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How Much Of This Is Truly Harassment????

How Much Of This Is Truly Harassment????


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I haven't been and people talking to me about what I have been talking about should understand this...
Actually, you have. You brought up how you would react to the threat of a tsunami which is vastly unrelated to the topic at hand. Even further, I worked with you on that analogy even though the difference between the situations are vastly different. You, however, chose to not work with me on my domestic violence example. Instead, you tapped out when it got difficult.
 
I used that analogy to illustrate why your argument that frequency dictates how "realistic" a fear does not apply to all situations not to argue that catcalling was the same as domestic violence. I assumed that you would be open to my example since you used an example involving tsunamis which is much less related to the subject matter than my domestic violence example. Why is it "not in perspective" for me to use an example involving domestic violence, but it is "in perspective" for you to use an example involving tsunamis?

Because raising your hand to hit a person every day but not doing it is a direct threat. A potential tsunami that might or might not be there is not a direct threat. Nobody sees a tsunami "raising" up as if to strike but it melts away.
 
Actually, you have. You brought up how you would react to the threat of a tsunami which is vastly unrelated to the topic at hand. Even further, I worked with you on that analogy even though the difference between the situations are vastly different. You, however, chose to not work with me on my domestic violence example. Instead, you tapped out when it got difficult.

There is no threat of a tsunami when just walking on the beach just like there is no threat when to a woman from a man asking how she is doing when walking down the side walk...

Just because there "can be" a tsunami is no reason to walk on the beach in fear just like there "can be" a rapist guy standing on the street is no reason to walk down the sidewalk in fear or making up harassment when it is not there.
 
Because raising your hand to hit a person every day but not doing it is a direct threat. A potential tsunami that might or might not be there is not a direct threat. Nobody sees a tsunami "raising" up as if to strike but it melts away.
You keep misinterpreting the function of my example so let me clarify one final time. I did not use the domestic violence example to argue that catcalling is a direct threat anymore than you used your tsunami example to argue that a tsunami is as frequent an occurrence as catcalling. I used the example to illustrate why the frequency of a problem does not necessarily dictate how afraid of it someone should be. It's fine with me if you disagree with that, but it is not fine with me if you misinterpret or misrepresent the nature of my analogy.

There is no threat of a tsunami when just walking on the beach just like there is no threat when to a woman from a man asking how she is doing when walking down the side walk...

Just because there "can be" a tsunami is no reason to walk on the beach in fear just like there "can be" a rapist guy standing on the street is no reason to walk down the sidewalk in fear or making up harassment when it is not there.
Again, I do not believe that the frequency of a problem necessarily dictates how afraid someone should be of it. Beyond that, fear itself is not usually dictated by a consideration of odds. As I have explained and as you know, fear is often an instinctual response to external stimuli. Therefore, to base your criticism of these women's fears on odds is to misunderstand the nature of their fear.
 
You keep misinterpreting the function of my example so let me clarify one final time. I did not use the domestic violence example to argue that catcalling is a direct threat anymore than you used your tsunami example to argue that a tsunami is as frequent an occurrence as catcalling. I used the example to illustrate why the frequency of a problem does not necessarily dictate how afraid of it someone should be. It's fine with me if you disagree with that, but it is not fine with me if you misinterpret or misrepresent the nature of my analogy.

Yes, I misunderstood that. It depends on the issue at hand as to whether or not fear is reasonable in my opinion. After walking down the street tens of thousands of times and never being attacked is your experience then fear of being attacked is unreasonable while walking down a busy well lit street with hundreds of people about. Wariness or preparedness is reasonable though... perhaps.


Again, I do not believe that the frequency of a problem necessarily dictates how afraid someone should be of it. Beyond that, fear itself is not usually dictated by a consideration of odds. As I have explained and as you know, fear is often an instinctual response to external stimuli. Therefore, to base your criticism of these women's fears on odds is to misunderstand the nature of their fear.

The argument that I was presented with by some of the women on this site is that they are feeling fear when walking around due to being harassed by men so many times. The examples are like the one in the video... walking past a man sitting there asking how she is doing. That is not harassment nor a reason to feel fear. The next step brought to me was that rape is such a concern that 1 in 6 women are raped. I pointed out that those stats are misleading as most women are raped by somebody that they know in a relationship (husband, boyfriend, guy at a party) and NOT by some guy you walk past in broad daylight.

You and I agree for the most part but I think you are taking my comments out of context because I was responding to specific points.
 
I imagine it gets tedious after a while, but it's just people saying words. What ever happened to sticks and stones?

It's not even a sticks and stones type of thing. Sticks and stones applies to negative comments. Any woman who gets offended because a man appreciates her appearance is nuts. Most women who think it's a bad thing are usually the ones whose appearance isn't pleasing to a man.
 
It's not even a sticks and stones type of thing. Sticks and stones applies to negative comments. Any woman who gets offended because a man appreciates her appearance is nuts. Most women who think it's a bad thing are usually the ones whose appearance isn't pleasing to a man.

