I agree with most of what you say, I'd just like to say that I've met feminists (two in particular, a female and a male) who were a bit ideologically dense IMO, insofar as I had the impression they're generalizing too much. That said, I totally agree with the vision of people valuing other humans as humans first, regardless of gender, and I think traditional gender roles are nothing but the personal, individual choice of consenting adults.
Just having become a father of a little daughter, I tend to say that bringing up a child is a difficult task that's hard enough to do for two parents, and one alone certainly has a major disadvantage. However, this only means effectively "one alone" in practize, not necessarily a certain family model: When the husband leaves the upbringing entirely up to the mother, she's factually alone. And a single mom isn't factually alone, when she has grandparents supporting her, and/or gay flatmates, etc.
I'd just argue that raising a kid is a hard job that's better done by more than just one person, and that children need stable environments. The exact constallation, however, I don't think is so important. IMO.
Applause!
Couldn't agree more. Marriage shouldn't be a matter of vastly uneven power distribution, or even "prostitiution" of some kind. It should ideally be on eyelevel between both partners, who, like adults, together share responsibilities and roles.