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Men: Would You Marry an American Woman?[W:771]

Men: Would you marry an American Woman?


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Re: Men: Would You Marry an American Woman?

Frankly, if you're willing to respect yourself, and stand by your values, you shouldn't need to worry about anyone else disrespecting you or forcing you to change what you believe anyway.

And if you do that, you'll end up earning respect from the kind of the people you want to respect you.
 
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My mom taught me that if I wanted respect I better do something to earn it. I understand your love of the entitlement culture but the truth is you are not entitled to even the least bit of respect.

Some of these posts are just ridiculous....we should ask how many of them have ever lied to a woman to get sex? lol

(And then ask them why they had to lie! lmao)
 
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You know I am just thankful to find a thread on this forum that is actually having a discussion between male and female unions instead of same sex. :)
I can also understand why a number of males look to Asians and other women for a mate. Many American women no longer see the male as substantial in in any relationship. Just look at the single mother stats to figure that one out. Unfortunately for the female race she is crashing and burning at proving little to no success on that one. As I read these posts, I find myself being ever more grateful for my mate. He is an all American male and I am an all American female. We have been together for multiple decades. Raised children who are functioning well in society. I walk beside my mate. We are equals. He brings things to our relationship that I can't. And I do the same. I call him the head of house, and I am the heart. Each has a distinctive roll to play. And both are just as equal in need if you are wishing to achieve balance.

How does that indicate that women 'dont find men substantial?' What makes you think it's her totally her choice? 2 people had sex...she decided to keep the kid...did she boot him or did he run off? How do you know from that 'statistic?' IMO it has nothing to do with how women view men but more about how responsible BOTH genders are about birth control.
 
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Yeah, some chick in a magazine in a backwater sinkhole of a country will probably marry you. But trust me, and trust the many men who've been burned by them, it isn't because of her "traditional values." It's because her life sucks and you're her ticket out.

There are a lot of rubes who think that Asian women, who grew up around Asian men and Asian standards of beauty, like American men with their (relatively) big noses, sweaty bodies, and hair growing from every crevice. These deluded naifs don't realize that the only reason they're willing to leave their country and their families behind is so that they can suck the money out of their wallets and their bank accts and send it back home to their real family.
 
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*yawn* More whining from the strike-out crew, blaming their own issues with getting a date and keeping a mate on some evil feminist conspiracy.
Why don't you just get straight to the point? :mrgreen:

Tell us what you really think, S&M.
 
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Not everybody believes this is a problem or at least they will not admit to it.

You might have already answered the question. It might have gotten missed. Have you ever hired a man in your current supervisory role? If so, what is the mix? 10% men/90% women? 50% men/50% women? 75% men/25% women? or no preference/doesn't weigh into the decision at all? Some people might be curious about the situation.

I didn't answer the question on purpose. Your gender tangent is bizarre and not worthy of indulgence. I'd be willing to bet that you are the only "some people" curious.
 
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*yawn* More whining from the strike-out crew, blaming their own issues with getting a date and keeping a mate on some evil feminist conspiracy.

The fact is, America is far less feminist and less equal than many of the countries you folks would prefer to "get your women" from. I don't think any of you even know what progressive gender dynamics are, if you think for one second that America qualifies in the grand scheme of developed nations.

It's also kind of hysterical that you fail to see that talking about women as though they were various flavors of soup and whining like children might be part of the reason you're having a hard time finding a date.

Yeah, some chick in a magazine in a backwater sinkhole of a country will probably marry you. But trust me, and trust the many men who've been burned by them, it isn't because of her "traditional values." It's because her life sucks and you're her ticket out. This goes both ways -- men are the predators in some other countries in Europe, tricking vulnerable Eastern block women with free movement in the EU.

I'm sure I'll be accused by people who know better of all the usual -- the archetype of the man-hating feminazi psycho -- despite my endless hours and tens of thousands of words dedicated to discussing gender issues going both ways.

But fine with me. I don't really concern myself with impressing the furious projecting type.

And it's often from men who do not have control over the other areas of their lives...family they grew up in, job, etc. They feel they are entitled to respect *somewhere* and that's what a wife is supposed to do, traditionally.

They dont seem to realize that if you deserve respect, you'll get it...nationality of a woman makes no difference.
 
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For your information, I never took a womens' studies class. I find those people unbearable. Just as unbearable as their inverse, shown here.

Same here!
 
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I was pondering how interesting and mysterious a foreign woman might be, then I remembered how absolutely unfathomable all women are. :shrug:

How does being domestic or otherwise really matter if you understand each other and get along?
 
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I Am not surprised with the results of the poll......Sadly most Americans nowadays don't have the opportunity to marry and Asian woman.

Stop making it seem like marrying an Asian woman will be all sunshine and roses. My husband was married to a Korean woman. She was a horrible, greedy woman and he left her. He married another Korean woman. She, too, was a horrible, greedy woman, and they split up, too. Not pigeonholing all Korean women, but every single one that he met (wives, sisters-in-law, mothers-in-law, etc) were all greedy and didn't take good care of their children. One wife left a 16 year old at home alone, while she went to Korea to visit family. She also left her kids in the backseat of her car while she worked the casinos in Reno. The other wife just completely abandoned her children, and dumped them with her husband because they made her feel old.

