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Men: Would You Marry an American Woman?[W:771]

Men: Would you marry an American Woman?


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Re: Men: Would You Marry an American Woman?

Again, I get the suspicion that you are not bothering to read what you are responding to, vice simply projecting a cartoonish, 2-dimensional meme onto your opposition. Neither Thomas or myself are saying that men should be out there making sure that women are submissive to them; both of us have claimed that - generally - women want[/i] men to lead. We aren't making a statement about men (outside generally of the commentary that men will often remain boys as long as they are able), we are making a statement about women.

So. No. You don't bother to pay attention to what you are responding to. I have pretty much always gone with "generally", because most of these rules are, well, generalities. There are a few things I won't go with Generally because I believe in them as a moral code - saving sex for marriage, for example, the destructiveness of divorce for another. But when talking about which personality is dominant inside a relationship or which member in a household is the driving force in most decisions?

That is incorrect - you can't have it all, as many prominent, well-credentialed women are starting to point out. Women, like men, have to make choices and to choose one thing is often to choose not another. Nor have I ever claimed that women are unable to support themselves. I will claim that women with children usually face difficulties supporting themselves, which is why so many of them replace a husband with the State, who fulfills all of the financial obligations, but never wants to have sex when they have a headache. :lol:

You are attempting to project onto us arguments we aren't making, and disputing those without evidence. You are smarter than strawmen, Smoke.


And your statements about women are incorrect, and based upon the idea that for women to be self-hating and prevented from achieving what they want to is somehow "natural."

Women can have it all, but not if they have to do everything. That's the problem with America, and it's the reason your precious fertility rates are falling.

Women try to not only work, but also do pretty much 100% of house and child care because most men still simply refuse to do any of it. And no, that is absolutely not sustainable.

However, there are places where men are beginning to share that work. And guess what? The fertility rate is climbing.

At the end of the day, most women are not like me -- I will grant you that much. They would have children, or have more children, if it weren't for the fact that they damn well know their partner will just dump everything on them, and they will either lose what might be an enjoyable career or simply wind up killing themselves trying to do everything virtually alone.

So unless she just wants to stay home from the outset, why the hell would a woman settle down? Why would she trade a lifestyle where she's treating equally, for one where she knows she won't be?

If you want to save your precious fertility rates, you're going to have to let go of this idea of a woman's "place." You could maintain that when women were very isolated and just didn't have any access to any other facets of life, but now that they are not, you are not going to be able to convince them, on a larger social level, to take the back seat. You're going to have to share.
 
I met him while I was living in northern Germany. Germany's concept of sexism is different from America's. It is hard to explain, but one huge thing that stands out is that on American TV if you see a man changing diapers or cleaning its a joke and its funny, because he is going to **** up. It is a classic comedy situation. On modern German TV, it is not the same.

Well I'd point to that as part of my greater point that our common culture today denigrates the role of the father, if we used to overemphasize it. If we fell off of one side of the horse during the days of Father Knows Best, we've fallen off the other side in the days of Homer Simpson. My father changed plenty of diapers, I've changed diapers every day I've been home for years, and all the fathers I know change diapers. Hell, I literally change two diapers every day before breakfast, since I get up with the kids and get them fed.
 
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Are you referring to the "you can have it all" fantasy ?

No; it's basically a hippy-fied version of the Stepford wife. It's actually kind of shocking how sexist the third wave really is.
 
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And your statements about women are incorrect, and based upon the idea that for women to be self-hating and prevented from achieving what they want to is somehow "natural."

no, actually, nothing I have said is based upon that idea. Perhaps this confusion is why you think they are incorrect.

Women can have it all, but not if they have to do everything. That's the problem with America, and it's the reason your precious fertility rates are falling.

Fertility rates are falling for a number of reasons. Another major factor is the socialization of old-age costs. And they are important to those of us who give a crap about the future. Which, agreeably, parents are more likely to do than the "childfree".

