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Large age gap marriages - Icky?

Marraiges with large age gaps should be banned


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Okay, no offense, but now that is creepier to me then the OP couple.

She married a guy that she babysat?

When he was really little?

Definitely creepy to me.

Oh, I agree. It doesn't help that my siblings and I think the woman is absolutely nuts and we can't stand her. My father is just ... strange.
 
Oh, I agree. It doesn't help that my siblings and I think the woman is absolutely nuts and we can't stand her. My father is just ... strange.

Actually, I deleted it because I posted it before I read that they started dating in their 50's.

Though I still think that is strange...I guess by their 50's the dynamic has changed.

But if you think she is nuts...maybe I should have stick with my first thought.


Speaking of strange.

My mother married a guy 2 years older then her, then her next hubby (my Dad) was about 17 years older then her and then her last hubby (nice guy but bisexual?!?) was about 17 years younger then her.

Talk about strange.

I loved my mother very much (she is dead now)...but she was 'different'.
 
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It's OK they both look older than than are. ;)
She looks 30 and he looks 60.
Age of consent laws in some states is 16 and a minor can be married by parental consent. Nothing illegal, but it goes along with what I've been saying that we need an age that adulthood happens for everything. If that is 16, 18, or 21 it needs to be consistant IMO.
Personally I think large age-gap marriages have serious issues due to generational gaps and usually they don't last very long.
There are states, and I know Rhode Island was one of them but I don't know if it still is, where a girl can get married, with parental permission, as young as 13. Like I said, I have no idea if any states are still like this, I just know it was many, many moons ago.
Why in prison?

I didn't realize that some states allow such a thing. All I want to see is some consistency. How can someone not be adult enough to drink a beer, fight in a war, vote, open a bank account, become an organ donor, serve on a jury, make a will, be tried as an adult, buy cigarettes, buy fireworks, get a tattoo, get piercings, watch certain films, etc. etc., but they're somehow old enough to marry?

I'm also a bit concerned about having a third party making marital decisions for someone else. What kind of things does that open us up to? What if the parents pressure the child into marrying someone they don't want?

So like I said, I just want to see some consistency. Are you an adult at 16 or at 18? Why can parents override the law for something as big as marriage but they can't for just about anything else?
 
My husband is 13 years older, and turned 49 last month. He is my best friend.

The only time it ever gets remotely "icky" is when we listen to old music together & do the "What/Where were you then?" routine...

I find it hilarious! I tease him endlessly with those questions. "1985? Let's see... I was 20." My response..."I was in 3rd grade!" :mrgreen:

I always say it was the "starting-to-go-gray" hair & Boston accent... I was done for! :2razz:

I was 1 year old the year he joined the Army. :lol: I tease him about that all the time. When we got together, I was 30 and he was 48. We were already adults, and had both been through really, really bad relationships before. We knew what it was like to have it bad, so neither of us was going to let our age difference get in the way of a fantastic relationship otherwise.

He has told me, "I wish I'd met you when we were younger." I tell him, "You'd have gone to jail!!" :lol:
 
I didn't realize that some states allow such a thing. All I want to see is some consistency. How can someone not be adult enough to drink a beer, fight in a war, vote, open a bank account, become an organ donor, serve on a jury, make a will, be tried as an adult, buy cigarettes, buy fireworks, get a tattoo, get piercings, watch certain films, etc. etc., but they're somehow old enough to marry?

I agree there, I want consistancy in the age of adulthood. Either 16, 18, 21 whatever, but have it across the board.

I'm also a bit concerned about having a third party making marital decisions for someone else. What kind of things does that open us up to? What if the parents pressure the child into marrying someone they don't want?

The parents don't make the decision for someone to marry. At best they can just give legal consent so the under-age person can marry and that of course varies from state to state. Just to be clear the parents don't make it so two people HAVE to marry.

So like I said, I just want to see some consistency. Are you an adult at 16 or at 18? Why can parents override the law for something as big as marriage but they can't for just about anything else?
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It's called immancipation, but I agree its not consistent.
 
My husband is 13 years older, and turned 49 last month. He is my best friend.

The only time it ever gets remotely "icky" is when we listen to old music together & do the "What/Where were you then?" routine...

I find it hilarious! I tease him endlessly with those questions. "1985? Let's see... I was 20." My response..."I was in 3rd grade!" :mrgreen:

I always say it was the "starting-to-go-gray" hair & Boston accent... I was done for! :2razz:

I adore salt & pepper hair on men. Always did.:mrgreen: Boston accents....well....;)
 
I was 1 year old the year he joined the Army. :lol: I tease him about that all the time. When we got together, I was 30 and he was 48. We were already adults, and had both been through really, really bad relationships before. We knew what it was like to have it bad, so neither of us was going to let our age difference get in the way of a fantastic relationship otherwise.

I can relate to that. Very similar story. We met when I was 32 and he was 45. Live and learn! ;)

He has told me, "I wish I'd met you when we were younger." I tell him, "You'd have gone to jail!!" :lol:

The age difference provides endless sources of humor! My oldest sister-in-law is 7 months younger than my mother. My "niece" and I are the same age. :mrgreen:
 
I can relate to that. Very similar story. We met when I was 32 and he was 45. Live and learn! ;)



The age difference provides endless sources of humor! My oldest sister-in-law is 7 months younger than my mother. My "niece" and I are the same age. :mrgreen:

That's freaking crazy!:lol:

My father was 2 years younger than his mother in law (my grandmother).
 
I didn't realize that some states allow such a thing. All I want to see is some consistency. How can someone not be adult enough to drink a beer, fight in a war, vote, open a bank account, become an organ donor, serve on a jury, make a will, be tried as an adult, buy cigarettes, buy fireworks, get a tattoo, get piercings, watch certain films, etc. etc., but they're somehow old enough to marry?

I'm also a bit concerned about having a third party making marital decisions for someone else. What kind of things does that open us up to? What if the parents pressure the child into marrying someone they don't want?

So like I said, I just want to see some consistency. Are you an adult at 16 or at 18? Why can parents override the law for something as big as marriage but they can't for just about anything else?
It's pretty consistent in western countries.

Marriageable age - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

If you sign up to fight for your country, all age limits should be ignored. IMO
 
That's freaking crazy!:lol:

My father was 2 years younger than his mother in law (my grandmother).

It makes for interesting holidays! :beer:


His brother/sister-in-law are worst of all! He is 51 and she is 24 now. We all became "coupled" around the same time, and our first double date was a New Years/ Birthday bash. She & I literally have the same birthday (12-28)... 12 yrs apart!

Whenever things in life get deja vu weird, I find myself humming "It's Beginning To Look A Lot Like Christmas." :werd
 
It makes for interesting holidays! :beer:


His brother/sister-in-law are worst of all! He is 51 and she is 24 now. We all became "coupled" around the same time, and our first double date was a New Years/ Birthday bash. She & I literally have the same birthday (12-28)... 12 yrs apart!

Whenever things in life get deja vu weird, I find myself humming "It's Beginning To Look A Lot Like Christmas." :werd

Love it :mrgreen:
 
I'd say it depends on the people involved.
 
There can be a 100 year gap but as long as both parties are legal adults then they should be allowed to get married.
 
I'd say it depends on the people involved.
To clarify - if they're both adults it's legal and in no way should be banned, but I would say that the....quality...of the union depends on the two persons involved.

If one is underage, I find it questionable at best, even if parent/guardian(s) agree.
 
Not my ****ing business, not your ****ing business, so we should all butt the **** out.
 
Goshin is on a asterisk rampage.
 
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