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Men: Would You Marry an American Woman?[W:771]

Men: Would you marry an American Woman?

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sangha said:
People who, if they had a penis, would be called "assertive" and deserve to dominate a relationship.
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Ironically, that's kind of exactly the problem. You're basically talking about a woman who throws her weight around like a man.

Men tend to view that kind of behavior as being a challenge to their personal status when other men engage in it. Why wouldn't they have a similar reaction to a woman doing the same?

I dunno about you, but when I start a relationship, I am looking for a lover, not a rival to butt heads with.
 
ChrisL said:
It was more on the idea that if he treats you like a maid, then you can spend his money as compensation. :mrgreen:
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Exactly. Most men don't even like pushy men. Unless he's our boss, father, or something else to that effect (and we frankly rebel against our fathers eventually anyway), we tend to prefer a bit of "breathing room" to do things our own way in that regard.

Why on Earth would we want to have to put up with a pushy woman then? :lol:
 
Gathomas88 said:
Exactly. Most men don't even like pushy men. Unless he's our boss, father, or something else to that effect (and we frankly rebel against our fathers eventually anyway), we tend to prefer a bit of "breathing room" to do things our own way in that regard.

Why on Earth would we want to have to put up with a pushy woman then? :lol:
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Why on Earth would a woman want to deal with a pushy man, a man who wants to boss her around all the time and tell her what to do, a man she has to "check in with" all the time?
 
If both the man and woman truly love and adore each other they shouldn't have a problem. :peace
 
ChrisL said:
Why on Earth would a woman want to deal with a pushy man, a man who wants to boss her around all the time and tell her what to do, a man she has to "check in with" all the time?
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You would be talking about a "controlling" man then, not necessarily an "assertive" one.

Unfortunately, a lot of women do have a tendency to go for that kind of thing.

It's part of the reason for the persistent problem our society has with domestic violence. Some women simply seem to have an innate attraction to intrinsically dangerous men. :shrug:
 
Gathomas88 said:
You would be talking about a "controlling" man then, not necessarily an "assertive" one.

Unfortunately, a lot of women do have a tendency to go for that kind of thing.

It's part of the reason for the persistent problem our society has with domestic violence. Some women simply seem to have an innate attraction to intrinsically dangerous men. :shrug:
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I think there are different "levels" of that kind of controlling person though. My ex was a little bit controlling (or TRIED to be), but it wasn't to the point of violence thankfully. He was just a jealous and kind of an insecure guy.
 
ChrisL said:
I think there are different "levels" of that kind of controlling person though. My ex was a little bit controlling (or TRIED to be), but it wasn't to the point of violence thankfully. He was just a jealous and kind of an insecure guy.
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A certain degree of that is probably to be expected from a lot of guys (male territoriality, and what not).

However, there really shouldn't be any need for that kind of behavior in a good relationship, and a guy who makes a habit of it should send up some definite "red flags" for any woman involved wth him.
 
Gathomas88 said:
A certain degree of that is probably to be expected from a lot of guys (male territoriality, and what not).

However, there really shouldn't be any need for that kind of behavior in a good relationship, and a guy who makes a habit of it should send up some definite "red flags" for any woman involved wth him.
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He got mad and yelled at me for waving at someone one time. A person waved at me, and I waved back, and he was all upset about it. :roll: I was like, WTH, am I just supposed to ignore people now to make you happy?
 
ChrisL said:
He got mad and yelled at me for waving at someone one time. A person waved at me, and I waved back, and he was all upset about it. :roll: I was like, WTH, am I just supposed to ignore people now to make you happy?
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Yea. That's absolutely retarded.

I got a little jealous with my highschool girlfriend, but that was frankly just because she was a shameless flirt. :lol:

She went to this pool party without me (I had to work that day), and someone told that she was wrestling with boys in the pool and flirting with this one guy the whole party. I brought it up with her afterwards, but I never yelled at her or told her that she couldn't talk to other guys though.

Frankly, considering the fact that she had a new boyfriend within less than a week of our eventual break-up (the guy they told me she was flirting with at the party), I kind of suspect that my feelings on the matter weren't entirely unjustified anyway. lol
 
Gathomas88 said:
Yea. That's absolutely retarded.

