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Were these parents too harsh on their daughter?

Did this teen get punished too harshly?

  • No

    Votes: 36 49.3%
  • Yes

    Votes: 12 16.4%
  • I would have looked at other options

    Votes: 20 27.4%
  • Counseling would have been best

    Votes: 5 6.8%

  • Total voters
    73
  • Poll closed .

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Parents Force Girl to Hold Sign as Punishment for Being Disrespectful. Tough Love or Too Much?

Worried about their 13-year-old daughter's increasingly disrespectful behavior, Gentry and Renee Nickell of Crestview, Florida, decided to make her punishment humiliating and public. On Saturday, the teen (whose name has not been released) spent 90 minutes standing at a busy intersection with a hand-written sign describing her sins.

It read: "I’m a self-entitled teenager w/no respect for authority. I’m also super smart, yet I have 3 'D’s' because I DON’T CARE."

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No. To bad more parents aren't willing to start teaching these disrespectful generations.
 
Maybe if more parents were this concerned and proactive about their kids, our schools wouldn't be the way they are now.

The reason kids these days have no discipline or control is because all those Vietnam hippie asswipes grew up and adopted the "California Method" of parenting that consisted of "time-outs" and stating rules with all the force of a titmouse.
 
I would prefer that she stood on the same corner holding a sign saying, "My Mom & Dad Suck At Parenting."

If you have to resort to public shaming for your child you've lost control. The child at that point is the manifestation of your lack of parenting skills.
 
Parenting a child begins at Day One; in many aspects, its simply too late at Year Thirteen.
If we have a really good psychologist, and a lot of money, the damage and harm MAY be repaired.
What these so-called parents did was the wrong thing - the price we pay for "freedoms and liberties".
The child is rebelling , so obviously, and I blame her not !
And, the entire family should seek help.
 
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Parents Force Girl to Hold Sign as Punishment for Being Disrespectful. Tough Love or Too Much?

Worried about their 13-year-old daughter's increasingly disrespectful behavior, Gentry and Renee Nickell of Crestview, Florida, decided to make her punishment humiliating and public. On Saturday, the teen (whose name has not been released) spent 90 minutes standing at a busy intersection with a hand-written sign describing her sins.

It read: "I’m a self-entitled teenager w/no respect for authority. I’m also super smart, yet I have 3 'D’s' because I DON’T CARE."

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I think it's a sign of desperation. I don't like the idea of humiliating a child. It might depend on the child, of course, but if a parent has to resort to public humiliation? IMO, they failed a long time ago.
 
I think it's a sign of desperation. I don't like the idea of humiliating a child. It might depend on the child, of course, but if a parent has to resort to public humiliation? IMO, they failed a long time ago.

I may go there and check it out. I'm only 45 minutes away from Crestview.
 
I think it's a sign of desperation. I don't like the idea of humiliating a child. It might depend on the child, of course, but if a parent has to resort to public humiliation? IMO, they failed a long time ago.

That's what I was going to say. I don't see how public humiliation teaches what needs to be taught.
 
I would prefer that she stood on the same corner holding a sign saying, "My Mom & Dad Suck At Parenting."

If you have to resort to public shaming for your child you've lost control. The child at that point is the manifestation of your lack of parenting skills.

I disagree. Children "expressing themselves" had gone way to far in this country. Humility is one of the best traits a child can carry with them into adulthood. Without it they are nothing more than juveniles in adult bodies that need sponge off Mom and Dad until they are 35.
 
I disagree. Children "expressing themselves" had gone way to far in this country. Humility is one of the best traits a child can carry with them into adulthood. Without it they are nothing more than juveniles in adult bodies that need sponge off Mom and Dad until they are 35.

Who do you think is to blame when a 35-year-old is sponging off mom and dad??

Humility and humiliation are two different things.
 
That's what I was going to say. I don't see how public humiliation teaches what needs to be taught.

Quite frankly, I'm open to any stray from today's norm that isn't illegal or dangerous.

I like hearing stories about my parents being teenagers and how responsible they were. If these kids today grew up back then, they'd have paddles literally broken over their asses.

In those days, a child getting in a parent's face and blatantly disrespecting them was news. Today it's an average Tuesday.
 
Parents Force Girl to Hold Sign as Punishment for Being Disrespectful. Tough Love or Too Much?

Worried about their 13-year-old daughter's increasingly disrespectful behavior, Gentry and Renee Nickell of Crestview, Florida, decided to make her punishment humiliating and public. On Saturday, the teen (whose name has not been released) spent 90 minutes standing at a busy intersection with a hand-written sign describing her sins.

It read: "I’m a self-entitled teenager w/no respect for authority. I’m also super smart, yet I have 3 'D’s' because I DON’T CARE."

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I've never been one who considers public humiliation a good teaching tool. The parents weren't too harsh, just not terribly smart or inventive.
 
Who do you think is to blame when a 35-year-old is sponging off mom and dad??

Humility and humiliation are two different things.

Humility comes from humiliation and how to cope with disappointment. Many school shootings are the result of kids that have never been taught to cope.
 
