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Is life better now that you're older (those over 40)?

JC Callender

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Is the quality of your life better now that you're older? Less drama, more wisdom....I'll be 45 this year and it's not so bad, actually pretty good!
 
JC Callender said:
Is the quality of your life better now that you're older? Less drama, more wisdom....I'll be 45 this year and it's not so bad, actually pretty good!
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Yes, IMO at 45 I think I was a conservative, now, a 50-50 ?
AKA "balance", I hope .Now, 75 and still kicking with aches and pains, doing things I should not be doing .
 
Absolutely, much happier and much better off in my late 40s than I ever was in my 20s or 30s.
 
Well, the money's better and the toys are better. I certainly don't have as much hair to wash. The chicks are still hot but what I used to think of as head games are probably now just early onset Alzheimer's. I do kind of miss hangovers lasting until maybe noon instead of all day and then some.
 
JC Callender said:
Is the quality of your life better now that you're older? Less drama, more wisdom....I'll be 45 this year and it's not so bad, actually pretty good!
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It is. As you get older you learn that all the drama was just BS. It's why real old people laugh so much.
 
JC Callender said:
Is the quality of your life better now that you're older? Less drama, more wisdom....I'll be 45 this year and it's not so bad, actually pretty good!
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Yes, by then you hopefully will have learned the two most important rules of a happy life:

Rule #1 - don't sweat the small stuff.

Rule #2 - it's all small stuff.
 
Is life better now that you're older (those over 40)?
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yes. more complicated in some ways, and more stressful in others, but i dig being me more each year. Mom tells me that this evolution continues, and i believe her, because my mom is supercool.
 
Thank you all for giving me hope, because if one's 20's is as good as it ever gets, I don't understand how everyone doesn't just die of coronaries at 30 from the stress. :lol:

Helix, you're over 40?? Damn, you got some killer genes, dude. I would have put you at early 30's from your Tavern pictures. You're not even gray at all, from what I can tell.
 
I would have to say , yes. life is better.

I retired at 53. Now nearing mid 60's. Its great to be paid to what I want to do.

Only downside is I can't do (physically what I used to do when I was younger).

Take care of body, plan for retirement, get out of debt as soon as you can, then save like mad to enjoy retirement.
 
It's all been good, even the stressful times. Don't know that I'd call it better now, just different. Life is about experiences and I'm onto different experiences now than when I was in my 20s and 30s.
 
SmokeAndMirrors said:
Thank you all for giving me hope, because if one's 20's is as good as it ever gets, I don't understand how everyone doesn't just die of coronaries at 30 from the stress. :lol:

Helix, you're over 40?? Damn, you got some killer genes, dude. I would have put you at early 30's from your Tavern pictures. You're not even gray at all, from what I can tell.
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mostly just my beard when i really grow it out. i turned 40 this past Halloween.

sunblock and being nocturnal works fairly well. i'm sure that i'll age quickly enough when i have a kiddo. i've heard that it is hard, but worth it.

i worried a bunch about turning 30, and didn't make that same mistake at 40. 30s were completely awesome. i have hope that my 40s will bring new and interesting adventures, too.
 
Well my 30s have been better than my 20s, so i hope so, because it's been damn hard and stressful so far.
 
earthworm said:
Yes, IMO at 45 I think I was a conservative, now, a 50-50 ?
AKA "balance", I hope .Now, 75 and still kicking with aches and pains, doing things I should not be doing .
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You're 75?!

Gosh. I hope I'm "doing things I should not be doing" when I'm 75. Which won't be for another 50 years ... :shock:
 
earthworm said:
Yes, IMO at 45 I think I was a conservative, now, a 50-50 ?
AKA "balance", I hope .Now, 75 and still kicking with aches and pains, doing things I should not be doing .
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As for doing things you should not be doing, I hope at least she's blonde.
 
JC Callender said:
Is the quality of your life better now that you're older? Less drama, more wisdom....I'll be 45 this year and it's not so bad, actually pretty good!
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Great question! You know, now that I think about it, life really is better now that I am older. It is actually even more exciting, now that I have the sense and experience to really see the world during my travels with an eye that I lacked in my younger years. Thanks for stimulating this reflection!
 
life is easier now in some ways

i dont worry about whether or not i will have enough in the checking account to pay bills

when we want to go on vacation, we go.....and the last thing we worry about is how much

but it is harder too in other ways

much more responsibility, especially to and for others

between my wife and i, we have over 300 employees that count on us to keep everything going

the stresses of being the boss are definitely there.....

and the largest one of those is always the people you surround yourself with

physical crap is harder.....we just moved.....downsized the house....closer commutes

moving is a BITCH later in life.....every box is heavier.....and muscles ache much more than in my 20's or 30's

happiness is holding our grandkid.....and watching him grow......

so to answer the OP.......yes mostly......
 
Life is supposed to get better with the years and that is why we learn to make the right decisions as they approach us. At 67 I have had five people I knew take their own lives and all before they were 40 years old. I always took life one way-If I was unhappy with something I split from it and quickly. I believe strongly in helping people because it helps me feel better about myself. I was "happy" (that word is subjective) as a kid and a little less happy as a teen but I think around age twenty I focused in to how I am going to live. Happiness in youth to me is directly related to home and family and it forms us in part to what we become later in life. Unhappy childhoods are very sad. One key to my life is understanding how fast life can turn for a person and being prepared for the bad turns is the key to strength. Grab what happiness you can and don't let friends or family sway you because in the end we all answer to ourselves and no one else.
 
ttwtt78640 said:
Yes, by then you hopefully will have learned the two most important rules of a happy life:

Rule #1 - don't sweat the small stuff.

Rule #2 - it's all small stuff.
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Don't sweat the petty stuff, and don't pet the sweaty stuff.
 
Yes, on the whole it is.


I think the main reason is that I make far fewer bad decisions; am more proactive about dealing with problems I see coming ahead; can more easily and accurately determine who is worth having in my life and who isn't and act accordingly, and so forth. Basically, seeing trouble coming early and either avoiding it or dealing with it before it becomes a major problem.

Far less self-inflicted pain, and better at not letting toxic people get close enough to make trouble.



Applied experience, mostly.
 
My life is better in some ways- worse in others. Worse in that I am now feeling my age when I awaken in the morning.
Better in that in spite of some tragedies in my life, I seem to be picking up the pieces, shuffling some of them around, throwing away others, picking up some new ones, and moving in a new direction, and it's been good for me psychologically.
 
I guess I must be still waiting for that "less drama" part of life, and I just turned 60 in November.

I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing as I had more or less settled into a stupor during my 30 years if marriage which was about 15 years too long, and so I have had a wake up call that has forced me to reexamine.
 
Gardener said:
I guess I must be still waiting for that "less drama" part of life, and I just turned 60 in November.

I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing as I had more or less settled into a stupor during my 30 years if marriage which was about 15 years too long, and so I have had a wake up call that has forced me to reexamine.
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I have let people in need move in with me on several occasions , just to kick myself out of my rut.
 
JC Callender said:
Is the quality of your life better now that you're older? Less drama, more wisdom....I'll be 45 this year and it's not so bad, actually pretty good!
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Much more wisdom, much more job security based on career skills. Nice 401(k), and all that. And, I still feel like I'm in my 20's. Lots of good life ahead. Not sweating much on the cost of things anymore, though I have a good 20 more years of work in me. I need to travel more, got into a rut lately, I fly free, but I work a lot, hard to get more than a 4 day weekend. Save your money, invest your money, pay off the mortgage.
 
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