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Is it a good idea to sent this Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me?

Is it a good idea to send this Christmas Card to the person(s) who fired me?

  • Yes, explain your answer

    Votes: 4 18.2%

  • No, explain your answer

    Votes: 18 81.8%
  • Total voters
    22
Even if you sent it, it won't even get read. I've gotten mail at work from people I've fired before. Goes right in the trash.



No offense, but everyone's got a job to do, and firing people is part of some peoples jobs. Fun? No. But we all gotta eat. Remorse is bad enough when you have to look a person in the eye and tell them they are now unemployed...reminders aren't really needed.


If I may...this is two years old...what were the circumstances around your term?
 
After your "departure" were you a known security threat to the company and it's employees?
Did they have to take legal action to keep you at bay? Restraining orders and the like?
Were you forcefully removed from the premises?
Were police ever involved due to your behavior and actions towards the company and it's employees?

Do they fear you to this day?
 
KevinKohler said:
Even if you sent it, it won't even get read. I've gotten mail at work from people I've fired before. Goes right in the trash.

No offense, but everyone's got a job to do, and firing people is part of some peoples jobs. Fun? No. But we all gotta eat. Remorse is bad enough when you have to look a person in the eye and tell them they are now unemployed...reminders aren't really needed.

If I may...this is two years old...what were the circumstances around your term?
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I'll answer your question in more depth later. I have been working 17 years. I have only been written up four times. All four times were within a 45 day period and with the same employer. :shrug: I have been working at the same place for 29 months since I left that job. I still haven't been written up or even threatened with it. :shrug:

These people were trigger happy. :gunsmilie I was too trusting in my abilities. I never even attempted to defend myself. If I would have known they loved to fire people I could have survived several more years. I supposed I was over confident and too trusting. My life was very good in all aspects up until that point. I have lead a very sheltered life. My childhood was amazing. Every employer I ever worked for treated me like a king. Ever organization I was a part of treated me like a hero. This was my first bout of real life. It was severely traumatic. The emotional trauma that it caused me exceeded the tragedy of death or break-ups that I had been through in the past.

I'll elaborate more later.
 
Dragonfly said:
After your "departure" were you a known security threat to the company and it's employees?
Did they have to take legal action to keep you at bay? Restraining orders and the like?
Were you forcefully removed from the premises?
Were police ever involved due to your behavior and actions towards the company and it's employees?

Do they fear you to this day?
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:shrug: It's possible. They never talk to me and will kill any employee who tries to talk to me. :shoot That's how they roll. All of the above could be true or it could be the furthest thing from the truth. I wasn't forcefully removed from the premises. I never had dealings with the police. I did get an empty letter from their lawyer telling me to stop trying to contact their employees. It wasn't really threatening but it was written on a lawyer's letterhead. That's threatening enough in itself. I would answer no to all of your questions but how can I ever be sure? :shrug:
 
The man doing the firing probably does NOT HATE you.....and even if he does....
He is doing his job.
We send out Christmas cards as an act of love.
That is the way it is supposed to be.
One never knows, that same man may go to another place and he could hire you.
Do not burn bridges
Stay on good terms..
To add...
Having read the latest letter, I'd say that you, sir, need help.....
This from a man who has been thru the mill of lay-offs, firings, and resignations...25 times or so...
 
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vasuderatorrent said:
I'll answer your question in more depth later. I have been working 17 years. I have only been written up four times. All four times were within a 45 day period and with the same employer. :shrug: I have been working at the same place for 29 months since I left that job. I still haven't been written up or even threatened with it. :shrug:

These people were trigger happy. :gunsmilie I was too trusting in my abilities. I never even attempted to defend myself. If I would have known they loved to fire people I could have survived several more years. I supposed I was over confident and too trusting. My life was very good in all aspects up until that point. I have lead a very sheltered life. My childhood was amazing. Every employer I ever worked for treated me like a king. Ever organization I was a part of treated me like a hero. This was my first bout of real life. It was severely traumatic. The emotional trauma that it caused me exceeded the tragedy of death or break-ups that I had been through in the past.

I'll elaborate more later.
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I had a similar experience. Every employer I've ever had has loved me, hated the day I left...save one, who "fired" me, though, I consider telling my boss to go **** himself till he bleeds as being my formal resignation. There are bad employers out there, especially in the sales and marketing sectors. Dust off, and plow on. Who gives a **** if they think you stink? All that matters is that your current employer values you, and that YOU know your worth.
 
They be like, "Who? Who cares?"

But if it makes you feel better, go for it. **** 'em.
 
vasuderatorrent said:
:confused: I was fired.
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I've read every quote on the thread. You've received great advice and genuine interest and caring. I wouldn't send the letter/Xmas card or whatever. It's behind you and you should leave it there. If you just want to make those old employers feel uncomfortable, that's another story. I don't get that impression. Your successful introspection is its' own reward.
 
No. When in doubt, don't be a drama queen.
 
It's better to have friends than enemies.
 
Imo, no, it's not a good idea. It appears that you are trying to stay embroiled in a petty fight, and trying to manipulate the way others view you. Let bygones be bygones.
 
Dude, you really need to find a way to get over your firing. You've started several threads about something that's happened over a year ago.
 
I want to say no, because they don't deserve it.

But, if you send it, they will feel guilty for firing you. And Christmas is the spirit of giving (even though it's supposed to also be all-year round, also - just that it's a time for it's own special way too).
 
