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Should a Man have an Absolute Right to Choose to Abort His Baby?

Should a Man have an Absolute Right to abort his baby?

  • Yes, but only during the first 20 weeks, same as a woman.

    Votes: 3 3.4%
  • Yes, but only during the initial period when a non-invasive technique works.

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • No, but he should have the right to be legally relieved of all responsibility.

    Votes: 44 49.4%
  • NO! Only the woman has this right and he remains responsible.

    Votes: 18 20.2%
  • I oppose all abortion, so neither have the right.

    Votes: 19 21.3%
  • I Don't Know.

    Votes: 5 5.6%

  • Total voters
    89
Well, the reason I said 90 days is because I am pro-choice in the first trimester. After 3 1/2 to 4 months, the risks become greater and we're dealing with a lot more ethical dilemmas. I don't think a guy needs 3 months to know if he's going to want to be a dad. I'd be willing to bet that most guys would know if they want to be a dad before the end of SportsCenter. Barring that, 7 days is enough thinking. It's just the woman's responsibility to inform as early as possible.
I disagree with the underlined.
Some guys may need more than 90 days.
90 days is appropriate and fair.

It shouldn't mater when she tells him, only that he has a set amount of time to decide after being told.
 
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They do, but on this issue, since the woman has all the rights, I believe the primary responsibility lies on her shoulders. People want to have it both ways, and have their cake and eat it too. This is one of those issues where men can really get screwed, and have no say in the matter whatsoever.

I realize that being a woman, I'm "supposed" to look at this from a woman's point of view, but before I am a woman, I am a human, and I can see that men really are at a disadvantage on this issue. Since women neglect to protect themselves from unwanted pregnancies, I encourage men to take care of the birth control issue themselves, but that's because it is the intelligent thing to do.

It's just a philosophical discussion and I didn't expect you to take the side of women just because you are a woman. I feel that women have a responsibility but that they also carry a greater share of the burden.
 
I think guys have got to remember something. The child is an innocent consequence. The child doesn't deserve to suffer because a woman was careless or a man (or woman) lied. A mother is NEVER going to be able to give away her child's right to child support. Never-ever.
That is the current thinking that needs to change to keep pace with the right of choice. Which it hasn't.
A woman should not be able to obligate another by her choice to give birth. That is just wrong.
 
And I love you right back.

Women lie. Women are nesters. They often, even subconsciously, want children with the man they love. "I'm on birth control." Don't believe it. Don't believe she's taking her medication correctly. The way the laws are now (and they're not going to change the way some in the post would like to see them change any time soon), the burden is on the one who doesn't want children. Don't want kids? Use protection. Yeah, sometimes it fails. But not as often as whiney men and women would lead us to believe.

I think guys have got to remember something. The child is an innocent consequence. The child doesn't deserve to suffer because a woman was careless or a man (or woman) lied. A mother is NEVER going to be able to give away her child's right to child support. Never-ever.

I was speaking of a man's birth control... either a condom or a vasectomy.

And there is no child if she aborts...

... and many women give away their child's right to child support. I know quite a few woman that did not ask for nor receive support from the man.
 
I hope I was clear that what I was saying was that a man should never believe a woman who says she's on birth control if he doesn't want children. A child should NEVER suffer the consequences of irresponsible sex. Should never be raised in poverty by a single, unsupported mom. And especially not because the GUY wanted her to have an abortion.

That's just me. Maybe I'm old-fashioned. BUT the law's on my side. And, realistically, it's not changing any time soon. A woman CANNOT give up a child's legal right to support.

That's an impassioned argument, but one that prompts exactly the sort of foolish, desperately unthinking action that young man did in the thread about tricking a girl with a morning after pill. The woman is always in control, it's her body and her possible burden.

If you are pro-choice then a woman should realize that perhaps it's better not to have a child than to have it grow up resented and abused. If you are Pro-Life then perhaps you should be arguing more strongly for women learning to require birth control methods and not accept any excuses otherwise.

P.S. I just saw the response you gave Bodhisattva. Forgive me for only focusing on the second part of your response. I agree, men should be more careful. But it may sound like a cop-out but it is true nonetheless...when it comes to sex (especially in the minds of young, hypersexual males) the ONLY thing doing the thinking in a sexual situation is the head that has no brains. :)
 
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I don't think a man should get to make the choice, but I do think that if he wants the baby aborted, and does not plan to be involved in its life, that he should have no legal obligation to the mother if she decides to have it. Afaic, she has the choice, she should be legally responsible.

A man has no right to decide what happens in a woman's body..
 
That's an impassioned argument, but one that prompts exactly the sort of foolish, desperately unthinking action that young man did in the thread about tricking a girl with a morning after pill.

If you are pro-choice then a woman should realize that perhaps it's better not to have a child than to have it grow up resented and abused. If you are Pro-Life then perhaps you should be arguing more strongly for women learning to require birth control methods and not accept any excuses otherwise.

I never though about a man being able to opt out until in around 1998 when I had a female friend who prowled the bars looking for the right guy to get pregnant with. She lied to him and had no intention of ever staying with him. Once she found out she was pregnant she dumped him and hit him up for child support. It was disgusting. Some say that they guy is stuck. That is bull****.

