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Men: Would You Marry an American Woman?[W:771]

Men: Would you marry an American Woman?


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I couldn't say.

Honestly though, I think women might show them too much. I really wouldn't really see much purpose in men behaving the same way.

It kind of threw my boss overseas for a loop when I took over for the person who used to fill my position.

She was female and a bit of a girly-girl. If she thought she was getting the short end of the stick from unit leadership, she'd basically settle in and "cry it out."

Me? I'd get angry. :lol:

Okay, I will admit that in most cases a woman would probably be more emotional, but that doesn't mean ALL women are that way either. And I think there are plenty of men who are more emotional than they let on, but because it's considered to be not "manly," they might feel shame on some level.
 
You're...kidding, right? Please be kidding.

No, I wasn't aware there were scholarships just for women. I know there are for African Americans.

Why must I be kidding? Is this mandatory information that everyone must know or something?
 
No, I wasn't aware there were scholarships just for women. I know there are for African Americans.

Why must I be kidding? Is this mandatory information that everyone must know or something?

I thought it was common knowledge. Maybe it's just common knowledge to college graduates. I dunno.

At U of M, I was given a list of scholarships I could apply for. It was disheartening.
 
I thought it was common knowledge. Maybe it's just common knowledge to college graduates. I dunno.

At U of M, I was given a list of scholarships I could apply for. It was disheartening.

Give us the names of some of these scholarships that are JUST for women. I've never heard of such a thing, and I DID graduate from college. I couldn't be a medical transcriptionist without at least certification.
 
I'm quite sure that men do cry, just not in front of other people, and there is nothing wrong with that. I don't like to cry in front of anyone else either and I'm a woman. I think that MOST men see their feelings as being personal and not something to be shared with everyone else.

I am not talking about in front of total strangers but with husband/wife/children I think it is perfectly acceptable to cry in front of them.
 
I am not talking about in front of total strangers but with husband/wife/children I think it is perfectly acceptable to cry in front of them.

So do I. If you have a good and loving relationship with your family, they shouldn't look at you as any less of a man for having feelings. We all have feelings. That's one of the things that makes us human.
 
Yeah well, to be fair, his dad sounds like a real arse.

He was, a total and utter arse. My mother always had to do everything by herself. Painting, repairs, wallpapering etc. were always done by my mother. While she and my grandparents were working hard to prepare the new home for living, he was at the soccer club refereeing amateur soccer matches or out drinking. Or he came home and sat down doing nothing.

He cheated repeatedly on my mother and was a non-existent father who after my mother finally decided to divorce him and my and my sister were moving out with her, wanted half of everything from the marriage, including all my toys, train set, bed, my bike and all the possessions of my sister.

My sister and me were not going to have visits with my dad, one day his lawyer came by and he said to me and my sister that if we would agree to visits, we would get a savings account with a few hundred dollars on it.

Because I wanted to study after age 18, I would be entitled to extra money from the government because my mother was on welfare and my dad refused to pay anything towards my education (as was his right, I could not have cared less). The only thing he had to do was sign a form stating that he would not give me money. I had to threaten him with court action, actually having to employ a lawyer to write him threatening to take him to court before he actually signed that form.
 
He was, a total and utter arse. My mother always had to do everything by herself. Painting, repairs, wallpapering etc. were always done by my mother. While she and my grandparents were working hard to prepare the new home for living, he was at the soccer club refereeing amateur soccer matches or out drinking. Or he came home and sat down doing nothing.

He cheated repeatedly on my mother and was a non-existent father who after my mother finally decided to divorce him and my and my sister were moving out with her, wanted half of everything from the marriage, including all my toys, train set, bed, my bike and all the possessions of my sister.

My sister and me were not going to have visits with my dad, one day his lawyer came by and he said to me and my sister that if we would agree to visits, we would get a savings account with a few hundred dollars on it.

Because I wanted to study after age 18, I would be entitled to extra money from the government because my mother was on welfare and my dad refused to pay anything towards my education (as was his right, I could not have cared less). The only thing he had to do was sign a form stating that he would not give me money. I had to threaten him with court action, actually having to employ a lawyer to write him threatening to take him to court before he actually signed that form.

God, what a douchebag. I'm sorry you had to live with and be raised by such a lout. :( Unfortunately, we don't get to choose. Hopefully, it wasn't for naught though, and he actually taught you some valuable lessons about what NOT to be.
 
Okay, I will admit that in most cases a woman would probably be more emotional, but that doesn't mean ALL women are that way either. And I think there are plenty of men who are more emotional than they let on, but because it's considered to be not "manly," they might feel shame on some level.