Do not send that card or attempt to contact them. They might conclude that your behavior is atypical and they might have their lawyer respond to you with a threat of a restraining order.

I think you are trying to resolve a possibly subconscious feeling you have of "Unfinished Business" with that company or individuals.

With all respect, it sounds like you've developed some obsession over this issue and need professional help sorting out your emotions. Get that help now so that you can get over this and move on without that incident as part of your daily consciousness.

Beyond the professional help, the absolute best thing you could do for your feelings is to be successful and surpass them in every way. They don't deserve your good wishes and you deserve to be happy. Take affirmative steps to make that happen. You deserve just as much goodness and happiness in your life as anyone else. Don't let their BS be your defining moment, it is not.
 
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Ray410 said:
Do not send that card or attempt to contact them. They might conclude that your behavior is atypical and they might have their lawyer respond to you with a threat of a restraining order.

I think you are trying to resolve a possibly subconscious feeling you have of "Unfinished Business" with that company or individuals.

With all respect, it sounds like you've developed some obsession over this issue and need professional help sorting out your emotions. Get that help now so that you can get over this and move on without that incident as part of your daily consciousness.

Beyond the professional help, the absolute best thing you could do for your feelings is to be successful and surpass them in every way. They don't deserve your good wishes and you deserve to be happy. Take affirmative steps to make that happen. You deserve just as much goodness and happiness in your life as anyone else. Don't let their BS be your defining moment, it is not.
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Very nice sir. I do admit, "You need professional help." sounds like an empty comment for someone that is being uncreative. In your case I was able to overlook that comment. The rest of what you said was very appropriate, helpful and inspiring. This is a very good post and I really appreciate it. I won't be sending this letter. Some of the post that I have been reading have made a lot of sense. Even the critical ones were very good. Thanks again Ray410. Why do I need professional help when I can glean the help from amateurs on DP? :lol: It's much cheaper and much more abundant. The anonymity factor insure that I am getting honest advice too. Some things have been said that I therapist wouldn't have the guts to say. :lol: Thanks everybody. You have help me not only make a decision but to feel confident about my decision. :good_job:

Note to all concerned: I will not be seeking professional help. It's just not my thing.
 
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vasuderatorrent said:
At first I was hired on through a temp agency. I worked there for 4 months as a temp. I knew the company sucked gigantic emerald-colored equestrian male genitalia but I was willing to deal with it if I was offered $13 an hour. I knew what I was worth and I knew what the job was worth.

My manager treated me like God all of the time. The HR Manager and my manager offered me the job at $10.25 an hour. I told them that I wanted to stay on as a temp and wasn't interested in coming on permanently. The HR manager said, "We'll, every once in a while the District Manager gets rid of all the temps." I politely told them that I had to think about it. This was on Friday. I thought they were joking. These bastards were serious. They tracked me down and made the same offer on Tuesday. My gut said, "Smile, lay down your time card, leave the building, say thank you and then leave very quickly." That's not what I did.

I accepted the job and my manager acted like she just one the lottery. I felt like I just got smacked hard across the face.

That regret just built. They started firing people like crazy all around me. The workload just got bigger and bigger. My resentment just got bigger and bigger. It was a disaster waiting to happen. And the worse thing? I knew it was a filthy, disgusting and horrible company to work for a long time beforehand.

I'll never work for a disgusting company like that ever again. I'll see to it that my wife, children and me all die of starvation before I'll ever take a job that sucks.

So relax. You won't have to fire me. I'll never allow myself to be abused. I currently have a job that pays $8.00 an hour. The amount of work I do is probably worth about $2.00 an hour. I'm not getting screwed. I've been there since July 2011 and it's working out perfect.

Nobody knows what I went through at that place except for people that have worked for that company. They would believe me and understand my situation but they don't dare talk to me. They don't won't their head taken off.

Try to be fair MaggieD. I'm not as bad as you are making me out to be.
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KevinKohler said:
Even if you sent it, it won't even get read. I've gotten mail at work from people I've fired before. Goes right in the trash.



No offense, but everyone's got a job to do, and firing people is part of some peoples jobs. Fun? No. But we all gotta eat. Remorse is bad enough when you have to look a person in the eye and tell them they are now unemployed...reminders aren't really needed.


If I may...this is two years old...what were the circumstances around your term?
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Hopefully this explains it.
 
vasuderatorrent said:
I am not a history buff. Can you fill me in on this reference?
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Ceasar crossed the Rubion in the civil war and burned the bridge behind him , so there was no retreat. He went on to bigger things. But the enemies he had made did him. Actually, the story is really quite a good one and it is well worth reading the Wikipedia article on Caesar (Cesar).
 
Dude, it was 2 and a half years ago. Time to move on. I guarantee they have. I doubt they remember who you are. Although it's possible, since they felt uncomfortable enough with you to get a lawyer to tell you to stop messing with their employees. That's another reason I wouldn't send it. They're already weirded out by you.

If I got a letter like that after 2 and a half years, my first thought would be that they are clearly NOT over it, and then I would wonder if perhaps I should increase my security for a little while.

Let this go. Seriously.
 
Sending this would be like sending a card to an ex. Not a good move.
 
No, it just makes you look bitter and a chump - plus wacko. The person you are sending it to doesn't care, while you are fixated on it.
 
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