Women try to not only work, but also do pretty much 100% of house and child care because most men still simply refuse to do any of it.

Incorrect. Women do more housework, but not nearly 100%, unless they are the ones who are home all day, in which case the man can only do housework when he is, well, home to do it. Here are the numbers according to PEW:

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You will see that even including the fact that many more women than men are full-time homemakers, men do a little over a third of the housework, and a third of the child-rearing. You are confusing 1965 with 2014. Apparently feminist rhetoric hasn't caught up to reality.

However, there are places where men are beginning to share that work. And guess what? The fertility rate is climbing.

Now that would be interesting to see - can you demonstrate it? Because - strictly anecdotally - what I see in my own life are women who are baby mama's to multiple babies whose father(s) think that their responsibilities begin and usually end with a check, if that. The highest fertility rates are among the demographics that are less likely to have a successful marriage. So that would have to be a pretty powerful narrow slice, there.

At the end of the day, most women are not like me -- I will grant you that much. They would have children, or have more children, if it weren't for the fact that they damn well know their partner will just dump everything on them, and they will either lose what might be an enjoyable career or simply wind up killing themselves trying to do everything virtually alone.

Then they should marry men instead of boys, or demand that boys become men in order to marry them. However, I have not seen the data which demonstrates that this belief is predominant among women who choose not to have children, or to sharply reduce the number of those that they do have.

So unless she just wants to stay home from the outset, why the hell would a woman settle down? Why would she trade a lifestyle where she's treating equally, for one where she knows she won't be?

Well, Smoke, gosh. What an interesting question. Why do they? And why do those who don't poll so heavily that they want to?

Now, Thomas and I have said some stuff along the lines that - generally - this is the sort of thing that women want. When polled, apparently, women say they want it, too. And when you take a look at their actions, it seems as though they often act out those desires.

But you and Chris are insisting that they don't. So, you tell us. If women do not want that, then why do they do it, and why do they claim to want to do so?

If you want to save your precious fertility rates, you're going to have to let go of this idea of a woman's "place." You could maintain that when women were very isolated and just didn't have any access to any other facets of life, but now that they are not, you are not going to be able to convince them, on a larger social level, to take the back seat. You're going to have to share.

You're going to have to start reading what you're responding to, or perhaps start playing with the idea that your opposition isn't a shallow stereotype.
 
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I've provided financial coaching, career advice, and personal mentoring to, well, probably a couple of hundred 18-24 year old males over the last few years, and I struggle to come up with a definition by which I can describe "having a clear goal in life and working towards it" is a defining feature of the age group. :shrug: We're extending adolescence until what - 26 now? 26 year olds used to have multiple children and a career. Now they are in graduate school working on that thesis eventually while still using their parents' health insurance? That is going to have effects. We sent everyone to college and then we started extending college -your typical four year degree now happens in five years if it happens at all. That is going to have effects. Marriage and parenthood is a major spur for men to grow up. It's happening later and later and less and less. That is going to have effects.

There's a junior solider in my unit who acts almost exactly like that. The guy's 25, but he acts like he's 17.

He comes from an affluent middle class family, he's slllllooooowwwly working his way through college for a degree in Criminal Justice even he thinks will be worthless (after flunking out once), he lives at home, is a borderline alcoholic (claims he can't sleep without a decent buzz going), will scream at his mother like a petulant child when she gives him fuss about mooching, and states that his goal for the foreseeable future is to complete his enlistment contract just so he can be free to smoke weed without answering to anyone.

He's a nice enough guy (he sort of treats me like an older brother even though we're the same age), but seeing how he lives is like watching a damn train wreck.

The sad part is that stories like his are not terribly uncommon either. I knew another guy almost exactly the same way in my old unit, only he was about 6 years older. After spending his entire twenties ****ing around, he finally got married to a woman who was willing to provide for him, and is now perfectly content to sit around playing video games and drinking beer while he plays house husband for her.

