What a smart *** you really are. Aways in character......
“I'm a proud working parent, and I think working parents set a positive example for their kids.”
Well of course you do you work. I think many parents who work and CANTboth stay at home do the best they can. Sometimes they have no choice.......BUT then sometimes they can and they dont because being around the kids all day long and doing what they think are meaningless jobs they would rather pay someone else to do it. That is the glamorous thing to do.
Its all about choice and like Talloulou said what you feel are the top priorities in your life. I am really addressing those parents who can make a choice who make enough so that one can stay at home. I am not talking about those that have no alternative they both have to work.
I also know there are wonderful day care centers that offer kids a lot. I also had a friend who ran a day care center from her home. She even admitted that she felt bad for the kids whose parents just dumped them off to not only work but shop, go to the gym etc....the kids get there when its dark outside and get picked up when its dark outside.
I have friends who are both doctors and they are never home. They rake in the big bucks, but they are never home, and I mean never. They live in a huge 6,000 sq ft home, drive fancy cars and are NEVER HOME. Their son was on my sons hockey team. Did they ever come see him play? Not very often. Why do people like this have children?
Whats their top priority? IMO it certainly is not the kids.
“What sort of example are you setting, really, if you're showing your kids that adults don't really have to work if they don't want to?”
Did you read anything I wrote? Of course not, your always in that pit bull attack mode. I did not have to work if I didn’t want to. My husband made enough that I was not forced to work. However I still had a promising career that I could have persued at the time.
You imply that kids who have one parent at home don’t set good examples that they are not good role models, am I right? But of course I dissagree I think they can be good role models. The parent at home is essentially saying look, I could work but I choose not to because I think being at home, nurturing and teaching kids are more important. I’m giving up more money, more time spent away from home…….to devote to kids.
My husband worked extra hard and worked longer hours to afford me the opportunity to stay at home. They saw how hard he worked to provide us with everything. They saw what we valued first.
I did not mean to imply that all kids do poorly at day care centers, they don’t. But I do not care what you say, if one parent can afford to stay at home IMO its better for the children. And for some parents who have careers that require them to be away for the majority of the time and who both are at work more than they are at home should postpone having children until they can devote time to the little ones that they created.
If anyone is judging its you. To say that unless you’re an invalid, you should work.
“Being a parent is no reason not to work; in fact, it's a reason to work even harder.”
My husband did work very hard and I did too to provide a home for everyone.
You trivialize that.
And ya know its hard work to stay at home on a daily basis. You make it seem like its spa time. You make it seem that the one at home is stuck there in some prison. You bet its hard. We dont eat out for lunch everyday, we make lunch every day.
Oh those spaghetti o's and meatballs. :rofl
“People need external structure to their lives in order to be happy and productive. Work provides that like nothing else I know of.”
I had external structure 1069. I taught Sunday School and was the children’s choir director at our church.
I volunteered at school working with kids who needed extra help. I headed a group that raised funds for underprivileged kids who needed dentistry and who had special medical needs and I did part time interior design work from my home.
MY KIDS MADE ME HAPPY........LIKE NO JOB COULD EVER HAVE DONE.
“I would not wish the life of a stay-at-home parent on anyone, although if some stay-at-home parents are happy with their situations, then I'm happy for them.”
That’s really sad but I am not at all surprised that you of all people would feel that way.