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It's all about what someone's comfortable with, Chris. If it works for you (not sure if you're talking about you), then it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. And, you're sure right. His name being on the birth certificate means that he's acknowledged paternity. And THAT brings its own list of responsibilities that fall on him. On you, too, of course; but you have the knowledge that he bears responsibility for your child(ren).
I'm kind of going by my own personal experience here. I lived with my first husband for two years before we got married. He always said, "It's only a piece of paper." It was more than that to me. He always said, "Don't ever give me an ultimatum." And I never did. I just told him I was leaving. Oops! Many happy years later as a married woman, I never regretted my decision -- or his.
Lol! I KNEW you were a girl who wouldn't take any tish!
I really don't have a desire to be married. I was probably one of the only little girls who DIDN'T have dreams of white picket fences and a bunch of kids. I wanted to be a professional and live in a penthouse apartment in NY City and be a single fun-loving girl when I was younger. Yeah right! :lamo