Go figure. :shrug:

Speak for yourself pervert :2razz:

During my deployment overseas, I was honestly dreaming about women almost every other night. :lol:

At the time, it seemed like everything in my life was on track too.

I joined the military to help pay for college in 2007 and actually managed to get picked up for a job with good civilian employment prospects, I went to a school with a good academic reputation, I graduated with honors after only four years in 2010 with a degree in a discipline relevant to my military line of work, I deployed to the Middle East for a year 6 months after graduation and got some practical experience in the field and a decent chunk of money to make a down payment on starting an independent life for myself after I got back, and....

...

...

...

I got home and was basically instantly swatted upside the head by the Obama economy.

None of the jobs I actually wanted were willing to hire me, and I was over qualified for the lower tier jobs. The chunk of money I accumulated withered away with time, as did my standards for seeking employment.

Now, here I sit; 25, single, living at home, working part time at some ridiculous retail job that barely pays me enough to cover my expenses every paycheck, and trying desperately to get picked up for an officer slot in the Army (basically the only upper tier job I'm qualified for right now) before the institution gets fully gutted.

Yaaaaaayyy!!! 'Merica! :roll:

I honestly suspect that my situation would be exactly the same right now if I had been like everyone else I see and never even tried at all.
 
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I've provided financial coaching, career advice, and personal mentoring to, well, probably a couple of hundred 18-24 year old males over the last few years, and I struggle to come up with a definition by which I can describe "having a clear goal in life and working towards it" is a defining feature of the age group. :shrug: We're extending adolescence until what - 26 now? 26 year olds used to have multiple children and a career. Now they are in graduate school working on that thesis eventually while still using their parents' health insurance? That is going to have effects. We sent everyone to college and then we started extending college -your typical four year degree now happens in five years if it happens at all. That is going to have effects. Marriage and parenthood is a major spur for men to grow up. It's happening later and later and less and less. That is going to have effects.

I don't doubt your experience but I would question whether your experience was limited to a particular socioeconomic group and that what you witnessed was an affect of those conditions rather than any impact of the feminist movement. That seems to be more logical.

It also makes sense to me that adolescence is extended due to economic necessity not because men don't have to grow up to get laid anymore.

:shrug: that's not implausible at all. Women are attracted to alpha's, after all. Men therefore seek success not least because it increases their attractiveness to women, and their ability to turn that attraction into what they are seeking (sex). Give a guy sex without making him work for it, and he's like the butterfly you helped out of the cocoon. Happy now, and he'll never fly under his own power.

I sometimes like to have sex with alphas but I never wanted to have a relationship with one. Women are now free to make the same distinction between who they want to have sex with and who they want to have a lasting relationship as been have always had.

Your position implies that women always want commitment and men always just want sex. I give both genders more room than that.
 
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There's a junior solider in my unit who acts almost exactly like that. The guy's 25, but he acts like he's 17.

He comes from an affluent middle class family, he's slllllooooowwwly working his way through college for a degree in Criminal Justice even he thinks will be worthles (after flunking out once), he lives at home, is a borderline alcoholic (claims he can't sleep without a decent buzz going), will scream at his mother like a petulant child when she gives him fuss about mooching, and states that his goal for the foreseeable future is to complete his enlistment contract just so he can be free to smoke weed without answering to anyone.

He's a nice enough guy (he sort of treats me like an older brother even though we're the same age), but seeing how this guy lives is like watching a damn train wreck.

The sad part is that stories like his are not terribly uncommon either. I knew another guy almost exactly the same way in my old unit, only he was about 6 years older. After spending his entire twenties ****ing around, he finally got married to a woman who was willing to provide for him, and is now perfectly content to sit around playing video games and drinking beer while he plays house husband for her.

Go figure. :shrug:



During my deployment overseas, I was honestly dreaming about women almost every other night. :lol:

At the time, it seemed like everything in my life was on track too.

