Okay I read it.
Not remotely impressed. This crap really pisses me off. Basically they are calling him out for not being hurt enough, angry enough, flamboyant enough, promiscuous enough, early enough or obvious enough to suit them. They are trying to 'uncle Tom' him because he has adopted what some people in the queer movement calls 'heteronormative values'
Values ought not be divided into heteronormative or queer categories in the first place. That way we can pick a little from Column A and a little from column B if we so choose. The whole idea here, is for people to learn to feel comfortable in their own skin, define themselves as they see fit, and NOT be trapped into some stereotype or box by virtue of either their perceived orientation or their actual orientation. The man is basically progressive to liberal politically and right down the line he has fought for gay rights long before he came out as gay. This man was not some republican ass, who opposed the ' homosexual agenda until he got caught in a mens room
but personally Buttigieg feels more comfortable in a suit and tie, living a life without a lot of social risk, and with a hint of well -modesty and conformity . He makes conservative social choices so as not to stick out in a crowd, and that is normally what makes some people successful lawyers, politicians, accountants teachers etc. Well we need those people in our lives too. Conformists like Pete ( and I) also contribute to humanity's endeavors and dreams. And gay men can dare to aspire to be just like that, without being seen as not quite 'gay' enough for Castro Street.
Off my soapbox. Breathing... breathing.... My answer to the question in the OP will be a second post.