Substitute any other law, say tax rate cuts for the rich, and see if the question of bigotry still makes sense. One can oppose a policy or law for many reasons; perhaps one wants marriage options to include polygamy or they oppose the state making any person receive different rights than others based on a special state granted relationship status. There can be many reasons to oppose a policy, law or idea that do not fit the definition of bigotry.
This is why words have meaning. Tax cuts have zero relevance to what the definition of bigotry entails. It's like saying that you can't call people sexist, because saying someone is sexist makes no sense if we're discussing support for food labels. No, your argument is absolutely
ridiculous and I'm surprised you actually thought it made sense.
Bigotry entails opposition to a lifestyle, religion, gender, disability, class etc and group characteristics. We know it entails an attitude which is about more than being opposed to some laws. We also
know opposition to gays getting married comes for the most part as a result of
religious belief. This nonsense that there are
other important reasons behind it is nonsense. Libertarians, who are an insignificant part of the US' voting demographic keep pretending there are.
That's
just mind boggling. How such a small percentage of the population can keep pushing the myth that there is a genuine discussion about this issue. At least one that rises beyond the level of whether or not religious belief is enough to keep a group away from benefits, rights and privileges afforded to others. There
really isn't. There isn't a drive to make marriage a states issue. There isn't a drive to take marriage away from the feds. There
simply isn't. The drive is to make marriage inaccessible to gays on a state level and a federal level. This convoluted discussion that the 'small government' crowd tries to pretend is going on is part of the same struggle fought by people across different fronts.
This is the same struggle that disabled people are facing when it comes to acceptance in the work place. The same struggle that European travellers have when it comes to being treated as citizens. It's the same struggle faced by immigrants whose degrees aren't recognized because they come from supposedly
undeveloped nations. It is a narrative based on one group looking for acceptance within a larger group where there is a sizeable population looking at it with disgust. That's it. Whatever reasons
some people have for contributing to the discrimination these groups face doesn't change the fact that the majority opposes it because they don't want to accept the smaller group.