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No, she needs her husband to help around the house and he should not have to be asked 50 times before doing what he needs to do. She needs him to be something more than a bit actor in the play that is their marriage.
Asking fifty times is annoying as hell. You would think that after once the answer would be clear to everyone. Apparently not.
Sometimes women do use coercion which does not help in their marriage but what are women to do if men act like little spoiled children when they have to do their share of the work in the household?
They have to do what again? Don't see the problem with saying "have to do their share"? The share is set by both parties, not whatever she thinks. In other words, there has to be an agreement made.
Do it themselves? They are their wives, not the reincarnation of their mothers.
They want the task done and an agreement for the man to do it was failed to be reached. So ah..yeah.
Some men should learn to do their fair share and not try to treat their wives like their did their mothers before they got married. Wives were not put on earth to clean up behind men. Men are perfectly able to put their dirty clothes in hampers, pick up stuff they drop etc.
Who said the woman had to do anything? The woman don't have to wash his dirty clothes. Just leave them be.
You mean other than spousal abuse, rape inside the marriage, sexual harassment at the workplace, discrimination at the workplace, wage discrimination (because also outside of the marriage men like to be controlling women).
Define sexual harassment. Most of the others are legitimate crimes except the two dealing with the workplace.
And it is not just actions but it also is attitudes towards women that go towards controlling them. That attitude is present everywhere, young culture is rampant with that. Modern music videos are mostly about men with scantily clad women, you may not think that is about control but I do. This kind of attitude is what is wrong IMHO. Men have a habit of objectifying women, treat women like property and that is not right.
Oh please, the women in question weren't forced to appear in the videos and no one is controlling anyone to do anything. They were hired to dress in a certain way and do whatever they were hired to do in the video. They agreed to it, which was a completely voluntary action on their part. Can you expand on the last point about objectifying women? That could mean all kind of things.
And even though a lot of men do not think of themselves as controlling, that does not mean that they are not in reality controlling women. When women's reproductive issues were discussed in Washington, all one could see was men.
Both women and men are pro-life.
I was not trying to prove any premise about control with those examples but about how male attitudes/male culture is in part to blame for the break up of marriages as I had previously stated. You asked in a previous post "What makes you think that just has to do with men?" and I gave examples why I think it has to do with males.
Ok.
And FYI, I disagree with you about them not proving control of the man. With their actions, and some of those actions I mentioned in my previous post, are evidence that men are controlling their wives in these situations. As said, a man takes the rights to go with his mates to a bar, controlling their marriage, the work his wife will have to do extra and the freedom of his wife. While he is at the bar, his wife will have to do things he could have/should have done and it also limits her freedom. She cannot go out with her friends for a drink because she has to stay home for the children.
She doesn't have to do anything. She can get a babysitter and not do anything around the house. He didn't control her in any sort of way.
Yes, yes, another great example of the wonderful good old "male attitude/culture".
That you're not seen as manly because you cry? There is no reason to cry dude. Even when something really hurts.
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