I joined the military to help pay for college in 2007 and actually managed to get picked up for a job with good civilian employment prospects, I went to a school with a good academic reputation, I graduated with honors after only four years in 2010 with a degree in a discipline relevant to my military line of work, I deployed to the Middle East for a year 6 months after graduation and got some practical experience in the field and a decent chunk of money to make a down payment on starting an independent life for myself after I got back, and....

...

...

...

I got home and was basically instantly swatted upside the head by the Obama economy.

None of the jobs I actually wanted were willing to hire me, and I was over qualified for the lower tier jobs. The chunk of money I accumulated withered away with time, as did my standards for seeking employment.

Now, here I sit; 25, single, living at home, working part time at some ridiculous retail job that barely pays me enough to cover my expenses every paycheck, and trying desperately to get picked up for an officer slot in the Army (basically the only upper tier job I'm qualified for right now) before the institution gets fully gutted.

Yaaaaaayyy!!! 'Merica! :roll:

Off topic, but from a military member to a perspective military member, joining the military now is actually even riskier then the civilian job market. Until they finish cuts and decide on a definate post war military size, even a 3 year contract is risky because they can simply buy your contract out and send you back into the civilian market. If you have a college degree, I would keep looking for a civilian job and wait on the military option until things settle down.
 
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no, actually, nothing I have said is based upon that idea. Perhaps this confusion is why you think they are incorrect.

Fertility rates are falling for a number of reasons. Another major factor is the socialization of old-age costs. And they are important to those of us who give a crap about the future. Which, agreeably, parents are more likely to do than the "childfree".

Incorrect. Women do more housework, but not nearly 100%, unless they are the ones who are home all day, in which case the man can only do housework when he is, well, home to do it. Here are the numbers according to PEW:

You will see that even including the fact that many more women than men are full-time homemakers, men do a little over a third of the housework, and a third of the child-rearing. You are confusing 1965 with 2014. Apparently feminist rhetoric hasn't caught up to reality.

Now that would be interesting to see - can you demonstrate it? Because - strictly anecdotally - what I see in my own life are women who are baby mama's to multiple babies whose father(s) think that their responsibilities begin and usually end with a check, if that. The highest fertility rates are among the demographics that are less likely to have a successful marriage. So that would have to be a pretty powerful narrow slice, there.

Then they should marry men instead of boys, or demand that boys become men in order to marry them. However, I have not seen the data which demonstrates that this belief is predominant among women who choose not to have children, or to sharply reduce the number of those that they do have.

Well, Smoke, gosh. What an interesting question. Why do they? And why do those who don't poll so heavily that they want to?

Now, Thomas and I have said some stuff along the lines that - generally - this is the sort of thing that women want. When polled, apparently, women say they want it, too. And when you take a look at their actions, it seems as though they often act out those desires.

But you and Chris are insisting that they don't. So, you tell us. If women do not want that, then why do they do it, and why do they claim to want to do so?

You're going to have to start reading what you're responding to, or perhaps start playing with the idea that your opposition isn't a shallow stereotype.

Yeah, those damn childfree making sure your kids have advancing medical care. :lol: Anyway...

You're comparing apples and oranges. Taking the broad view, the woman is doing less work, affording her more time to do other stuff. However, we were talking specifically about women who try to "do it all." The career, the kids, etc. And the amount of work the man is doing to help doesn't change. So if she is working more, and he is not helping any more than he would be if she were working less, that means what...?

The Nordic countries in particular, but really most of Europe, are starting to see a fertility turn-around as men become more likely to take paternity leave and contribute in other ways. It's very early days, but the fact that only the most sexist developed countries are the ones where fertility is still falling is probably not a coincidence.

A large chunk of childless women or mothers of single children in the US name lack of time and/or their career as a reason they did not have children, or have more children. They would have were it not for those factors. For the upshot...
Childfree - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

That's exactly what I just said, dude. That they want to, but there is a reason they don't. And the reason they don't, is because they DON'T want to be treated the way you advocate, and the way they know they will be. However, that does not mean they don't want marriage and/or children.

