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Do your responses change based on the sex/gender of the poster?

Do you respond differently to posters based on their sex/gender?

  • Yes. Based on their sex and/or gender.

    Votes: 9 17.0%

  • No. It doesn't matter either way.

    Votes: 31 58.5%

  • It depends on the topic we're discussing.

    Votes: 13 24.5%
  • Total voters
    53
Monserrat said:
Do you respond differently if you know whether the person you're responding to is a guy or a girl?
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Absolutely, yes. Obviously the devil's in the details, but a person's gender will influence the tone of my interactions with them. With known female posters I'm generally more polite and sometimes flirtatious. That doesn't mean that I'm going to give a woman a free pass to say something stupid or awful, but it does mean that they'll probably get more leeway.

Monserrat said:
For an extended discussion list the reasons why?
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I think most people interact differently with members of the opposite sex than they do with members of their own (consciously or otherwise). We're also pretty generally much harder on our own gender (at least men are - with women it seems to be more complicated, as per usual).
 
I'm thankful that there are a few other women on DP! Why do politics seem to involve men more? Women vote, too. Are we more secretive about what we think? :shock:

"A woman should be obscene, and not heard." ??? Groucho Marx
 
polgara said:
I'm thankful that there are a few other women on DP! Why do politics seem to involve men more? Women vote, too. Are we more secretive about what we think? :shock:

"A woman should be obscene, and not heard." ??? Groucho Marx
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In know this is a generalization by I think fewer women care as much about politics than men. As much as the current PC culture would like us to think there are no differences between men and women, I do not agree. One such difference (in general) is the level of interest in politics/current events/issues. This is why more men watch news channels and more women watch the Lifetime Network and Dancing With the Stars. Its based on their own interests and lack of interests.
 
Smeagol said:
I don't agree. I think she's concerned about being treated any differently.

I also think females are better than males in specific respects but not more intelligent necessarily or more qualified to lead, etc.
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That's really irrelevant from my perspective and where I come from here - I don't debate people, I debate ideas - I agree with or challenge ideas, not the people promoting them. Do they come from different perspectives, based on gender? Sometimes - particularly on the abortion threads, as an example. But that doesn't matter to me - it's not why I'm here.
 
For years I didn't post my gender symbol and it was automatically assumed that I was male. Then when I did put the gender symbol I noticed a considerable difference in the way I was talked to....or should I say down to?
 
Depends on whether or not I like them. I will hold my antagonistic tongue when MaggieD for example says something I disagree with, and try to be tactful.

Other females I don't respect, like Moot, get the full wrath.
 
SmokeAndMirrors said:
is a wide swath of land between disagreement and despicable.
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Not where I come from.

SmokeAndMirrors said:
I also always find it really hilarious when people sputter supernatural condemnation at atheists. Is that supposed to frighten me? I'm more curious about your genuine desire to see people suffer, actually.
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Not intended to frighten, simply inform. That way you can't claim ignorance when you stand before your Maker.
 
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I think the character that is displayed after the gender is revealed relates to how I respond. There are some here I want to be nice to and there are others I have little or no respect for now.
 
I voted no. Sometimes for the heck of it I make a smart-assed comment, but I do that regardless of the sex of the poster.
 
Most of the time, I surf using my phone. Part of the reason that I rarely post. While surfing, I expand the thread to read it better and the poster is off the screen. I very rarely ever know to whom I am responding.
 
Here? No. In real life, yes, I change the responses per social custom.
 
Tigger said:
Not where I come from.

Not intended to frighten, simply inform. That way you can't claim ignorance when you stand before your Maker.
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In the unlikely event that of all the billions of possible gods, yours winds up being the one that isn't completely false, the first thing I shall ask them is why they sent such poor ambassadors, and why I should worship such a god. And then I shall volunteer to go where ever is the opposite of where such ambassadors as you go.
 
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SmokeAndMirrors said:
In the unlikely event that of all the billions of possible gods, yours winds up being the one that isn't completely false, the first thing I shall ask them is why they sent such poor ambassadors, and why I should worship such a god. And then I shall volunteer to go where ever is the opposite of where such ambassadors as you go.
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I'm not here as an ambassador or as a prophet. The Spirituality I believe in does not promote such things.
 
