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I'll start with saying that while I don't think it is the majority of the cases, that it can be a choice for some people. I wouldn't call it the same as bisexuality, and with the one or two that I know who are claiming choice, I can't put my finger on what it is that makes it different, but I can tell that it is. Not very scientific I know but take it for what it's worth.
Desire and attraction are independent of the mechanics that allow orgasm. A male can be raped with no desire for the rapist (male or female) and achieve an orgasm, just like a female can. It's part of what causes the trauma and self recrimination. The idea that only desire will allow an orgasm therefore they must have desired to be raped.
Why does a given result have to have only one cause? Whether I go out in the rain or I stand under a sprinkler, I'm getting wet either way. Same result, different causes.
I hear what you are saying. What are the ... the... mechanisms, if you will, that allow a gay man to have sex and achieve orgasm with a woman before coming out? In other words, how does he get to orgasm without being attracted to the woman? Is it simply a matter of enjoying the friction? That would require him to ignore the thoughts that say "yuck, a woman!" and focus more intently on the physical feedback. This requires that a choice be made. He chooses to suppress his ... distaste, disgust, whatever term.. and focus on the friction, perhaps to ficus on the mental picture of a man. That takes mental power. It starts with a choice.
Desire and attraction are independent of the mechanics that allow orgasm. A male can be raped with no desire for the rapist (male or female) and achieve an orgasm, just like a female can. It's part of what causes the trauma and self recrimination. The idea that only desire will allow an orgasm therefore they must have desired to be raped.
I agree. Wait, no I don't. I don't agree. -necessarily. If some people can choose their orientation and some people can not, what is the difference that exists between the two? A gene?
Why does a given result have to have only one cause? Whether I go out in the rain or I stand under a sprinkler, I'm getting wet either way. Same result, different causes.