Re: Men: Would You Marry an American Woman?
Dude, who else is going to give you the time of day except women who are already pre-disposed to dealing with your attitude on relationships? For all we know, you and I have met at some point, but I wouldn't factor into your experience because I would sooner eat my hand than get in a relationship with someone who has such contrary beliefs to myself. You can't make statements about all women based on who you've dated when, obviously, someone who doesn't like your view wouldn't date you.
Are you going to
deny that men generally tend to be more dominant in heterosexual relationships, and that relationships with that balance reversed often wind up running into problems on a long term basis?
It's really telling that a woman who doesn't fit your model of submissiveness is "bossy," but if you do it, it's the way things should be, and apparently how all women want it to be.
A person's "bossiness" is determined independently of their gender.
The simple fact of the matter is that I don't mix particularly well with domineering personality types. Unless we're talking about a boss / employee type relationship, most men don't.
A lot of women, on the other hand, actually
prefer men who are able to take a dominant role in a relationship.
Duh. And yet you kind of desire it in a woman...
Not at all. As I told AuntSpiker, I find a wide variety of women desirable. I can handle, shy, intelligent, or even feisty personalities without a problem.
"Bossiness," however; simply isn't a trait that I find to be particularly feminine.
And I hate all this "head versus neck" talk. It means nothing. It's a hollow consultation to soften the blow of basically saying that you expect to get your way because you, as the man, simply know better, and any decent woman should know that you know better and go with it. It's like when parents let their child hold a wrench so they can pretend they're helping fix the sink, and then pat them on the head and go, "Aren't you the best little plumber? Yes, you are!" Don't patronize women, please. We're not stupid.
"If mommy's not happy, no one's happy."
Sound familiar?
Even in male dominant relationships, women hold a great deal of power and influence. A woman who is dissatisfied with the state of her marriage is fully capable of tearing a family apart.
It is in a man's best interests to respect her input and opinions as such.
Well geez, for someone who is so young and still practically a newlywed, you sure seem to an AWFUL lot about women and what they want. You must have been QUITE the stud when you were available on the dating scene since you know us women SO well. Lol! What makes you think your personal experience count anywhere except in your own mind?
Also, how many times, when you wife says "you pick" and you pick Chinese, does she say, "well, I'm not really in the mood for Chinese tonight."? Hmmmmm? :lol:
Ummm... Chris, CP really isn't all that young (he's all of 5 years younger than you, if even that).
No offense or anything, but you've also never been married, and you're single right now.
Again, no offense, but what you posted above is kind of a weak criticism of his point and you know it. :lol:
Also, didn't we already say that women often exert influence even in male dominated relationships, but that it simply happens to be in more subtle ways than men?
But you said that women want to be led.
I said that most women tend to prefer dominant men who are willing and able to take the lead when necessary.
You keep saying that women like it, but where is your evidence of this?
Common cultural knowledge? The opinions of most of the women in this thread?
I don't think I've seen a single woman come forward so far saying that they actually
prefer submissive men.
How many men, on the other hand, complain about domineering women?
I think all this is reliant upon the people involved in the relationship. YOU don't like domineering personalities and that's fine, but you don't speak for everyone, and certainly less traditional relationships can also be successful because those people are not you.
It might very well be my personal preference. However, my preference in this regard is also the preference of most of the male population.
Again, I'm not really sure how you can try to deny the fact that most women tend to prefer "assertive" men who take more dominant roles in relationships.