I would, except everything about your stances is based on stereotypes, so...
 
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No; it's basically a hippy-fied version of the Stepford wife. It's actually kind of shocking how sexist the third wave really is.

care to explain then? NP if you don't want to get into it here.
 
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Off topic, but from a military member to a perspective military member, joining the military now is actually even riskier then the civilian job market. Until they finish cuts and decide on a definate post war military size, even a 3 year contract is risky because they can simply buy your contract out and send you back into the civilian market. If you have a college degree, I would keep looking for a civilian job and wait on the military option until things settle down.

:shrug: I'm trying other things here and there (retail management is another possible venue), but the military is honestly the only half way decent bet I have left at this point.

College degrees these days aren't worth the paper they're printed on.
 
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I don't doubt your experience but I would question whether your experience was limited to a particular socioeconomic group and that what you witnessed was an affect of those conditions rather than any impact of the feminist movement. That seems to be more logical.

:shrug: it was members of the Marine Corps. the only demographic they all belong to was generational (which a couple of exceptions) they were younger than me (I'm 30). White, blac, hispanic, you name it. I've known a multi-millionaire who was a PFC in the Marine Corps, and I've known plenty of people who were idiotic with money and therefore often broke, which is to say, they weren't that far off from the American norm. I've served with people who had degrees, people who didn't :shrug: I was a Sergeant with a Masters' Degree, my SSgt had a Law Degree, and one of my Corporals barely graduated High School, re-took the ASVAB to try to move into a different MOS, and accidentally disqualified himself from military service. :lol:

Outside of "self-selecting for alpha type personalities", and the fact that we get fewer African Americans than the Army or Navy, you don't get that many particular socio-economic groupings in the Marine Corps.

It also makes sense to me that adolescence is extended due to economic necessity not because men don't have to grow up to get laid anymore.

Nope. Economic ease makes it easier to remain in adolescence.

I sometimes like to have sex with alphas but I never wanted to have a relationship with one.

:shrug: well that would be one manifestation of what we are pointing out, but again, it's a general statement. generally, women are hardwired to be attracted to alpha males just as males are hardwired to be attracted to youth, physical attractiveness, etc; both genders seeking out the qualities in a mate that would give them an advantage in passing down their genes.
 
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No one yet has presented any superior natures of non-American women. Just fantasy ones maybe.
 
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care to explain then? NP if you don't want to get into it here.

The third wave promotes motherhood as the ultimate expression of femininity, and elevates it above everything. Not just career, but even their relationship with their partner. It's the feminism of co-sleeping into grade school and things like that (although to their view, real feminists homeschool too). A woman who is properly deferential to her reproductive ability spends her time at home, making crunchy DIY products to protect her children from the poison of consumer products. It's a total obsession with children and homemaking.

Women like me are viewed with a certain degree of disdain for rejecting our most "feminine" quality. They'll pay lip service to the idea that women get to decide their paths, but they will also say it's "sad" that I have chosen not to experience the "ultimate" love and purpose of being a mother.

Personally, I want nothing to do with the third wave, and I think it's nothing more than a reaction by disappointed second wave feminists whose lives didn't turn out how they imagined.

Now, that said, there are still lots of feminists doing good work, but this is the most clearly identifiable, dedicated feminism that I see at this point in time.
 
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Yeah, those damn childfree making sure your kids have advancing medical care. :lol: Anyway...

No they aren't, either. They're putting fluoride in the water, which is why American men must bomb Europe in order to protect our Manly Essences. :mrgreen:

You're comparing apples and oranges. Taking the broad view, the woman is doing less work, affording her more time to do other stuff. However, we were talking specifically about women who try to "do it all." The career, the kids, etc. And the amount of work the man is doing to help doesn't change. So if she is working more, and he is not helping any more than he would be if she were working less, that means what...?

