if a churche is willing to preside over a ssm mariage then fine,like i said marriage is seen as a religious ceremony,and if said religion is fine with it so be it,but dont force it on anyone.
and on gays wanting ssm,there are obviously some that are adamant on it,ive just never met them.the military already aknowledges ssm in states that allow,but still refuse housing for them.this is mostly because ss couples cant reproduce through normal means or without adoption,so the military wont allow housing or bah for ssm couples in the military,reguardless of whether ssm is legal or not.
besides that the military is not the place where you want to adopt a kid or have one artificially unless the spouse is civilian,unless you want a kid that spends the majority of its life without seeing its parents.quite often where dual military parents see problems.also the military switches posts alot,so you may be in in a state where ssm is allowed,then pcs to a state where its illegal.so its easy to see why the military wont grant marriage benefits even if its a legal marriage in the state they got married.and to top it off none of this will change untill all 50 states have legalised ssm or given civil unions the same rights.most likely the latter will occur to prevent the religious masses from being offended.
remember just because one state is for it doesnt mean the next state over will tolerate it.ssm is something the country isnt ready for.the ending of dadt was ready to a certain extent,because most the military already worked with gays on a daily basis,and gays faced the same charges for indecency rape sexual assault and harrasment as between man and woman.but the general population in whole isnt ready to accept it,straight people know this and gay people know this.this is largely why most gays stay concentrated in certain cities,america will come around to accepting gays,but we arent there yet.all forcing it down peoples throats does is cause us to revert back to the homophobe mentality of the 60's,instead they should be eased in which they haee done nicely from the late 70's through the 90's and now they are being shoved down peoples throats.we actually progress faster when people dont have opinions on something different forced on them but rather give them time to cope with it in their own way.