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As long as you're cheating anyway, which Hot Pockets are your favorite(s)?
bbq or ham and cheese
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As long as you're cheating anyway, which Hot Pockets are your favorite(s)?
i've never cheated on a girlfriend or spouse. my parents have had a monogamous marriage for 50+ years.
people believe cheating is "acceptable" because their tv's portray cheating as acceptable at such a high
rotation rate; that they actually believe in their washed-out, pea-brained minds that infidelity is the
natural "norm" of any marriage.
I say go YOU as well. My best wishes from this day forward.
In 39 years of marriage, I have never had the problem, so honestly I could not say what I would do. It seems to me however, that a person should try not to do anything brash and make the situation worse. I am sure there have been plenty of marriages and relationships that have survived an affair.
Can't speak for others - but I do get disgusted with women who 'stick with their man' sometimes (not all the time). I find that staying in a relationship after such things have happened - especially fi they're repeat issues or constant crap - that one just devalues theirself as an individual if they choose to stay with it.
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It would be a deal breaker for me. If my partner cared so little about how much a betrayal such as this would hurt me emotionally then I feel that they are not someone I would want to be with. Life is to short to settle for someone that is willing to hurt you for their own selfish desires.
yeah. the old "stay together for the kids" crap. that way, your kids will get the idea that cheating on their spouse is ok too; and
then the dysfuctional family cycle can be passed on for generations.
There are sexual affairs and there are emotional affairs, and while the two can coincide, I consider the latter to be the more dangerous to a marriage. It certainly undermined mine.
A woman cheating in a relationship is due to a failure on the man's part. That being said, it's a "dealbreaker" in the sense that the cheating itself is so disrespectful and distrustful to the point of the relationship being irreparable, no matter how long they try to drag it along and "make it work".
I've never had a girl cheat on me, but if I did I'd mark it up as a failure on my part, end the relationship and move on. I wouldn't be mad at the guy she cheated with either, unless it was one of my friends.
A woman cheating in a relationship is due to a failure on the man's part. That being said, it's a "dealbreaker" in the sense that the cheating itself is so disrespectful and distrustful to the point of the relationship being irreparable, no matter how long they try to drag it along and "make it work".
I've never had a girl cheat on me, but if I did I'd mark it up as a failure on my part, end the relationship and move on. I wouldn't be mad at the guy she cheated with either, unless it was one of my friends.
an affair in the relationship is most times due to a failure of both parties, whether you want to acknowledge it or not. If each party acknowledges their part and works to fix the issues... it can work.
while betrayal is always painful I'll never give someone the power to wound me that deeply ever again. I'll never invest that much emotional power into another relationship... I guess in a way that's sad, but when you find you're married to a serial adulterer (who continued the same ways with the next hubby too) and get divorced there's a loss of innocence that you'll never really regain.
If I find out about it the hard way, though, that loss of trust will probably be terminal to the relationship.
But the fact remains there was failure on both sides - and only one of them went looking.
an affair in the relationship is most times due to a failure of both parties, whether you want to acknowledge it or not. If each party acknowledges their part and works to fix the issues... it can work.
Or maybe your kids will get the idea that people make mistakes, and two people who love each other will try and work things out, even when there are problems.LT, there are a fair number of kids who parents manage to shield from the truth. They may know something is going on, but they won't know what. I didn't know until my mom took me on a drive when I was 16. The apartments by the high school. My dad's big old caddy parked out front. My world shattering. Oh. ... is that what "on call" means.
No, ma'am, not always.
I have found that there are some people that are just flat-out GOING TO CHEAT, no matter what. It does NOT matter how good you are to them; you can give them everything they ask and bust your ****s to do more, and they'll still cheat. Don't ask me why, 'cuz the only answer I have is "it appears to be their nature to always look for greener grass".
But I will definitely dispute that it is "always" a failure of both partners. That may be true in some cases, but not all by a long shot.
True. But again.... no one is perfect in a marriage. If I were to ignore my husband or just get caught up in the everyday of life and not want to have sex as much, or not talk like we used to...basically neglect our marriage... Does that make me any better than a spouse who cheats????
No, ma'am, not always.
I have found that there are some people that are just flat-out GOING TO CHEAT, no matter what. It does NOT matter how good you are to them; you can give them everything they ask and bust your ****s to do more, and they'll still cheat. Don't ask me why, 'cuz the only answer I have is "it appears to be their nature to always look for greener grass".
But I will definitely dispute that it is "always" a failure of both partners. That may be true in some cases, but not all by a long shot.
Or maybe your kids will get the idea that people make mistakes, and two people who love each other will try and work things out, even when there are problems.
That'd be somebody else's house. At that point, she'd already hated him for four years because of the incest.
Yes, I was mainly replying to Lews Therin's initial post on the subject.
No, ma'am, not always.
I have found that there are some people that are just flat-out GOING TO CHEAT, no matter what. It does NOT matter how good you are to them; you can give them everything they ask and bust your ****s to do more, and they'll still cheat. Don't ask me why, 'cuz the only answer I have is "it appears to be their nature to always look for greener grass".
But I will definitely dispute that it is "always" a failure of both partners. That may be true in some cases, but not all by a long shot.