Actually I was comparing 1965 to 2011 to demonstrate that your claims as to work breakdown were inaccurate. And it was apples-to-apples.

The Nordic countries in particular, but really most of Europe, are starting to see a fertility turn-around as men become more likely to take paternity leave and contribute in other ways. It's very early days, but the fact that only the most sexist developed countries are the ones where fertility is still falling is probably not a coincidence.

I'd really like to see this, if you have a link. I have not heard anything about Europe having a fertility turn-around that was driven by anything other than immigration. Immigrants to Europe tend to keep something closer to the fertility rates of their country of origin, but are also least likely to demonstrate the social trends you are describing as feeding fertility.

However, it also seems that you agree this is not the case in the States. ?

A large chunk of childless women or mothers of single children in the US name lack of time and/or their career as a reason they did not have children, or have more children. They would have were it not for those factors. For the upshot...
Childfree - Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

yeah, you've posted the childfree stuff before. And I agree - having children is a drag on a career. But this isn't answering the question - if the choice to marry, have children, and become a home-maker is such an awful one, why do so many women make it, and why do 84% of working women say that they wish they had the financial resources to do so??

That's exactly what I just said, dude. That they want to, but there is a reason they don't. And the reason they don't, is because they DON'T want to be treated the way you advocate, and the way they know they will be.

You appear to have no idea how I treat my wife, or even how I advocate men treat women inside of marriage. If the cartoonish one-liners and 1965-era rhetoric you have brought to bear in this debate is indicative, it seems you have no idea what Thomas thinks, either, and are substituting easy strawmen for your the actual people you are talking to.

I would, except everything about your stances is based on stereotypes, so...

No, my stance is built on generalities, which include infinite nuances and variations, but express themselves as means and trends. You are claiming that the people you are talking to believe things they straight up tell you they do not believe.
 
A stay at home dad and working mom is completely acceptable in Germany and much of northern Europe. It goes against traditional gender roles, and that troubles Americans.


Well I'd point to that as part of my greater point that our common culture today denigrates the role of the father, if we used to overemphasize it. If we fell off of one side of the horse during the days of Father Knows Best, we've fallen off the other side in the days of Homer Simpson. My father changed plenty of diapers, I've changed diapers every day I've been home for years, and all the fathers I know change diapers. Hell, I literally change two diapers every day before breakfast, since I get up with the kids and get them fed.
 
I know a self described feminist housewife, mother of four. I am not sure how much time she put towards making sure food is pesticide free, but I liked her. I also have a good friend that makes vegan food, and calls herself the same. So I have definitely seen what you're saying first hand.


The third wave promotes motherhood as the ultimate expression of femininity, and elevates it above everything. Not just career, but even their relationship with their partner. It's the feminism of co-sleeping into grade school and things like that (although to their view, real feminists homeschool too). A woman who is properly deferential to her reproductive ability spends her time at home, making crunchy DIY products to protect her children from the poison of consumer products. It's a total obsession with children and homemaking.

Women like me are viewed with a certain degree of disdain for rejecting our most "feminine" quality. They'll pay lip service to the idea that women get to decide their paths, but they will also say it's "sad" that I have chosen not to experience the "ultimate" love and purpose of being a mother.

Personally, I want nothing to do with the third wave, and I think it's nothing more than a reaction by disappointed second wave feminists whose lives didn't turn out how they imagined.

Now, that said, there are still lots of feminists doing good work, but this is the most clearly identifiable, dedicated feminism that I see at this point in time.
 
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Is this the part where I point out the emotional content of your response vice the reason in it, and you get all bent out of shape at me accusing you of reacting emotionally, and then I point out that you are demonstrating part of my point?

