deal.
Not to replace the discussion in the other thread, just a public poll to get a more accurate total on the forum.
Because that's how human beings evolved. Cavemen worked hard to provide food to his family, so he wanted to be sure that he was doing so for children with his own genetic material, not someone else's. So he got jealous if he found out that his woman was sleeping with someone else. There wasn't any birth control back then.
Now, if you find a man who shares your views in infidelity, then fine, but it's unreasonable to expect a man to overcome his evolution.
We're a long way from the cavemen days.
Also, explain this one to me then: What about the guys who expected me to be faithful, but thought it was no big deal if THEY cheated on ME?
We're a long way from the cavemen days.
Also, explain this one to me then: What about the guys who expected me to be faithful, but thought it was no big deal if THEY cheated on ME?
to no longer pretend to be something I'm not.
They were douche bags.
Actually, there's a simple explanation for that: those guys are a**holes.
EDIT: Jerry beat me to it.
Not in a legal sense, no, but imo I am reserved for my wife and she for me. In that way, a sociological and religious way, we are each other's property.
On balance, however, men have forgotten how to own women, treating them like objects than valuable family members.