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Would you rather date a nice, sensitive guy or bad boy?

Which would you rather date?

  • Bad boy!

    Votes: 1 5.0%
  • Nice, sensitive, caring guy.

    Votes: 3 15.0%
  • Handsome guy, nice or bad.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Funny, trusting guy.

    Votes: 1 5.0%
  • Something in between.

    Votes: 2 10.0%
  • I'm confused.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Other.

    Votes: 13 65.0%

  • Total voters
    20
sort a combination.

Nice
Intelligent
Funny in a droll sense
Independence/ originality of thought.
Able to resist the following instinct.
 
Most frequently given answer: I want a good guy.

The truth: I want an asshole.

I don't think they want an asshole. I think they want someone that they can't push around, and that is sometimes perceived as being an asshole.
 
I don't think they want an asshole. I think they want someone that they can't push around, and that is sometimes perceived as being an asshole.

There's a whole lot of grey area between "assertive" and "asshole".
 
There's a whole lot of grey area between "assertive" and "asshole".

To me, the question would be whether or not his motivation is to dominate, or to preserve his own integrity.

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If he just wants to show that he can dominate a woman, that is a sign of weakness. If he is maintaining his own sense of worth, and asserting his own actual desires, he's not being an asshole.
 
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A nice, sensitive, caring guy with a good brain...who is and always was a woman.
 
in my experience, many women prefer to not work on their pickers, get used by all of the other ones, and then complain they can't find any nice guys. is it any wonder some of us are looking for girl friends in modern times.
 
To me, the question would be whether or not his motivation is to dominate, or to preserve his own integrity.

I'm the latter.

In relationships, I'm rather passive and, at times, indecisive. If a girlfriend asks me where I want to eat, I usually say something like "wherever you want is fine, dear"...but she also know that saying McDonalds or something like that will not be well met. If she asks me what movie we should go to, I say "your choice, babe"...but she also knows "no Twilight or Notebook, hell with that".

I create a wide berth like that, and you can consider me a pushover if you want. You'll just meet some resistance with crappy fast food or a chick flick.
 
Most frequently given answer: I want a good guy.

The truth: I want an asshole.

Heh. No, not really. No woman in her right mind wants to be with an asshole. We want to be with an exciting guy. The problem is that a lot of exciting guys are assholes. Not all, though. I found a couple. :)
 
Heh. No, not really. No woman in her right mind wants to be with an asshole. We want to be with an exciting guy. The problem is that a lot of exciting guys are assholes. Not all, though. I found a couple. :)

I think you're right on the money with that. What is interesting to me, is that often, the exciting guy isn't really an asshole- he just marches to his own drum, and doesn't much concern himself with what others think, so he is perceived as an asshole, when he isn't. I think that we often refuse to give people like that a chance by getting to know and understand them. I can't tell you how many times I've been warned that one of my patients was going to be a jerk to deal with, and in reality, I found that I actually liked him as a person, because I found him to be genuine in spite of his ways which tend to put other people off, and keep them at a distance.
 
I think you're right on the money with that. What is interesting to me, is that often, the exciting guy isn't really an asshole- he just marches to his own drum, and doesn't much concern himself with what others think, so he is perceived as an asshole, when he isn't. I think that we often refuse to give people like that a chance by getting to know and understand them. I can't tell you how many times I've been warned that one of my patients was going to be a jerk to deal with, and in reality, I found that I actually liked him as a person, because I found him to be genuine in spite of his ways which tend to put other people off, and keep them at a distance.

Yeah, it's a very fine line between the two. We're not very good at defining where that line is exactly, but we always know when a guy crosses it into assholedom. :lol:
 
Gorgeous as he may be, Johnny Depp doesn't shower regularly. Can't imagine anyone being OK with that, regardless of who it is.

He must be doing something right, his latest fiancee is half his age and gorgeous.
 
Wrong. Most women want a little bit of both.

The point Gipper is making is that there is a HUGE difference between the Expressed Preferences of women and their Revealed Preferences. They say they want one thing but their actions reveal something else entirely.
 
Yeah, it's a very fine line between the two. We're not very good at defining where that line is exactly, but we always know when a guy crosses it into assholedom. :lol:

...yet most of you stick around.
 
The point Gipper is making is that there is a HUGE difference between the Expressed Preferences of women and their Revealed Preferences. They say they want one thing but their actions reveal something else entirely.

It reminds me of the old adage you say to men: Do you know what women want? It's okay. Neither do they.
 
Yeah, I don't get it either. Just like I don't get men who stay with women who treat them like crap. Humans... wotchi gonna do? :shrug:

We screw other women and say we have to work late - usually because divorce is so expensive for the man.

If women want to go screw around, that's fine. More alone time for ESPN in the man-cave with a cold Heineken.
 
We screw other women and say we have to work late - usually because divorce is so expensive for the man.

If women want to go screw around, that's fine. More alone time for ESPN in the man-cave with a cold Heineken.

That's cool, but the ones I'm talking about aren't even married. They could just move out, but they don't. I seriously don't get the human race sometimes.
 
That's cool, but the ones I'm talking about aren't even married. They could just move out, but they don't. I seriously don't get the human race sometimes.

They stick around?

Either she's a hell of a cook, or gives excellent head. Barring one (or both) of these, then the dude's just lazy I guess.
 
They stick around?

Either she's a hell of a cook, or gives excellent head. Barring one (or both) of these, then the dude's just lazy I guess.

Who knows? It's all anecdotal obviously, but the one guy is a total wimp who thinks he won't be able to find another girlfriend, another one keeps saying he's had enough but won't leave because he "can't live without her" whatever the **** that means, and this other guy is afraid he won't see his kid anymore. I think they're all wimps, personally. I even know a gay couple with similar dynamics. People are masochists.
 
Who knows? It's all anecdotal obviously, but the one guy is a total wimp who thinks he won't be able to find another girlfriend, another one keeps saying he's had enough but won't leave because he "can't live without her" whatever the **** that means, and this other guy is afraid he won't see his kid anymore. I think they're all wimps, personally. I even know a gay couple with similar dynamics. People are masochists.

The word is "whipped".
 
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