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None of us are suggesting we should pay for the results of unplanned pregnancies though.
But that is what is occurring right now.
None of us are suggesting we should pay for the results of unplanned pregnancies though.
Again, it's the entitlement ideology that needs to end. Supporting programs that give people free stuff, especially those who claim to need it, does nothing but enable that behavior.
By taking away all incentives not to.
It would be work or starve and I just don't see a problem with that.
Certainly there are some people who genuinely can't work and I don't have any problems with a government providing for those people. I also don't have any problems with a small, temporary safety net to get people back on their feet.
There is only conflicting proof of the statement.
The fact is that free or reduced cost birth control was already available to low income/poor women.
Giving all birth control users (Upper, Middle and Low income) free birth control, doesn't help poor women get free stuff, that they could already get.
If the goal is to cut abortion rates, wouldn't making abortions illegal be a vastly cheaper and more effective strategy?
But that is what is occurring right now.
By what - increasing the number of unwanted children being born to unfit or unloving parents - or put into an already overflowing adoption and foster care system? . . . that's what happened elsewhere - Romania. Decree 770 illegalized abortion except for within a few types of situations - and they went to extremes to ensure every child conceived was birthed.
It became a major crisis - TOO many children born to parents who just couldn't afford to raise them because the financial burden was too heavy for the government to cover as they promised they would do.
Romania repealed it's policy - legalized abortions . . . immediately after doing so they calculated nearly 1,000,000 abortions in 1989 (just after legalization) - but in 2009 that dropped to just over 100,000. So obviously other measures are proving ot be more effective at lowering the number without causing a serious crisis otherwise.
I say no. Being able to get these things at the expense of others not only enables bad behavior, but reinforces the entitlement ideology. Men and women should take responsibility for their decisions, not get a free ride to be irresponsible.
Because the premise of this thread isn't just about whether or not women should have access to contraceptives, it's about the entitlement ideology and lack of responsibility.
I never said birth control was a short term problem. I said it was a long term problem and giving away free contraceptives is a short term solution to that problem.
Every day girls becoming sexually active should recognize the risks and take responsibility for their actions by either buying their own contraceptives, or refraining from the activity until they can. If they decide to go ahead with it anyways, well they should have listened in health class. Should have listened to her parents. Should have listened to anyone with an opinion about teen pregnancy. I don't feel sorry for people who screw up against all advice to the contrary. And if I'm not mistaken, several high schools give away condoms for that very reason.
So long as it doesn't come out of my pocket, I don't care.
What about the children of those who cannot work because child care renders the effort moot? I've been there.
And we're saying we shouldn't be.
It's simply not working and there's little real wiggle room there.
Incentivizing bad behavior only brings about more bad behavior and that has been proven ad nauseam since the '60s.
Ok, you are saying it shouldn't be, but it is going on, and it will go on. So now you have to deal with that. How do you do that? But clicking your heels and saying "there is no place like home" and hoping to be transported to this magical place where all people do what you wish of them? Or by acknowledging that there is a problem and you need to deal with it?
Child care doesn't render the effort moot. People just don't want to work when someone is offering them a handout.
It's amazing how it all worked out before those handouts became available.
It can't go on much longer.
We've run ourselves too far into debt to throw away money on people like you who just don't want to work.
Enjoy the gravy train while it lasts because it's going to come to an end.
Again, we're all clearly stating that the government should not be supporting this.
You and Gina are advocating for what amounts to incentivizing very bad behavior and the outcome has been a steady stream of increasingly worse behavior since the '60s.
It's not even like this is really debatable this point.
The social problems that the '60s tried to correct are almost all worse today then they were then.
It can't go on much longer.
We've run ourselves too far into debt to throw away money on people like you who just don't want to work.
Enjoy the gravy train while it lasts because it's going to come to an end.
Social programs all around the world are starting to be reduced and it's going to continue to be reduced until they're at more manageable levels.
Yes. A married couple not being able to afford children *right now* while maybe he works and gets through med school or she's temporarily unemployed because her employer folded is very bad behavior.
You're saying such things as if only single slutty whores and hung jiggalos ever have unwanted or unplanned pregnancies. You know -a lot of people WANT to have children. Just *right now* is not the ideal time.
Now - unless you're only willing to have sex if you *are* actively trying to have a child you really shouldn't suggest that it's 'bad behavior' to not want a child *right now*
Right now - our economy sucks. Gas for me costs $3.59/gallon . . . milk is over $4.00/gallon. Bad would BE having children amid such a ****ty state where you simply cannot afford the medical costs and financial burden otherwise.
Pregnancy and child rearing does not happen in a financial-free bubble . . .and of course my post referred to ROMANIA as I tried to point out - the bad behavior was the government who banned abortion to raise the population count and who destroyed more families than they created by taking an already difficult situation and making it worse for everyone.
Nice attempt at a sidestep from my point, though - but regardless - having children costs more money than contraception - indeed it does. Nothing can scrub that fact out.
In that case - it's best not to have children you can't afford! Don't you agree?
I beg your pardon. When my first child was born, I took home $50 a week over my child care bill. Why? Because I was trying to grow my own business.
So I call BS.
I know lots of women who worked under similar circumstances.
You don't know what you are talking about.
You have know idea who I am or my story. Or those of millions of working women. Your condescension is
insulting.
That's not why you took home $50 a week.
You could have done away with day care costs entirely and reduced your overall cost of living considerably by moving in with some of the "lots" of single mothers you knew and working different shifts to ensure there was a parent home to watch the children at all times. It's not an ideal situation of course but people used to make necessary sacrifices before the government started guaranteeing them a handout.
Now the thought of going without any amenity is seen as absurd.
That's not why you took home $50 a week.
You could have done away with day care costs entirely and reduced your overall cost of living considerably by moving in with some of the "lots" of single mothers you knew and working different shifts to ensure there was a parent home to watch the children at all times. It's not an ideal situation of course but people used to make necessary sacrifices before the government started guaranteeing them a handout.
Now the thought of going without any amenity is seen as absurd.
Did you just tell her that's not *why* ??? Were you there? Heavens - are you her shrink or something? Are you in her head? And pray tell - tell me what's her favorite color.
You're being presumptuous and a bit annoying . . . it's easy to judge others, isn't it? When you'd never have to be in that situation.
And the government doesn't guarantee ****.
I do know. You just told me.
Your second paragraph lists things that people would normally use insurance to pay for and as I said, only the richest people in the country would be able to do so without insurance. What I'm saying is that those things require a healthcare professional to be properly addressed and cared for which costs a lot of money, hence the need for insurance. The use of a contraceptive (birth control prescriptions omitted) does not require some professional expertise, nor is it expensive. My complaint is why should I have to pay for it? Why should anyone else have to pay for it for the 12-15% who would be supposedly covered by this if it were amended to Obamacare? It's not my responsibility to bail someone out for their decision to have unprotected sex and doing so would reinforce that it's okay for them to do so. Entitlement and lack of responsibility are two ideologies we do not need spreading any further.
But you are only thwarting yourself. You don't like social welfare programs but you won't support a program that will reduce the biggest programs.