I got a little jealous with my highschool girlfriend, but that was frankly just because she was a shameless flirt. :lol:

She went to this pool party without me (I had to work that day), and someone told that she was wrestling with boys in the pool and flirting with this one guy the whole party. I brought it up with her afterwards, but I never yelled at her or told her that she couldn't talk to other guys though.

Frankly, considering the fact that she had a new boyfriend within less than a week of our eventual break-up (the guy they told me she was flirting with at the party), I kind of suspect that my feelings on the matter weren't entirely unjustified anyway. lol
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Well yeah, a person should probably curb their flirting a little when in a relationship.
 
ChrisL said:
Well yeah, a person should probably curb their flirting a little when in a relationship.
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By this, should we conclude that neither you nor Gathomas are currently in one? :2wave:
 
Gathomas88 said:
You'll have to ask the lady. I'm just trying to keep up here without getting "dominated." :lol:
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WITHOUT getting dominated?

THat settles my question, then. I mean, once a person has experienced her when she wears her special outfit, I couldn't imagine anybody actually saying such a thing.
 
Gardener said:
WITHOUT getting dominated?

THat settles my question, then. I mean, once a person has experienced her when she wears her special outfit, I couldn't imagine anybody actually saying such a thing.
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Good point.

"Resistance is futile," it would appear. :lol:
 
Re: Men: Would You Marry an American Woman?

right after I give my money to my kids and charity
 
Re: Men: Would You Marry an American Woman?

you have to get the right person/woman to marry it is as hard as winning the lotto... people do change as they get older so will you still be compatible??? men also have to have hard core chemistry for the woman he marries or their will be trouble in the future..but one thing I learned is that please tell all your friends LIVE AT LEAST 2 YEARS WITH THE LADY BEFORE GETTING MARRIED 5 WOULD BE BETTER then you will know
 
ChrisL said:
Why on Earth would a woman want to deal with a pushy man, a man who wants to boss her around all the time and tell her what to do, a man she has to "check in with" all the time?
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I can't say that I've met very many men like that at all. In fact, I'm not sure I've ever met one.
I have met plenty of men who like to consider themselves the bread-winner of the family, and like to have a wife who will stay at home and raise the kids, but I've not met any who want to tell their wives what to do, or boss her around. I grew up in a traditional home, with a dad who worked, and a mom who stayed home, and I can assure you that my dad didn't dare tell my mom what to do. She probably would not have taken to it well at all, and would not have hesitated to let him know about it. :lol:
 
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plutonium said:
..but one thing I learned is that please tell all your friends LIVE AT LEAST 2 YEARS WITH THE LADY BEFORE GETTING MARRIED 5 WOULD BE BETTER then you will know
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I seriously doubt that even that works, as people are in a constant state of change (or at least they should be growing, rather than static). I found that a frequent reassessment and revision in my thinking was necessary, as both people in a relationship change, and sometimes it is difficult not to let the gap get so wide that there is no longer anything in common to help hold you together.
 
Gardener said:
WITHOUT getting dominated?

THat settles my question, then. I mean, once a person has experienced her when she wears her special outfit, I couldn't imagine anybody actually saying such a thing.
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Have you been spying on me? :lamo
 
ChrisL said:
Have you been spying on me? :lamo
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Damn -- next time I'm bringing windex.

The noseprints on the glass betray me every time!
 
lizzie said:
I can't say that I've met very many men like that at all. In fact, I'm not sure I've ever met one.
I have met plenty of men who like to consider themselves the bread-winner of the family, and like to have a wife who will stay at home and raise the kids, but I've not met any who want to tell their wives what to do, or boss her around. I grew up in a traditional home, with a dad who worked, and a mom who stayed home, and I can assure you that my dad didn't dare tell my mom what to do. She probably would not have taken to it well at all, and would not have hesitated to let him know about it. :lol:
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Yeah, well they're out there. Don't be naive now.
 
ChrisL said:
Yeah, well they're out there. Don't be naive now.
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I would be genuinely surprised to find out that men are, on the whole, any more controlling than women are. There may be a difference in the manner of expressing it (women may tend to be more passive-aggressive), but I doubt there is a significant difference in the actual numbers.
 
lizzie said:
I would be genuinely surprised to find out that men are, on the whole, any more controlling than women are. There may be a difference in the manner of expressing it (women may tend to be more passive-aggressive), but I doubt there is a significant difference in the actual numbers.
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There is nothing worse in the world than a woman's malice and nagging! :ssst:
 
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