A Social Experiment for the Male Forum Members. Have you ever Reported Female Sexual Assault?

[Tanngrisnir]

I don't think there is nearly the kind of sexual misconduct that people are pretending there is. I think that people are absurdly over-sensitive, especially when it comes to the far left. They are seeing things that isn't there because their post-modernist ideology doesn't care about reality, it cares about perception and feelings.

Sounds like you're not really thinking at all.

 

[Captain Adverse]

You are so uninformed about this, it's almost comical. Why don't you read a little about male rape and male sexual assault before you just assume that men don't "see such acts as sexual assault." :roll:

Men come forward less than women because of this type of mindset.

Soooo...is this an example of Womansplaining?

You miss the point.

Most men simply don't report such things in the same numbers as women are tending to, for all sorts of reasons...as already expressed by MEN in this thread.

 

[Tanngrisnir]

Blah blah blooooob blar rarr privileged white mens hoody doody doo rah phallus privilege hoobastank barley corn.

That may be the single most intelligent thing I've ever seen you post, and that's saying something.

 

[Superfly]

That's the thing, why would something a girl does to boy either by exercising power over him (teacher, boss, older girl) or taking advantage of him when he is unable to give consent...accepted as being "lucky," but for a girl "shameful."

In a rape, it is not the victim's fault. Regardless of whether the victim is male or female...so why is only one (female on male) supposed to be socially acceptable (WOW how lucky).

I would love to know that myself. It's a double standard, just like if a girl sleeps around, she's a slut, but if a guy sleeps around, he's just being a boy, and that's how they are.

 

[DiAnna]

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Simple Yes or No, because either you did or did not. The poll is anonymous to protect the innocent.

Pssst. The "innocent" have not been protected. Pass it on. :lol:

 

[Superfly]

Soooo...is this an example of Womansplaining?

Absolutely! :lol:

 

[Parrish]

Perhaps we need to see some pics of the hot guys here who appear to be living in fear for their virtue.

 

[Superfly]

Soooo...is this an example of Womansplaining?

You miss the point.

Most men simply don't report such things in the same numbers as women are tending to, for all sorts of reasons...as already expressed by MEN in this thread.

I did, because I answered and didn't read further. I have done quite a bit of research on this, and many men are raped and sexually assaulted, and refuse to come forward for many, many reasons.

Hell, Terry Crews got sexually assaulted, and if a big mother ****er like that can have it happen to him, it can happen to anybody.

And apologies for jumping the gun.

 

[bearpoker]

Used to be a serious problem at times when I was a young studmuffin. From gals I wasn't into, it got quite annoying, but no I never reported it. Just wasn't done back in the day.

Technically I was "raped" once, by modern standards. Gal I had decided not to sleep with got me drunk and had her way with me while I was three sheets to the wind. Even drunk, I was actually trying to say "no" and trying to leave, because I remembered she was crazy, but she literally wasn't taking no for an answer and I was too drunk to resist for long.

That was most of 30 years ago though; if I'd reported it then I'd have been laughed out of court.

It's not a laughing matter. You did not deserve what happened to you.

 

[Captain Adverse]

I would love to know that myself. It's a double standard, just like if a girl sleeps around, she's a slut, but if a guy sleeps around, he's just being a boy, and that's how they are.

I've never understood this viewpoint myself.

Sex, in and of itself, is a natural part of the human experience.

IMO as long as all participants are consenting adults (or close in age minors) then there should be no shame nor praise attached.

 

[Winston]

There has been much in the news these days of stories of sexual assault by males on females, usually attached to someone famous or a political figure either in office, or seeking office.

I agree this is something that needs revealing.

However, much has also been made of statistics showing reports of Male on Female sexual misconduct/assault occurring in record numbers.

However, I don't believe the statistics tell the true tale, since men seldom report the kinds of sexual misconduct women readily do.

IMO, if men were both encouraged and felt socially free to report the same kinds of "abuses" without stigma, then the statistics would show a more equal distribution between men and women.

My own experience indicates women of all ages can be just as aggressive as men, having myself been groped, kissed, fondled, teased, (even manipulated to arousal while asleep or intoxicated) during my lifetime.

For example:

1. Beginning at the age of 5 when a 12 yo girl decided she needed to see what a boy looked like without his pants, and gave me a model battleship in exchange for her personal "physical examination."

2. Being "handled" by a pretty science teacher in middle school...I was happy to be there. :shrug:

3. Passing out drunk at a party when I was 16 and waking up woozy to a half-naked girl (I didn't like) trying to do the dirty without my consent (albeit Mr. Happy seemed willing until I woke up).

Those are some of the earliest recollections, and are only the tip of the iceberg over the last six decades.

I've never "reported" any of the times my personal space has been invaded by women who seem to feel entitled to touch men in ways they themselves would find offensive. I just took it in stride, it's a "man thing."

So I ask, have you, my male peers, been "sexually assaulted" or "abused" in such ways, and reported it?

Simple Yes or No, because either you did or did not. The poll is anonymous to protect the innocent.

I've never been sexually assaulted by a woman. But, I have been sexually harassed by a gay man, if that counts. He fondled me a few times. I didn't really care and just went about my life like it never happened.

 

[bearpoker]

Soooo...is this an example of Womansplaining?

You miss the point.

Most men simply don't report such things in the same numbers as women are tending to, for all sorts of reasons...as already expressed by MEN in this thread.

