You said, "...you can't force ideal circumstances..."
No relationship is ideal, so we have to create an organic system which assimilates imperfections. This means we have to hold people responsible so they try wholeheartedly in deciding whether or not to commit.
So I'm telling you that you can't force something, and you conclude that I believe in forcing something? Your brain works in mysterious ways.
Hold them responsible for what? What place do you have in someone else's relationship?
I agree. People should see if they're on the same wavelength so they change together.
That isn't always possible. Sorry to burst your bubble, but not all conflicts are preventable or salvagable. That's reality. No matter how much you may want it, sometimes it just isn't going to work. That has always been the case. It's not as though unhappy couples and divorce is some sort of new-fangled 20th century invention.
Sure, but abortion can't be used to preempt undesirable personalities.
Furthermore, a child being undesirable doesn't mean a child doesn't deserve respect. Are you saying children even today born from unappreciative parents should have been aborted?
Adoption is possible, but guardians need to be committed in advance to make sure that's not a gamble either.
Personalities of whom, the parents? Sure it can. Aborting because the woman is for some reason emotionally incapable of raising a child is a perfectly good reason (not that she needs a reason, but just sayin').
You're right, the child still deserves respect. But abortion prevents a child from ever existing.
I would never say anyone should have been aborted at the ZEF stage. It is not my place to decide what was best for that woman at that point in time, just like it isn't anyone else's place to say that about my choices. And now that a person actually exists, it is not my place to tell them how they should feel about their own lives.
...and people shouldn't have intercourse before marriage.
What is so special about marriage? It doesn't prevent people from lying or cheating or abusing their partner, and it doesn't guarantee they'll be together forever. Hell, a coin toss has better odds.
Marriage is a dated social contract which has no actual objective meaning. For this reason, I have also chosen never to get married. What on earth is the point?
You don't get to decide when people are allowed to have sex. Whatever arbitrary social contracts you happen to care about are not necessarily meaningful or important just because you care about them. And there are plenty of people in long-term cohabitating relationships that are much happier than most married people. There are also plenty of avowed bachelor/ettes who are likewise. And every other combination of relationship status you can think of.
What we see reflected in reality rejects the idea that marriage is the one way to having a fulfilling intimate life.