I don't think it was too far at all. Depending on what she did, I probably would have grounded her ass, cut her off from the world when not in school, and removed her ability to use the internet, phone, tv, and even radio. But for some, that's going too far as well. If she did something extreme like call her mom a bitch, or something, she'd get a ****ing slap across wherever the belt landed.
 
I've never been one who considers public humiliation a good teaching tool. The parents weren't too harsh, just not terribly smart or inventive.

My son totaled his truck when he was 16. No one was hurt thank God but he didn't think he should be punished. I put his little ass on the bus for 6 months and he not only never had another wreck but he never got a ticket or into much trouble. It was the best punishment I ever gave him.
 
Humility comes from humiliation and how to cope with disappointment. Many school shootings are the result of kids that have never been taught to cope.

Humility doesn't come from humiliation. It comes from a sense of appreciation...a sense that one is blessed to have what one has...being humble...modest. It doesn't come from wearing a banana suit on Madison Avenue. You're off base here.
 
Depending on how she shapes out in the new few months it could have been perfectly fine. Of course, this could go totally wrong.

I grew up with the kind of mom that, as a kid, would have spanked me in public if I got too out of line. So, I'm fine with it.
 
I do not believe that you can teach a child respect by showing her disrespect.
 
Humility doesn't come from humiliation. It comes from a sense of appreciation...a sense that one is blessed to have what one has...being humble...modest. It doesn't come from wearing a banana suit on Madison Avenue. You're off base here.

I don't think so. She humiliated her parents numerous times after being asked to stop through various forms of punishments and talks. I was one of those kids as well. I laughed at talks and standing in the corner. Humility comes from handling disappointment. Kids NEVER told a teacher to **** off or kiss their ass when I was in school, now teachers call that routine. Kids today think they are untouchable and can't be held accountable for anything and that is sad in itself.
 
My son totaled his truck when he was 16. No one was hurt thank God but he didn't think he should be punished. I put his little ass on the bus for 6 months and he not only never had another wreck but he never got a ticket or into much trouble. It was the best punishment I ever gave him.

Perfect - no one but your son and perhaps his friends knew he was being punished in this manner and he wasn't subjected to ridicule. Teaching children that choices have real life consequences is one of the most valuable lessons a parent can teach a child.
 
I don't think it was too far at all. Depending on what she did, I probably would have grounded her ass, cut her off from the world when not in school, and removed her ability to use the internet, phone, tv, and even radio. But for some, that's going too far as well. If she did something extreme like call her mom a bitch, or something, she'd get a ****ing slap across wherever the belt landed.

Thing is, a kid doesn't just start getting bad grades. If her parents were on top of it from the get-go, they'd notice she wasn't doing homework, studying, etc., etc.

Positive reinforcement works better than a belt. ;)

An aside. My brother-in-law had a bloodhound that they insisted be put into the basement whenever they went out. This was always a wrestling match, with hubby or wifey practically falling down the stairs trying to get him in the basement. Yelling! Screaming! Swatting! OMFG!

One day I'd had enough. I got a Milk Bone, took six steps down, offered it up, and down he came. They rewarded him in the future and never had another problem. In fact? He couldn't WAIT to get down those stairs. ;)

Works with kids, too.
 
Perfect - no one but your son and perhaps his friends knew he was being punished in this manner and he wasn't subjected to ridicule. Teaching children that choices have real life consequences is one of the most valuable lessons a parent can teach a child.

yeah he was ridiculed a little, but it was good for him. What he did was almost funny but as a parent you can never smile at a time like that. He was pulling into a parking space at a local resturant with a girl right next to him, he accidently hit the accelerator instead of the break and plowed right through to front of the store. I think someone touched him at the wrong moment!
 
I do not believe that you can teach a child respect by showing her disrespect.

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I don't think so. She humiliated her parents numerous times after being asked to stop through various forms of punishments and talks. I was one of those kids as well. I laughed at talks and standing in the corner. Humility comes from handling disappointment. Kids NEVER told a teacher to **** off or kiss their ass when I was in school, now teachers call that routine. Kids today think they are untouchable and can't be held accountable for anything and that is sad in itself.

I will agree that humility comes from learning how to handle disappointment. Not from wearing clownsuits. As for the way students treat teachers today, blame the school system for not throwing their butts out when they hit 16. And providing no other meaningful consequences for their disrespect.
 
Parents Force Girl to Hold Sign as Punishment for Being Disrespectful. Tough Love or Too Much?

Worried about their 13-year-old daughter's increasingly disrespectful behavior, Gentry and Renee Nickell of Crestview, Florida, decided to make her punishment humiliating and public. On Saturday, the teen (whose name has not been released) spent 90 minutes standing at a busy intersection with a hand-written sign describing her sins.

It read: "I’m a self-entitled teenager w/no respect for authority. I’m also super smart, yet I have 3 'D’s' because I DON’T CARE."

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I actually rather like the idea. The fear of public humiliation can be a strong motivator to correct one's behavior.

It sure as Hell beats a whipping.
 
i don't really support parents publicly shaming their kids. my parents didn't have to do that to me when i was being a little bastard. it would have done more harm than good anyway.
 
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