SmokeAndMirrors
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Maybe the problem is that we're only looking at some kinds of technological interaction. There are marriages that start with playing together in an online game. There are massive social networks that keep people in touch and help organize meetings and events. There's a lot more to it than a few tweets. I don't doubt the accuracy of your statistics, though I'd be curious about the idea that this is a new phenomenon. I think it's just manifesting differently. But either way, the idea that technological communication starts and ends with twitter is a very narrow view.
People build communities on forums like these, and while this one is a little oddball in its combative nature, there are online communities centered around comic book or anime convention circuits, and people build friendships (and start businesses) around those. Vast numbers of gatherings take place every day in every city organized through online event planners, with people who have never met each other sharing activities. I don't disagree that Twitter is a poor substitute for meaningful interaction, but if a study focuses only on Twitter or Facebook, it's missing a lot of what new technology has to offer in terms of creating, not reducing, social interaction. And even Twitter or Facebook can help a friendship survive a rocky or distant period. They might not keep a bond strong, but they can be very useful in reuniting people after a temporary geographical separation.
I tried not to make this post just out of my own experiences, but I personally know people who have done all the things I mentioned in it. I've done some of them. Probably you have, too.
But the studies I'm refering to don't refer to any particular method of interacting through technology. They're addressing the overall picture of people's lives: the amount of intimacy they have, and their own feelings of loneliness. It has nothing to do with Twitter or Facebook in particular. It has to do with everything, right down to how some people seem to think texting is a substitute for a meaningful face-to-face conversation.
It is a new phenomenon. The numbers have shifted dramatically just since the turn of the millenium. It's very clear what's causing it.
I don't disagree technology can be used to enhance social connection. I do that extensively since I've moved. In fact, the majority of the activities and people I've gotten involved with since I expatriated have been in some way kick-started by technology. It's today's replacement for the community bulletin board. Meetup is awesome.
But it seems that most people are using it as a way to avoid genuine interaction. Rather than using it as a springboard to meet people, they use it as a way to keep the people they know at arm's length. This is not some kind of hypothesis; this is how most people feel about their own relationships.
I myself found my life improved dramatically when I unplugged a bit: got rid of my smartphone (thus making the bible-length text an impossibility and severing me from all those infernal notifications), dropped most of my social profiles except a very basic and sparse Facebook, and started using the internet to find places and people with which to spend more time in the real world, not less.
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