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Funerals are actually pretty happy things.
I've been playing around with this idea I've had stuck in my head for awhile. Suppose you are a normal person who has lived a normal life. Maybe you had some flaws but nothing major happened. Never went to jail, never divorced (or if you did it was mutual) What I'm getting at is that you didn't screw up and there were no scandals in your life. Nothing major or big fights happened right before you die. Or maybe you did screw up and there were scandals, but you still had people close to you who would love you no matter what. Yeah, you can be a b*tch or a loser and still have a great funeral!!!!
In theory, everyone that you've ever known gets to sit around you (dead person) and talking about all the good times they shared with you. There might be some snickering if something weird happened especially recently, but there's no judgement. There's no laundry list of your faults up on display. How you were a crappy person who doesn't deserve any of this "support." There's no judgement from your close friends and family for a long, long time. Maybe in hindsight a decade or so later you might wake up and say, "Why the heck was I ever friends with him?" Or "Why was my brother so weird?" But it's never in bad faith after they are dead.
Thoughts? My thinking is that we've saved that for the person after they die. Since most religions believe that there is some type of judgement after death. We don't need to do that at a funeral, so while people might be sad, it's a happy sadness. Especially if they were suffering in sickness.
I've been playing around with this idea I've had stuck in my head for awhile. Suppose you are a normal person who has lived a normal life. Maybe you had some flaws but nothing major happened. Never went to jail, never divorced (or if you did it was mutual) What I'm getting at is that you didn't screw up and there were no scandals in your life. Nothing major or big fights happened right before you die. Or maybe you did screw up and there were scandals, but you still had people close to you who would love you no matter what. Yeah, you can be a b*tch or a loser and still have a great funeral!!!!
In theory, everyone that you've ever known gets to sit around you (dead person) and talking about all the good times they shared with you. There might be some snickering if something weird happened especially recently, but there's no judgement. There's no laundry list of your faults up on display. How you were a crappy person who doesn't deserve any of this "support." There's no judgement from your close friends and family for a long, long time. Maybe in hindsight a decade or so later you might wake up and say, "Why the heck was I ever friends with him?" Or "Why was my brother so weird?" But it's never in bad faith after they are dead.
Thoughts? My thinking is that we've saved that for the person after they die. Since most religions believe that there is some type of judgement after death. We don't need to do that at a funeral, so while people might be sad, it's a happy sadness. Especially if they were suffering in sickness.