Bart said it better than I could.
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Oops at the point flying way above your head.

I posted that story in order to show you that there is precedence for catcalling leading to dangerous situations. The woman in the story was catcalled and then murdered for not responding the way the "catcaller" wanted her to. That's exactly situation some women fear when they hear "hey baby" because it's happened before like it did to that woman.

And it's happened before that a man kills his wife. So does that mean we women should all be afraid to get married in the event our husbands decide to kill us?
 
I'm a woman. And a fiscal conservative. No conservatives have declared war on me. And I've done just fine in my life.

Come on, tres. Admit it. You carry around that ball and chain, which a Republican man forced you to take. :lol:
 
Come on, tres. Admit it. You carry around that ball and chain, which a Republican man forced you to take. :lol:

I didn't want to give our Liberals false hope before election day Lizzie. If I admit how heavy the chain around my ankle is (thanks of course to all those Conservatives who have declared war on me), they'll think I'm voting for my saviors and heroes tomorrow who will liberate me from the chains that bind me!
 
I'm a woman. And a fiscal conservative. No conservatives have declared war on me. And I've done just fine in my life.

Greetings, tres borrachos. :2wave:

I spent most of my working years in a Fortune 500 manufacturing company. I don't know if many liberals tend to gravitate towards toward that environment, but every boss I had was definitely a conservative, and they all helped me to get promotions along the way. I worked hard to earn those, too. I don't know where the "War on Women" is taking place, but my company employed over 100,000 men and women worldwide, and I never heard any complaints.

Government itself seems to be the place where the problems are, from what I've been reading, so maybe they should look a mirror and correct them! When even female Senators complain about harassment from male colleagues, that is shocking! Of course, most of them are attorneys so you can't really expect them to know the law, can you? sarcasm intended! Sheesh! :thumbdown:
 
Yes, I misunderstood that. It depends on the issue at hand as to whether or not fear is reasonable in my opinion. After walking down the street tens of thousands of times and never being attacked is your experience then fear of being attacked is unreasonable while walking down a busy well lit street with hundreds of people about. Wariness or preparedness is reasonable though... perhaps.




The argument that I was presented with by some of the women on this site is that they are feeling fear when walking around due to being harassed by men so many times. The examples are like the one in the video... walking past a man sitting there asking how she is doing. That is not harassment nor a reason to feel fear. The next step brought to me was that rape is such a concern that 1 in 6 women are raped. I pointed out that those stats are misleading as most women are raped by somebody that they know in a relationship (husband, boyfriend, guy at a party) and NOT by some guy you walk past in broad daylight.

You and I agree for the most part but I think you are taking my comments out of context because I was responding to specific points.

Are you forgetting that two of the men followed her around for several minutes? Don't you think that's something more than merely "sitting there asking how she is doing"?
 
Are you forgetting that two of the men followed her around for several minutes? Don't you think that's something more than merely "sitting there asking how she is doing"?

I agreed that that was harassment and that it was creepy... two guys for a few minutes, yes, that crap happens. Thousands of men over ten hours? Stupid.
 
I agreed that that was harassment and that it was creepy... two guys for a few minutes, yes, that crap happens. Thousands of men over ten hours? Stupid.


Even if you say that only those two guys were creepy (which I disagree with) - that was two guys in the same day. And it happens every day, over and over and over. That kind of junk.

We need to get men as well as women to say "this isn't acceptable". We need to change the culture. It's a long struggle, but it needs to happen (in my opinion). Women shouldn't have to face this.
 
Since the video is obviously heavily edited and intends to show examples of "harassment", I must conclude that while s few of the comments/actions are disturbing many are simply innocent compliments/comments. It appears that this story/video intends to portray any and all unsolicited comments/attention as "harassment".

Gotta wonder how many comments would be welcome from a stranger she considered "hot".
 
Even if you say that only those two guys were creepy (which I disagree with) - that was two guys in the same day. And it happens every day, over and over and over. That kind of junk.

We need to get men as well as women to say "this isn't acceptable". We need to change the culture. It's a long struggle, but it needs to happen (in my opinion). Women shouldn't have to face this.

Who thinks that what those two guys did is acceptable??
 
I agreed that that was harassment and that it was creepy... two guys for a few minutes, yes, that crap happens. Thousands of men over ten hours? Stupid.

But your argument was based on how infrequent anything truly worthy of fear happens. this video shows that once every five hours, a woman would encounter something that was alarming

Kind of makes the fear a bit justified, no?
 
But your argument was based on how infrequent anything truly worthy of fear happens. this video shows that once every five hours, a woman would encounter something that was alarming

Kind of makes the fear a bit justified, no?

Of strange people in New York city perhaps... the argument I was countering was broad and included all women and that women were being raped at such a high percentage.

Here a woman could walk around in a bikini all day and not attract one inappropriate comment.
 
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