Because the man is obviously a feminist himself, or at least considers himself one. He is never going to realize that his ugly views about men are (supposedly) unacceptable for a feminist unless feminists, and women in general, tell him so. In droves. It's not going to matter to him coming from me, clearly.
And I harp on the feminists about it because I hold a strong suspicion that those types of views and that type of rhetoric regarding men are generally acceptable among many feminists, and I am hoping that some feminists will come along and prove me wrong. So far, none have. None have condemned it. Women have even liked his posts along the way. This is very disturbing to me. It strengthens the notion that feminists are not really anti-sexism, anti-discrimination, anti-gender stereotyping, and pro-equality as they claim... but rather pro-woman and anti-man.
All I want is some indication that that's not true.
If the complain party you were having is still about my remarks, here are a few things:
1. I am not a feminist
2. I do not consider myself a feminist
3. I have realistic views about how some men are dumb, beer swilling, violent people with a cavemen attitude towards women
4. not all men are that kind of insensitive Neanderthal men but as long as there is a view in society that what these men are doing is not so terrible they will not have to do a thing to change their attitude. There are still plenty of enablers who do not think that what these men are doing is that bad, and those enablers are both genders IMHO.
5. my first statement was to a point sarcasm, when I said "if anyone has to loose their right to vote it is men because.....". But that does not mean that I want men to loose their right to vote or think they should loose that right. My issue with the first statement as to why women should not be allowed to vote (generalizing all women by this woman's twisted view on women in general) is that "if" anyone at all has to loose their right to vote it should not be women but that men might be much more "on the block" by past behavior to loose this right (again, I do not think they should).
6. women do not have to prove anything. Sure there are women with warped views of men, I met a lady once who refused to cook meals for her sons because she was not their house slave. But during my 10 years plus working at a hard rock bar (not the famous one but a regular one) I have met many men with cavemen attitudes to women. A lot of these views were about the place of women in society but even more where about where women are in their relationships and what their rights and duties to them were.
7. women might have liked my post because they too had the same idea as I had, the somewhat sarcastic view that
"if" anyone has the right to loose the right to vote, why not men? And as said before, I do not want to loose their voting rights but if there has to be made a choice then why not men?
8. of course some women are anti-men. And some have the right to be that. There are hundreds and hundreds of battered women shelters in the US because some men do not think women are anything more than punching bags. And I know, that is just a small number of men and most men would never ever raise their hands to their spouse/loved one, it still happens on a daily basis. And more than that. Doctor Phil had a show with men and women who were having problems, a lot of these problems had to do with these men having a terrible attitude towards women's rights in their marriage and the equality between men and women.
and finally:
9. Yes women have to stand up, but not to validate your need of for reassurance
(just kidding) but they have to stand up for their rights.