What I don't get (Well, I do) is the double standard. Women fought for and won equality in many areas, and rightly so. Then Roe v Wade and abortion, and rightly so. But they then turn around and after they **** the guy they want to **** the guy all over again in Court. It is bull****.
 
There is a natural order. In this natural order, it is the woman who decides whether or not to bear a child, because it is her body that produces the child, and then she offers that child to a man-- preferably her husband-- for his approval. And then, it is the man who decides whether or not he will keep the child, because it is his family name that the child will bear. And as an expression of this natural order, either the man or the woman may choose not to keep the child and leave it to its own devices, because it is the duty and the prerogative of a family to choose the members of its family.
 
There is a natural order. In this natural order, it is the woman who decides whether or not to bear a child, because it is her body that produces the child, and then she offers that child to a man-- preferably her husband-- for his approval. And then, it is the man who decides whether or not he will keep the child, because it is his family name that the child will bear. And as an expression of this natural order, either the man or the woman may choose not to keep the child and leave it to its own devices, because it is the duty and the prerogative of a family to choose the members of its family.

As dispassionate as ever! :lol:
 
So you're saying that if he wants to pull out, she has the right to trump him? It's in her body, after all.

Birth control is readily available..here in Britain it is free..doesn't stop us from having the highest teenage birthrate in Europe..

We have forgotten one person..

Mother Nature..
 
Birth control is readily available..here in Britain it is free..doesn't stop us from having the highest teenage birthrate in Europe..

We have forgotten one person..

Mother Nature..

That's because a pill is no replacement for a brain when it comes to birth control. It's also why Planned Parenthood is a joke of an organization.
 
It has to be a set amount of time to make the decision from the time he is informed of the pregnancy.
Otherwise you would just have women who wouldn't inform the guy until after the time limit had passed.

Exactly. If she doesn't inform him by a certain time, he is automatically absolved of responsibility unless he takes steps to retain responsibility.
 
Birth control is readily available..here in Britain it is free..doesn't stop us from having the highest teenage birthrate in Europe..

We have forgotten one person..

Mother Nature..

Availability and proper usage are two different things. Just because you can get it doesn't mean that you'll use it.
 
Availability and proper usage are two different things. Just because you can get it doesn't mean that you'll use it.

So why do you think that would be?
 
Abortion doesn't leave an innocent kid being deprived of resources they need to live. Failure to pay child support does. Its pathetically selfish to sacrifice children for some bull**** financial "fairness" between adults. Sometimes men become fathers unwillingly through no fault of their own, but that doesn't justify screwing over a child even worse.
 
That's because a pill is no replacement for a brain when it comes to birth control. It's also why Planned Parenthood is a joke of an organization.

Don't you think that at a certain age..a female desires a child??
 
That the father should be afforded the option of disavowing himself of any and all responsibility on a whim, while the mother is left with the emotional aftermath of deciding between abortion or a lifetime of single parenthood, is utterly reprehensible, in my view. Or was it immaculate conception? No? Well gee, I guess she put herself in a family way all by herself, eh?

I'd accept such a position, had the father used birth control himself and it had failed. Having taken precautions, I'd acknowledge sincerity and attempt at prevention. But I certainly won't countenance the argument that he can **** around, knock women up and walk away as it suits. In no other area of adult life is this attitude deemed to be acceptable. Grow the **** up and accept that unprotected sex can lead to pregnancy. Failing that, become a monk. But don't weep softly if actions have consequences. You're supposed to be a man.
 
That the father should be afforded the option of disavowing himself of any and all responsibility on a whim, while the mother is left with the emotional aftermath of deciding between abortion or a lifetime of single parenthood, is utterly reprehensible, in my view. Or was it immaculate conception? No? Well gee, I guess she put herself in a family way all by herself, eh?

I'd accept such a position, had the father used birth control himself and it had failed. Having taken precautions, I'd acknowledge sincerity and attempt at prevention. But I certainly won't countenance the argument that he can **** around, knock women up and walk away as it suits. In no other area of adult life is this attitude deemed to be acceptable. Grow the **** up and accept that unprotected sex can lead to pregnancy. Failing that, become a monk. But don't weep softly if actions have consequences. You're supposed to be a man.
Unfortunately ''men'' these days do not want to accept responsibilities for their quick screw whilst pissed..

Obviously..they must be horrified..
 
Captain Adverse (and all) since we are on the subject of lies how do you guys feel about the woman who is selling positive pregnancy tests on craigslist? I had the link but the story behind it is you pay $25 for the test, she urinates, the test becomed positive and you pick it up.
 
Captain Adverse (and all) since we are on the subject of lies how do you guys feel about the woman who is selling positive pregnancy tests on craigslist? I had the link but the story behind it is you pay $25 for the test, she urinates, the test becomed positive and you pick it up.

Very ingenious..what happens when there's no baby??

I'm sure the authorities are wise to this by now...come on!!
 
Unfortunately ''men'' these days do not want to accept responsibilities for their quick screw whilst pissed..

Obviously..they must be horrified..
Most men accept responsibility in such circumstances.
 
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