Monserrat said:
Gender isn't about genitals though, just societal norms on how those viewed as male and female are supposed to act. You wouldn't change a response to some general issue based on whether one was male or female?
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Its way more than genitals. At the same time I think people are self-deceived when they think other characteristics of masculinity and/or femininity are culturally imposed. The effects of testosterone on male behavior, personality traits and attitudes for example, has little to do with what societal expectations "impose" on men. I believe the nurturing tendency of female personalty in as innate in human beings as it is in eagles. Likewise, I believe male leadership of the family unit is as instinctive in humans as in a pride of lions in the wild, barring some familial dysfunction that although relatively common is still a dysfunction and likely also leads to systemic problems in society in general.
 
If the questions were "Do you have a penis?" or "When was the last time you menstruated?" , then yes, I do imagine the answers would vary between genders.
 
Monserrat said:
Do you respond differently if you know whether the person you're responding to is a guy or a girl?

For an extended discussion list the reasons why?
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Nope.Its not something I pay attention to.
 
I never do. I'm the ultimate bastion of equality.

I treat a woman the way I'd treat a man - for weal or woe.

I also tend to disrespect people who don't give a gender, because I find them to be so disingenuous. If I think you're a female that doesn't admit to being female because you think "your opinion will carry less merit"...you're probably right, although for not the reason you think.
 
Yes and no. I'll usually be more polite to women when I first "meet" them. But, as Frank Zappa once said, "Women, you can act like an a-hole, too. Don't act like you ain't got one on the bottom of you.", I will cease to do so if they are adamant on being a-holes.

There have been a few that I thought were male, and didn't find out otherwise until many months later.
 
Smeagol said:
Its way more than genitals. At the same time I think people are self-deceived when they think other characteristics of masculinity and/or femininity are culturally imposed. The effects of testosterone on male behavior, personality traits and attitudes for example, has little to do with what societal expectations "impose" on men. I believe the nurturing tendency of female personalty in as innate in human beings as it is in eagles. Likewise, I believe male leadership of the family unit is as instinctive in humans as in a pride of lions in the wild, barring some familial dysfunction that although relatively common is still a dysfunction and likely also leads to systemic problems in society in general.
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I think it's more than just a cultural issue too but culture certainly plays its part.
 
CanadaJohn said:
While I do notice some posters are female, based on their user ID or their avatar, it's never an issue for me in responding to someone's post or engaging in discussion/debate. I don't come to DP looking for dates, so your gender doesn't attact or distract me in any way. I simply react to the content of an OP or post, nothing more.

I'm surprised a female, who prides herself in being female and considers herself better than men, would initiate such a thread - makes you appear needy for victims or victimhood.
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I don't know what you mean by the victim or victimhood bit so I can't tell you if that's true or not. I asked the question because it's a concern that I've always had in forums over how much the actual sex/gender influences responses and I'm a bit curious about avatars too and how they influence responses since humans are very visual creatures and very dependent upon that sense but that's a separate topic.

And I don't consider myself better then men specifically, I'm just very confident and think I'm more awesome then most people more often then not. Pride and vanity are my two of the seven and I wear them well :cool:
 
My observation is that "women" do get treated much differently online, usually more nicely, but often in a patronizing way. The funny thing is that many 'women' online are probably men pretending. Some are pretty suspicious.
 
Monserrat said:
This is something I've been wondering about for a long time and I want honest answers from you DP'ers so don't lie to me.
When I first joined DP I didn't make my sex/gender clear immediately because I didn't want to be judged based on whether I was a male or female. It didn't last long because as I've mentioned in the past I'm a little bit sexist, I love being female (sex/gender) and I think it would suck to be a guy so not declaring that I'm female was too much for me.

The poll question I have for you is:

Do you respond differently if you know whether the person you're responding to is a guy or a girl?

For an extended discussion list the reasons why?
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Yup. I am less likely to verbally abuse a female poster. So, for example, if a male poster were to engage in a ridiculous strawman, I might ask if they suffered from reading comprehension issues. If a female were to do so, I might ask if she had read what I wrote.
 
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