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Do you sleep with your spouse?

Do you sleep with your spouse?

  • Sleep together most/all the time

    Votes: 27 87.1%
  • Sleep together usually, but not always

    Votes: 0 0.0%
  • Sleep together rarely/never

    Votes: 2 6.5%
  • Other

    Votes: 2 6.5%

  • Total voters
    31

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Just random thoughts made me think of this and look up some facts on it, so I figured I would check it out here.

1 in 4 married couples sleep in separate beds | Updated News
Twin Beds or Separate Rooms for Married Couples
More Married Couples Sleeping in Separate Beds: Study | NBC Philadelphia

Do you normally sleep (really sleep, not just have sex), at least 5-6 nights a week, with your spouse? Do you have separate rooms or beds if you don't normally sleep together?

For military guys, answer for when you are home. I understand really well what it is like to be away from home for months at a time. This is more about not sleeping with someone when you have the opportunity to do so.

My paternal grandparents slept in separate bedrooms of the same house my whole life. In fact, it was almost like they were roommates or brother and sister, rather than husband and wife, from the way they lived their separate lives but still got along. They rarely went anywhere together. Unlike the studies/stories in the links I posted, however, I'm pretty sure my grandparents were not sleeping separately due to the way either of them slept, but rather relationship issues that the sleeping arrangement helped to minimize.

I tease my husband sometimes about him loving the couch more than our bed, but I know that he just falls asleep there because our bed is upstairs and he is generally too tired to make the trip up after work and doesn't really want to miss whatever is going on downstairs, where the rest of us are. I would probably hate it if I couldn't sleep with my husband. That was one of the things I considered a wonderful bonus to marriage, I would have someone to sleep with more often than not.
 
My boyfriend and I are not married (obviously), but we've lived together for three years. We share a bed every night. Even on those "screw you, I'm sleeping on the couch" occasions, it doesn't last the whole night.
 
My boyfriend and I are not married (obviously), but we've lived together for three years. We share a bed every night. Even on those "screw you, I'm sleeping on the couch" occasions, it doesn't last the whole night.

Thank you. I wasn't really meaning to limit it to married couples alone, but didn't really think outside that idea til I was making the poll.

Anyone in a relationship, especially long term, feel free to answer as well.
 
Thank you. I wasn't really meaning to limit it to married couples alone, but didn't really think outside that idea til I was making the poll.

Anyone in a relationship, especially long term, feel free to answer as well.

I didn't feel excluded :) .

My parents slept separately for awhile before they divorced....really even before they had visible problems.
 
I didn't feel excluded :) .

My parents slept separately for awhile before they divorced....really even before they had visible problems.

My parents slept together up to the day my father left my mother. He had arranged to go help my grandmother out and wasn't planning on telling my mother that he was never coming back.

His parents never got divorced, despite a very rocky marriage. And I know in some way my grandmother loved my grandfather because his death was really hard on her. I don't know how my grandfather felt about my grandmother, but he at least felt enough to ensure she was taken care of to the best of his ability. Just not sure if it was done out of a sense of responsibility or actual love.
 
My parents haven't slept in the same bed, or even shared a kiss, for about 15 years or more. I dunno how they do it.
 
I have trouble sleeping if I don't feel the mattress tilt right if my wife isn't in the bed with me.
 
My boyfriend and I are not married (obviously), but we've lived together for three years. We share a bed every night. Even on those "screw you, I'm sleeping on the couch" occasions, it doesn't last the whole night.

Lucky guy!!
 
I'm singleton - and I kinda like it at this point in my life.

But my parents slept in different room (on different floors, even) for 5 or 6 years before they split. I can only recall seeing them show affection towards each other once in my life. I was 5 or so and my mother hugged and pecked my dad and I remember thinking it was odd, because I never saw them do that.

As you can guess, they didn't like each other. And everyone, including me, was much happier after they split.
 
I'm singleton - and I kinda like it at this point in my life.
But my parents slept in different room (on different floors, even) for 5 or 6 years before they split. I can only recall seeing them show affection towards each other once in my life. I was 5 or so and my mother hugged and pecked my dad and I remember thinking it was odd, because I never saw them do that.
As you can guess, they didn't like each other. And everyone, including me, was much happier after they split.

I was born in Minneapolis. Is there any chance I could be your father? Ha, ha................
 
My wife and I both have trouble sleeping alone after a day or two if one of us is out of town.
 
It would be somewhat hard to detach my hands at night.






















:mrgreen:
Or rather, the reattaching in the morning would be the issue...
 
I was born in Minneapolis. Is there any chance I could be your father? Ha, ha................

Lol. From what I know of your politics, you and my dad would kill each other on sight. I doubt it.

You seem to be implying that when my parents split, I was raised by a single mother. Sorry, but you've made a bad assumption. I was raised by a single father.
 
Lol. From what I know of your politics, you and my dad would kill each other on sight. I doubt it.
You seem to be implying that when my parents split, I was raised by a single mother. Sorry, but you've made a bad assumption. I was raised by a single father.

Just play'n, Sista. Just play'n.:2wave:
 
Just play'n, Sista. Just play'n.:2wave:

Heh, I know. Though I will say I would totally love to see you and my dad break it down. He's even more liberal than me.
 
Heh, I know. Though I will say I would totally love to see you and my dad break it down. He's even more liberal than me.

I probably would be, too, if I had stayed and played in MN. My mom packed me up in no time, however, and we split, for good. I flew through Minneapolis once, on a trip for Uncle Sam, in my early 40s. I said to the guys with me, "Hey, welcome to where I was born -- Minnesota." "Wow," they responded. "You're from here?"
 
Its been somewhat awhile since I've lived with a woman, and while there were nights where i wouldn't have minded the bed to myself :2razz: i couldnt imagine not sleeping with the person im with, it's something i look forward to and enjoy.
 
I probably would be, too, if I had stayed and played in MN. My mom packed me up in no time, however, and we split, for good. I flew through Minneapolis once, on a trip for Uncle Sam, in my early 40s. I said to the guys with me, "Hey, welcome to where I was born -- Minnesota." "Wow," they responded. "You're from here?"

Don't be so sure. Minnesota really isn't all that liberal, apart from the cities. And my dad isn't from MN. He's... well, he's not really from anywhere. The "nomad" part of my username is not a joke, and I seem to have inhereted it from my dad.

In fact, you'd probably fit in fine in the suburb I went to high school in. Half an hour from the city, but about as Evangelican conservative as it gets.
 
Don't be so sure. Minnesota really isn't all that liberal, apart from the cities. And my dad isn't from MN. He's... well, he's not really from anywhere. The "nomad" part of my username is not a joke, and I seem to have inhereted it from my dad. In fact, you'd probably fit in fine in the suburb I went to high school in. Half an hour from the city, but about as Evangelican conservative as it gets.

That's good to hear. I had written off MN as hopelessly Communist.
 
That's good to hear. I had written off MN as hopelessly Communist.

Sometimes I wonder if you know what communism actually is...

Anyway, I had a good time shaking things up on the paper and commentary. I started a protest. :D
 
Yes I do and have for years and will continue to do so.
 
My mom and dad did the separate beds thing for a while.

But immigrants from the old country don't get divorced. It's that simple.
 
I bet if you ask you'll find that there are many who have sleep with other peoples spouses as well.
 
My parents slept separately for awhile before they divorced....really even before they had visible problems.

My parents slept separately for years, just because my dad's snoring kept her awake all night. They were together right up until he died.
 
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