This was a great post overall
Arcana... *bows*
Point. And, if you ask me, the state has been making divorce easier and easier to obtain with each passing decade. And this is true in practically the entire industrialized world. It really doesn't seem all that bothered about doing its utmost to keep families together. Does anyone really think that MaxZ's idea of making adultery illegal has a chance in hell of ever becoming law? :lol:
They are making it easier, and there is nothing wrong with that at all...
Let 'em separate and move on...
My opinion on an emotional level is to put the worst adulterers in prison...
Those that are just scum on all levels and that do this act...
Most are not on that level, so my rationale must then take over and
say that prison should not be an option, but I just get so pissed at
the thought of cheating. I can't even watch movies or tv shows without
cringing when they cheat or lie about wanting to be with another...
It makes me sick that people can be so ****ty to each other, and that is
being irresponsible and untrustworthy in the worst possible way...
Yeah, I'm not here to pass judgment on others, sorry. I'll just say this, in cases of adultery I never blame the other woman for anything. I didn't in my case and I won't do it in other cases either. She didn't do anything wrong. My ex husband did. He is the only one to blame for the choices he made. All she ever did wrong was fall in love with him. If you can even ever call love "wrong".
Love isn't wrong, and if the "other women" don't know about the marriage,
they have done NOTHING wrong at all. Once the marriage is known though,
well, they can be in love all they want, but just knowing that they man is
a cheater and all that should be enough to let the woman know that he is
a loser and for her to continue indicates that she isn't much better, IMO.
None of these people will ever know the whole story. They get glimpses of what the two parties decide to share, but we never really get the whole story.
As for your last point, it's a cultural thing, you know. While it is true that most of my American friends do consider adultery to be THE deal breaker, it's no so much the case in Europe. Europeans, for some reason, tend to be much more forgiving of infidelity. Except for the Mediterranean cultures, that seem to still regard women as either virgins or whores and where men still think their wife's vagina is their personal property. :lol:
It's the deal breaker for me. No question.
There's so much I disagree with in there, I wouldn't know where to start breaking that mumbo jumbo of pop psych, sociological myths and evolutionary psych apart. :lol:
Didn't say that it was science or holy writ, just that it was interesting...