Now I am not saying that all Korean women are like that. Not at all. Just giving you his two experiences.

But if I said all Korean women were bad, it would be just like you saying all Asian women are good.

Both are incorrect. There are good and bad in all women. Just like there are good and bad in all men.
 
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I thought this was my imagination running rampant.

How did Henrin like this post twice?

Some of these posts are just ridiculous....we should ask how many of them have ever lied to a woman to get sex? lol

(And then ask them why they had to lie! lmao)

Maybe we wouldn't have to lie if women weren't so damn hard to impress. ;)

It's pretty rare that I'll make a serious effort to get in a girl's pants (I don't really care enough, under most circumstances), but my friends and I will come up with fake backstories for ourselves before going out all the time. The funny thing is that it usually works.

One of my favorites is to simply switch all our names around, and pretend like we're from out of town.

Me: "Hi! I'm Bay. This is my friend, Greg! We're in from Atlanta. What's fun to do around here?"

Other friend: "Hey!"

*Flirtatious small talk ensues until Other, other friend who went to the restroom walks up*

Me: "Hey! I'm Bay! What's your name?"

Other, other friend: "Hey! I'm Chuck!"

Me: "Hey Chuck! We're from out of town!"

Other, other friend: "Nice to meet you! You guys want some shots?"

Me: "Sure man! People here sure are friendly!"

*Aside to girls as soon as he leaves* "What a weirdo, amirite?"

lol
 
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How did Henrin like this post twice?



Maybe we wouldn't have to lie if women weren't so damn hard to impress. ;)

It's pretty rare that I'll make a serious effort to get in a girl's pants (I don't really care enough, under most circumstances), but my friends and I will come up with fake backstories for ourselves before going out all the time. The funny thing is that it usually works.

One of my favorites is to simply switch all our names around, and pretend like we're from out of town.

Me: "Hi! I'm Bay. This is my friend, Greg! We're in from Atlanta. What's fun to do around here?"

Other friend: "Hey!"

*Flirtatious small talk ensues until Other, other friend who went to the restroom walks up*

Me: "Hey! I'm Bob! What's your name?"

Other, other friend: "Hey! I'm Chuck!"

Me: "Hey Chuck! We're from out of town!"

Other, other friend: "Nice to meet you! You guys want some shots?"

Me: "Sure man! People here sure are friendly!"

*Aside to girls as soon as he leaves* "What a weirdo, amirite?"

lol

Geez, for someone who says this you sure do talk about it a lot! :2razz:
 
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Geez, for someone who says this you sure do talk about it a lot! :2razz:

I have friends that are pretty much all about it, unfortunately.

I just kind of tag along for the ride, and try to keep things interesting so that I don't die of boredom. :lol:
 
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I have friends that are pretty much all about it, unfortunately.

I just kind of tag along for the ride, and try to make things interesting so that I don't die of boredom. :lol:

Mmm-hmmm. A likely story! :lol:
 
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How did Henrin like this post twice?

It only shows once here in the thread for me, but when I check my profile it shows that I liked it twice. :/
 
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That's a terribly simplistic view.

Sure. So is "love thy neighbor" and "don't murder anyone". basic simple concepts that mask the complex reality of human interaction and are nonetheless true.

People have a habit of masking their flaws in order to gain trust, only to change radically once the commitment has been made. This fact has overwhelmed even the most principled of people who once thought as you do now.

Not necessarily. You do need two committed partners, in the long run, to make it work well, to be sure. But if you don't, then that would be part of the "doing it wrong" that Cephus points to.
 
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There are a lot of rubes who think that Asian women, who grew up around Asian men and Asian standards of beauty, like American men with their (relatively) big noses, sweaty bodies, and hair growing from every crevice. These deluded naifs don't realize that the only reason they're willing to leave their country and their families behind is so that they can suck the money out of their wallets and their bank accts and send it back home to their real family.

Well, I don't agree white men are unattractive, and cross-racial attraction is quite common. But I mean, if it was about "traditional values" (in their minds, subservience to man-children with control issues), why even bother with men in other countries? They can be treated like crap right in their hometown by someone who actually speaks their language. Why go across the world? I thought part of "traditional values" was caring about your own home community.

Do these guys seriously believe these women are the least bit interested in them for anything other than money and visas?
 
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Well, I don't agree white men are unattractive, and cross-racial attraction is quite common. But I mean, if it was about "traditional values" (in their minds, subservience to man-children with control issues), why even bother with men in other countries? They can be treated like crap right in their hometown by someone who actually speaks their language. Why go across the world? I thought part of "traditional values" was caring about your own home community.

Do these guys seriously believe these women are the least bit interested in them for anything other than money and visas?

