Okay, Bod....
If a woman chooses to keep her pregnancy and have a child against the man's wishes and she chooses to not use her legal option of birth control and have an abortion, should the man have to pay child support for her choice.Should the man have to pay Child Support if he does not want the child and the woman decides to not opt to have an abortion as a means of contraception?
Then You go on and said...
This thread is about a woman's choice subjugating a man to the role of a wallet for 18 years due to the whim of a woman's choice to keep a child against his wishes.
This thread is not about a woman's right to choose.
I want you to see that I know what the fundamental issue is in your post.
Answer:
(A) The issue of using the appropriate birth control isn't just the responsibility of the woman "ever". Birth Control can and does fail on its own without any tampering. Many a babies are conceived because of birth control failure.
Even if the woman dupes a man by not taking birth control. Or even say she's damaged the condom on purpose. I seriously doubt she'd be jumping out of her pants to tell her guy she'd duped him into having a child. How's he to know?
My question becomes: Why did the guy choose not to wear a condom? And especially if its a playmate or girlfriend with no intent to marry, or one night stand that swears she's on birth control. You know as well as I do - that women DUPING men for a baby, although not uncommon, is still the exception - not the rule. Doubling up on birth control never hurts, but
men just take it for granted that if a woman is on the pill - all is safe and using rubbers suck.
(B)
If a man is Truly Pro-life - then abortion is out of the question for him anyway. Don't punish an unwanted child because he or she isn't wanted. Both are responsible for the child's support and welfare. And I'd really have to wonder why a Pro-life man is with a Pro-choice woman. Doesn't calculate for me.
You go on and say....
That being said, this thread is not about the law, but about what is right.
Bod...WHO DETERMINES THE DEFINITION OF WHAT "RIGHT" IS? The word RIGHT is the most fought over word in the entire world. The word RIGHT causes more violence and damage than any other word I can think of. The word RIGHT destroys more relationships (of all kind) than any other word I can think of.
The word RIGHT is incredibly abstract. If it weren't - then DP and all other forums would be out of business.
BOD...if you are truly PRO-LIFE - Then why wouldn't you want to be liable for a child - even if you didn't want it? What's the baby to do - check itself in at the local orphanage? Maybe it needs to call up Child Protective Services and say - "Nobody wants to be responsible for me so come pick me up."
Yep, you are going to hate it, but your stance brings me back to: "It doesn't matter what you want, how unfair you think it is, how much you think men are discriminated against - or even give you the privilege to ask "why do the man have to be liable"? In the end - LAWS determine what is RIGHT for everybody...not for just you or me. People have a real problem agreeing on what is RIGHT...or even it's meaning. Not everyone agrees with the law, but it doesn't matter what they agree with UNLESS they have the power to change them.
If the baby pops out of the womb...then are both responsible, period.
IF YOU WANNA PLAY...and it's discovered that you share DNA...then you PAY! Regardless of the circumstance!
OH, and when it comes to married couples - your fate is written in concrete. Like it or not, no matter what you think is RIGHT - there are many laws to deal with pregnancy issues and babies.