I'm not being emotional. I was trying to be funny, but stuffy guys with the mentality of a cranky old man don't get humor. :2razz:

:shrug: however, I'll agree, I haven't been married that long - about 6 years now in all. Fortunately, they do polling on this sort of thing, and so when I point out that - generally - women prefer to be led by a man vice (for example) a woman boss, I am - generally - correct. The stats are probably out there for the other items as well - would you like to place, say, a year's platinum membership on the line that men ask women to marry them more than women ask men? We could wager a sig line on whether or not men initiate sex more than women do? whattya say?

All of this depends upon the person. People are individuals. I don't know why you can't understand this simple concept.

:D Usually it's Outback. Or Chik-fil-A.

Never had Chik-fil-A. We don't have those around here. Outback blooming onions are the bomb!

:roll: responding with sarcasm doesn't actually make you look well-thought-out, Chris. It just makes you look unable to respond with anything else.
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Oh well, you can't speak for other people, only yourself. :) You need to realize that.
 
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You're missing out. :mrgreen:

Is it anything like Kentucky Fried Chicken? I've had that plenty of times. :) What's so special about this place?
 
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Is it anything like Kentucky Fried Chicken? I've had that plenty of times. :) What's so special about this place?

It's almost, but not some perfect thing that some would pretend. Honestly, I like McDonald's crispy fried chicken better.
 
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It's almost, but not some perfect thing that some would pretend. Honestly, I like McDonald's crispy fried chicken better.

To me, fried chicken is always good. You have to REALLY mess it up to make it taste bad. :lol:
 
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Is it anything like Kentucky Fried Chicken? I've had that plenty of times. :) What's so special about this place?

Waaaaay better than Kentucky Fried Chicken. :)

They specialize more in chicken nuggets and sandwiches than fried chicken proper though.
 
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Waaaaay better than Kentucky Fried Chicken.

How can that BE? They don't have the Colonel's secret recipe???!!!! :2razz:
 
Re: Men: Would You Marry an American Woman?

I've provided financial coaching, career advice, and personal mentoring to, well, probably a couple of hundred 18-24 year old males over the last few years, and I struggle to come up with a definition by which I can describe "having a clear goal in life and working towards it" is a defining feature of the age group. :shrug: We're extending adolescence until what - 26 now? 26 year olds used to have multiple children and a career. Now they are in graduate school working on that thesis eventually while still using their parents' health insurance? That is going to have effects. We sent everyone to college and then we started extending college -your typical four year degree now happens in five years if it happens at all. That is going to have effects. Marriage and parenthood is a major spur for men to grow up. It's happening later and later and less and less. That is going to have effects.



:shrug: that's not implausible at all. Women are attracted to alpha's, after all. Men therefore seek success not least because it increases their attractiveness to women, and their ability to turn that attraction into what they are seeking (sex). Give a guy sex without making him work for it, and he's like the butterfly you helped out of the cocoon. Happy now, and he'll never fly under his own power.

Greetings, cpwill. :2wave:

Excellent post! :thumbs: Perhaps the reason there are so many divorces in the age group you cited is because nobody has to grow up fast like previous generations were forced to do, mainly for economic reasons. It seems like when newly married couples today hit the inevitable bumps in the road which life throws at them, their first reaction is to think about divorce instead of working together and getting through them. "Life is supposed to be fun, so who needs problems?" type of thinking.

As I have posted before, it's interesting that young divorced people still continue to party with each other in their respective groups, and they have no problems with that. I suppose that is a good thing, because women no longer have to stay in a marriage to feel financially secure since most can take care of themselves because they have jobs, but it is indicative of the thinking today. I do believe that men have more to lose, though, because they are wired since cave-man days to be the providers, and that has been taken away from them in many cases. Just an observation on my part...:confused:
 
Re: Men: Would You Marry an American Woman?

To me, fried chicken is always good. You have to REALLY mess it up to make it taste bad. :lol:

Zaxby's is probably my favorite. $9 will get you 6 chicken fingers, a full box of steak fries, and two pieces of texas toast with a drink on the side.

It's the quickest path to heart disease known to man! :lol:
 
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