Some of them don't care. :lol:
 
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Well, I don't agree white men are unattractive, and cross-racial attraction is quite common. But I mean, if it was about "traditional values" (in their minds, subservience to man-children with control issues), why even bother with men in other countries? They can be treated like crap right in their hometown by someone who actually speaks their language. Why go across the world? I thought part of "traditional values" was caring about your own home community.

Do these guys seriously believe these women are the least bit interested in them for anything other than money and visas?

:shrug: strictly speaking for what I observed, I saw several pretty loving, long-term marriages between the Americans stationed overseas and the local women they married when I was in Japan. The "she's going to marry you, take all your money, screw you over, and then leave you" problem was actually far more prevalent in the U.S.
 
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Some of these posts are just ridiculous....we should ask how many of them have ever lied to a woman to get sex? lol

(And then ask them why they had to lie! lmao)

That is an example of a no win question. If I was to have a factual answer that was not what you find truthful due to your preconceived notions you would call me a liar, but if I was to answer the other way I would be a pig. Therefore, the question is unanswerable and not worth dealing with.
 
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How did Henrin like this post twice?



Maybe we wouldn't have to lie if women weren't so damn hard to impress. ;)

It's pretty rare that I'll make a serious effort to get in a girl's pants (I don't really care enough, under most circumstances), but my friends and I will come up with fake backstories for ourselves before going out all the time. The funny thing is that it usually works.

One of my favorites is to simply switch all our names around, and pretend like we're from out of town.

Me: "Hi! I'm Bay. This is my friend, Greg! We're in from Atlanta. What's fun to do around here?"

Other friend: "Hey!"

*Flirtatious small talk ensues until Other, other friend who went to the restroom walks up*

Me: "Hey! I'm Bob! What's your name?"

Other, other friend: "Hey! I'm Chuck!"

Me: "Hey Chuck! We're from out of town!"

Other, other friend: "Nice to meet you! You guys want some shots?"

Me: "Sure man! People here sure are friendly!"

*Aside to girls as soon as he leaves* "What a weirdo, amirite?"

lol

When I was about your age, I worked for a small software company and one if the salesmen was a really good-looking guy whose first name was the same as mine, and whose last name was incredibly similar (which was a bit extraordinary because we both have uncommon last names). He got the idea to have cards made up with *my* name and work # on them, and he gave them out when to women he was out of town and going out to clubs.

After just a short time, I started getting a lot of calls from the girls he had met, which was annoying at first. But then I had a good idea - Whenever a girl called up, I played along as if I were him. When they asked how I was doing, I told them "Things are great! In fact, I just got a raise and a promotion. And I'm going to be in your town next week. (Truth is, I usually didn't even know what state they were calling from) How about I stay over for the weekend and we'll meet up on Friday night. I'll pick you up around 8. We'll go have a nice meal and then hit the clubs and party all night!"

After a few weeks, and not showing up to countless fake dates, the sales guy came into the office from out of town. He sees me and say "Sangha, what are you doing to me?!!". I put on my most innocent face and asked "What do you mean?" He then tells me that he was out at a club and one of the girls he had met there previously walked up to him and started shouting at him about how he didn't show up for the Big Date he had set up with her.

"Oh, that!!" I said. "Oh yeah, I meant to tell you. You've stood up a lot of women all over the country"

It started happening all over the country. After a while, he got scared to go to the clubs. He kept meeting up with the angry women he stood up. :lamo
 
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Some of them don't care. :lol:

They ought to, because the exact same thing they say they're so concerned about American women doing to them (divorcing and taking everything) is what's probably going to happen with their mail order bride once she qualifies for residency.
 
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Well, I don't agree white men are unattractive, and cross-racial attraction is quite common. But I mean, if it was about "traditional values" (in their minds, subservience to man-children with control issues), why even bother with men in other countries? They can be treated like crap right in their hometown by someone who actually speaks their language. Why go across the world? I thought part of "traditional values" was caring about your own home community.

Do these guys seriously believe these women are the least bit interested in them for anything other than money and visas?

It depends upon the circumstances. Is the average mail order bride looking for love?

No. Absolutely not.

However, some Asian women do find American men to be legitimately appealing. Ironically, that attraction often has just as much to do with culture as the reverse.

By and large, Westerners will treat their women better than many Asian men. Some Asian women appreciate that.

I actually heard something similar from a black woman in my old Army unit once. She said she was thinking about dating a white man, simply because she thought a white man would be a lot less likely to hit her.
 
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:shrug: strictly speaking for what I observed, I saw several pretty loving, long-term marriages between the Americans stationed overseas and the local women they married when I was in Japan. The "she's going to marry you, take all your money, screw you over, and then leave you" problem was actually far more prevalent in the U.S.

I'm taking about the type who intentionally look abroad or do "mail-order" type things. Of course, anyone can fall in love with anyone. But these sorts of people aren't looking for love, and that's evident in how they go about it. They're looking for a subservient woman, and what they'll likely get is a gold digger. I can't say they don't deserve each other.
 
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