I'm pretty sure women don't come forward for the same reason that men don't. People don't want to hear it. It is easier for women, but not much, because they are physically smaller and weaker than men, but for men that just makes it harder. It is never acceptable for anyone to force physical attentions on another, regardless of gender.

 

[Hawkeye10]

That's one of the reasons I believe men don't report it.

The other is shame, that they somehow lose their manhood if they claim a woman took advantage of them.

Also they dont believe that they will be taken seriously, and given that we teach that females are our higher concern and higher priority their concerns are very justified.

 

[Top Cat]

Much of the psychological damage from sexual assault (as opposed to battery) is in the physical threat. Men don't experience that from women. We can't be overpowered by a woman or forced to engage in intercourse with a woman. The limited psychological damage, in comparison, is a factor in under-reporting.

In the case of rape by a male, the under-reporting is subject to the same psychological factors as women experience.

Yes but Captain Adverse wants to believe his bull**** theory, therefore it is a true alternative fact.

 

[Cephus]

Sounds like you're not really thinking at all.

I'm not the one being emotional here.

 

[Waddy]

I was taken advantage of but I didn't report it. But, yeah, women can be predators, too.

 

[Oborosen]

:Yes:

Coming from a military background, such things had to be taken issue with.

We had a dentist on the ship who was getting a bit too "friendly" with some of her shipmates. Seeing as she was a lieutenant, and nearly everyone she dealt with was at least two whole ranks below her. She did indulge in her station from time to time, and it didn't come out until several months into my second cruise that she was doing anything overtly sexual with her patients.

Though I had also been in her chair a few times before, and had been on the receiving end of her "special" treatment. I originally chocked it up to just being a one off thing, not to mention the encounter wasn't overtly sexual in nature.

When suspicions started to circle around, some of us had to come forward with our concerns.

She had a rather long list of issues being thrown against her by the time we hit port for Italy.

 

[joG]

There has been much in the news these days of stories of sexual assault by males on females, usually attached to someone famous or a political figure either in office, or seeking office.

I agree this is something that needs revealing.

However, much has also been made of statistics showing reports of Male on Female sexual misconduct/assault occurring in record numbers.

However, I don't believe the statistics tell the true tale, since men seldom report the kinds of sexual misconduct women readily do.

IMO, if men were both encouraged and felt socially free to report the same kinds of "abuses" without stigma, then the statistics would show a more equal distribution between men and women.

My own experience indicates women of all ages can be just as aggressive as men, having myself been groped, kissed, fondled, teased, (even manipulated to arousal while asleep or intoxicated) during my lifetime.

For example:

1. Beginning at the age of 5 when a 12 yo girl decided she needed to see what a boy looked like without his pants, and gave me a model battleship in exchange for her personal "physical examination."

2. Being "handled" by a pretty science teacher in middle school...I was happy to be there. :shrug:

3. Passing out drunk at a party when I was 16 and waking up woozy to a half-naked girl (I didn't like) trying to do the dirty without my consent (albeit Mr. Happy seemed willing until I woke up).

Those are some of the earliest recollections, and are only the tip of the iceberg over the last six decades.

I've never "reported" any of the times my personal space has been invaded by women who seem to feel entitled to touch men in ways they themselves would find offensive. I just took it in stride, it's a "man thing."

So I ask, have you, my male peers, been "sexually assaulted" or "abused" in such ways, and reported it?

Simple Yes or No, because either you did or did not. The poll is anonymous to protect the innocent.

I have asked an employee to mind, what he said. But no, I have never even seen anything happen that should have been reported to HR.

As to the examples you give, I wouldn't really have minded any of that or more. You must be quite attractive to the girls.

 

[joG]

I was taken advantage of but I didn't report it. But, yeah, women can be predators, too.

But has any woman actually done anything that you felt was worse than inappropriate?

 

[it's just me]

Blah blah blooooob blar rarr privileged white mens hoody doody doo rah phallus privilege hoobastank barley corn.

That's easy for YOU to say!

 

[Kal'Stang]

Well, we finally know who the weaker sex is.

Perhaps we need to see some pics of the hot guys here who appear to be living in fear for their virtue.

Thank you Parrish for offering up the perfect example of why men often don't report sexual assault or battery. They're ridiculed and disbelieved.

Although in 2013 the federal government did start mandating that any shelter that receives money from the federal government must also help men there are only 2 shelters in the entire US that exclusively house battered men. One in Texas, the other in Arkansas.

'It's hard for a guy to say, "I need help."' How shelters reach out to male victims of domestic violence

 

[truthatallcost]

Perhaps we need to see some pics of the hot guys here who appear to be living in fear for their virtue.

Stop undressing me with your eyes. :2razz:

 

[Bodi]

NO, because this poll is for MEN.

Men typically don't see such acts as "sexual assault." It is often looked at as "luck," or fun, or whatever by males.

Watch out. You will be labelled a sexist woman hating asshole by sensitive women and surprisingly by men for daring to ask about men being abused...

 

[Bodi]

Much of the psychological damage from sexual assault (as opposed to battery) is in the physical threat. Men don't experience that from women. We can't be overpowered by a woman or forced to engage in intercourse with a woman. The limited psychological damage, in comparison, is a factor in under-reporting.

In the case of rape by a male, the under-reporting is subject to the same psychological factors as women experience.

Idiotic. Psychological damage is whatever upsets a person.

Your qualifications as to what is racist or damaging is ridiculous.

 

[Bodi]

Really, so waking up drunk or otherwise under the influence and finding a woman trying stuff with you...without your consent...that's not assault?

It's all in the psychology.

Interesting perspective.

That post is idiotic...