Perhaps so, and perhaps not. I doubt that many men are as intrinsically emotional as women, but I'm sure there are some exceptions out there.

Frankly, however, if I were to be given a choice on the matter, I'd probably favor making women less emotional over making men more emotional. :lol:

I honestly haven't cried since I was 12 years old. :shrug:

I am not talking about in front of total strangers but with husband/wife/children I think it is perfectly acceptable to cry in front of them.

So do I. If you have a good and loving relationship with your family, they shouldn't look at you as any less of a man for having feelings. We all have feelings. That's one of the things that makes us human.

At the same time though, I think a family does needs to have someone who is able to keep things in line in challenging times.

Crying doesn't really help much of anything under most circumstances.
 
Perhaps so, and perhaps not. I doubt that many men are as intrinsically emotional as women, but I'm sure there are some exceptions out there.

Frankly, however, if I were to be given a choice on the matter, I'd probably favor making women less emotional over making men more emotional. :lol:

I honestly haven't cried since I was 12 years old. :shrug:





At the same time though, I think a family does needs to have someone who is able to keep things in line in challenging times.

Crying doesn't really help much of anything under most circumstances.

Crying does help. It is a form of stress release.

Come on Greg, you can cry on my shoulder. :2razz:
 
He was, a total and utter arse. My mother always had to do everything by herself. Painting, repairs, wallpapering etc. were always done by my mother. While she and my grandparents were working hard to prepare the new home for living, he was at the soccer club refereeing amateur soccer matches or out drinking. Or he came home and sat down doing nothing.

He cheated repeatedly on my mother and was a non-existent father who after my mother finally decided to divorce him and my and my sister were moving out with her, wanted half of everything from the marriage, including all my toys, train set, bed, my bike and all the possessions of my sister.

My sister and me were not going to have visits with my dad, one day his lawyer came by and he said to me and my sister that if we would agree to visits, we would get a savings account with a few hundred dollars on it.

Because I wanted to study after age 18, I would be entitled to extra money from the government because my mother was on welfare and my dad refused to pay anything towards my education (as was his right, I could not have cared less). The only thing he had to do was sign a form stating that he would not give me money. I had to threaten him with court action, actually having to employ a lawyer to write him threatening to take him to court before he actually signed that form.

Okay. That's a lot worse. He sounds like an absolutely worthless excuse for a man.
 
Crying does help. It is a form of stress release.

Sure, but that's usually not productive. There is a time and a place for crying, just like anything else.

It is generally better to keep a cool head under most circumstances.

Come on Greg, you can cry on my shoulder. :2razz:

Nah. I'll take an angry smoke break and find a nice wall to punch.

That's works just as good. :mrgreen:
 
Sure, but that's usually not productive. There is a time and a place for crying, just like anything else.

It is generally better to keep a cool head under most circumstances.



Nah. I'll take an angry smoke break and find a nice wall to punch.

That's works just as good. :mrgreen:

That's it. I'm going to cry now. :(
 
Sure, but that's usually not productive. There is a time and a place for crying, just like anything else.

It is generally better to keep a cool head under most circumstances.



Nah. I'll take an angry smoke break and find a nice wall to punch.

That's works just as good. :mrgreen:

Crying isn't meant to be productive. I cry when I've hit my breaking point. Once I'm done with my pity party THEN I can be productive and do something about whatever it is that "broke" me.
 
Crying isn't meant to be productive. I cry when I've hit my breaking point. Once I'm done with my pity party THEN I can be productive and do something about whatever it is that "broke" me.

Sure. It simply happens to be the case that, due to either intrinsic biology or cultural conditioning, men are a lot better at pushing that "breaking point" back than many women.

I don't necessarily view that as being a "bad" thing. It can actually come in rather useful.

I mean... Let's face it. There are women out there who will almost literally cry at the drop of a hat. :lol:

That really doesn't help anything.
 
God, what a douchebag. I'm sorry you had to live with and be raised by such a lout. :( Unfortunately, we don't get to choose. Hopefully, it wasn't for naught though, and he actually taught you some valuable lessons about what NOT to be.

Yes it was, first of all I made a choice at aged 11 to never drink alcohol and now, 34 years or so later I am still alcohol free.
 
Yes it was, first of all I made a choice at aged 11 to never drink alcohol and now, 34 years or so later I am still alcohol free.

Good for you! :) For a lot of people, this phrase applies, "instant asshole, just add alcohol."
 
She's pretty stressed then. Usually because of me.

*hides*

I'm pretty stressed most times because of my ****ty ass 60+ hour a week job.

For the rest of your post, I have no comment. Mostly because it's nobody's business. :-/
 
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