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Valid explanation: We're experiencing a lull in the economy, jobs are going away, and I'm having trouble fulfilling expectations of employers.
Excuse: Rich people suck, they're the reason why I don't have a job!
So that explains how you view what they have to say for themselves. What about what others say on their behalf? In other words, if I think that a large part of my kids bad attitude today is because his Dad was a dick to him, chances are that while I still expect him to behave himself, I will probably address that behavior in a different way then if he just woke up in a ****ty little mood. So if someone is raised in poverty, got a ****ty education, their parents gave up a long time ago and raised them believing there was no hope, their community is riddled with violence etc... If that someone behaves in a way I deem anti-social or destructive to others, I will probably give that person a little more room and approach them differently. Because I would first have to convince them that not only is there opportunity for a better life but that they are capable of achieving it and until they believe that their lives stay the same. Those to me are examples of conditions and legit reasons why someone ends up failing themselves, some call those excuses. I am not naive enough to believe that everyone one who fails does so for these reasons but I do believe there are many lives that get lost in hopelessness for these very reasons that would not be if they were convinced about other options and their ability to achieve them.